i wanted to tell him of how i enjoyed my doctor's visit but he didn't seem to care, i wanted to also tell him that i was in bad condition because of insecurity about myself but the doctors really helped me and made me feel at home. they told me to go into cousouling because i have no one to talk to, i wanted to tell him but he says that doctors are full of it. i said that it wasn't true and he wants me to eat junk food to get fatter but i don't want that i want to be healthy but he doesn't listen and this is the only problem i'm facing. do i just ignore him, i want to talk with him not a counsouler but he doesn't get it, i just need him to talk to. :(
2007-02-08 16:02:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maek sure he's not ignoring you when you dump him. He has to get that message clearly.
2007-02-08 16:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to continue a relationship with someone who is so lacking in empathy for his girlfriend.
Ask yourself why do you have a man in your life anyway?
Is it so he can be supportive, & caring, & nurturing? Or is it so he can be selfish, controlling, & running his own agenda with you?
You need support & validation in your life, & this guy appears to be incapable of offering that for you, so don't even try to seek it from him.
Take your doctors advice & go to a councellor. A councellor can help you explore yourself, & gain some insight as to why you settle for such a selfish man to take on the role of your boyfriend, as well as the other things that contribute to the other areas you said that you want to change.
It is little wonder that you felt good after your doctors visit. For once you were exposed to someone who showed a little concern for YOU, & your well being. If you are counting on that from your boyfriend, you may be in for a long wait.
So what should you do? I am not asking you to replace your own good judgement with mine, but I think you can do yourself a big favour by starting a quest of self discovery. You do that by turning to yourself for caring & support, & not looking for it from people who obviously couldn't care less about you.
I think seeing a councellor is one of the most caring things a person can do for themselves. You know that good feeling you got after you saw your doctor? Well I predict that there will be more of those good feelings after you talk to a really good councellor.
2007-02-09 00:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a selfish ***. He has no interest in your feelings or well-being; he probably likes your insecurity and loneliness because it makes you more dependent on him and he can treat you like crap and get away with it. He knows a counselor will tell you "your boyfriend is poison, get away from him" so of course he tells you not to go and refuses to go with you. I wish I knew why so many women stay with guys who treat them badly, analyzing, rationalizing and making excuses instead of just realizing he's a jerk who doesn't love them.
2007-02-09 00:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to take the time to care for you, it seems to me like he doesn't care about the relationship at all because if he did then he would be more open to talking things out. If I were you I would say good bye to your "boyfriend" and say hello to cousling and making a better life for yourself...sometimes in life you have to take care of yourself because no one else will...good luck!
2007-02-09 00:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jane_Doe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to talk to someone who obviously doesn't care? He put you down. No go see a prefessional. Someone who will really listen to you. Also, get rid of that person who doesn't have time for you. You will be better off for it.
2007-02-09 00:08:22 · answer #5 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your past or history but he does not seem supportive at all. Sit him down and make him listen to you and if he isnt sensitive to your problems then maybe you don't need someone like him bringing you down when you are trying to bring yourself up.
2007-02-09 00:07:17 · answer #6 · answered by illbtrue816 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. seriously, even if you may be in love or something, he doesnt seem to care about you. hes ignoring you, and telling you to eat more unhealthy foods. that doesnt seem like a person that cares enough for you.
2007-02-09 00:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say goodbye. He had you by the bull;s horns. I suggest you find another bf (or stop dating for now until you feel self-confident again). This guy is a loser and you need him gone.
2007-02-09 00:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by n9wff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys are too numb to understand or realize what you are trying to tell them. tell him directly what you want. hopefully you can get a good response. otherwise get another BF
2007-02-09 00:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a guy they dont care unless it involves them it doesnt mean he doesnt love you he just doesnt want to hear the details
2007-02-09 00:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by stunt101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋