My girlfriend is currently headed off too college next year, and the drive is an hour and a half. She wants me to break up with her because she doesn't think it will last. All of our "desires", both physical and mental cant be met because of the distance. I keep telling her we'll be fine, but I don't think she's strong enough to believe that. She is dead set on being friends (with possible benefits) during the time she's gone to college and wants us to get back together when shes back in town and after college. I am running out of ideas of things to tell her. She wants me to continue life without her and date other people and such, but I don't think I can because I love her so much. And the drive doesn't bother me at all, but it bothers her a little bit. Can anyone offer advice?
2007-02-08 15:54:40 · 6 answers · asked by thesatsui 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let her go. She wants to go to college without the worry of you. You need to face that fact. She has told you what you want to hear. "WHEN she comes back from college..." I vote for letting her go.
2007-02-08 16:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to be committed to you then there is nothing you can do but let her go. Its the best thing to do for both of you. You can take the benefits thing if it works for both of you but most of the time it complicates friendships. Take the friendship and be happy with that. She wants space so you have to let go. If its meant to happen it will in time don't worry. But don't just sit around and wait on her your young live alittle you'll be glad you did when your older.
2007-02-08 16:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dereck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you going to college to?if not and you really love this girl you might want to consider relocating to where she will be.other than that just keep reassureing her that she is the only one that you want and you will keep making the trip as long as she is there because you love her that much and she is a big part of your life and then maby she will understand. good luck
2007-02-08 16:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
prepare yourself for the reality that she wants to go on to the next phase of her life (college) with a clean slate......college is suppose to be the greatest years of your life and it seems she wants to experience that rightly so....so i think you should take her advice and date other people.......this is her chance to prove her independence and with you hanging around she doesnt feel she could do it.
2007-02-08 16:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by fox mulder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude sounds like she wants other people. sorry. maybe just keep driving up their and collect on the benefits and see how it works. maybe she will miss you too once she is up their.
2007-02-08 16:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by stunt101 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you love her let her go.....if you really love someone u can let them go
2007-02-08 16:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋