is this normal for a 1 year old?

Question

my nephew is 1 and he already bites people and hits people (like me) and throws tantrums and hits things.i never knew a 1 year old could get like this is it normal????
is he gona be worse when he gets older?

Answer 1

"It's normal because that is what is being taught to him. Seriously, children are not born that way, we are all the product of our parents. The parents are the cause of his bad behaviour and unless his parents change their tactics he might stay that way since that's all he'd ever know. "

I think that is seriously the worst answer I've ever read in my life! And so not true either!

My son had tantrums and bit people and hit people. It's called CHILDHOOD and no single child is born into this world knowing right from wrong. I NEVER bit my child or hit my child and DID NOT condone this behavior.

He'll grow out of it, trust me. Some children are just more vocal and willful than others. It doesn't mean anything is wrong with him.

Ignore that first idiot, he/she/it is obviously not a parent. I am!

Answer 2

It will get MUCH worse when he gets older if it is not stopped now. Every child is different, but most throw temper tantrums between 1 and 5 years. The best way to deal with those is to tell him that when he's ready to use his words you'll talk with him...and then WALK AWAY, don't return until the tantrum is done. If you stay there for any reason, it's reinforcement..even if you're yelling at him.
I've heard of people going two ways on the biting/hitting thing. One way is to bite, hit the child back so they are aware of what they're doing. If you're not into that, I'm a strong believer in time outs...straight to their room, and NO going out for the rest of the day, even if it's an inconvenience for you.
Bottom line, even though it's not your child...you teach people how to treat you. If the parents won't 'parent' their child to stop this, you can let everyone know (especially the child) that you're not going to put up with that crap.
Best of luck with it

Answer 3

Yeah. My son did this too. It was really hard to get him to stop biting! It is important to be consistent with him, and let him know that his behavior is unacceptable. Time outs work even with small kids. And 1-2-3 magic works too (even though my mom thinks I'm on glue, it DOES work).

Part of the problem is that he is too little to verbalize his thoughts and feelings and is frustrated. Look him in the eye and ask him to use his words. Get down on his level. Sometimes you have to redirect him from a bad or inappropriate activity. Part of the problem is that at his age he is the center of the universe and the master and commander of all he sees...or so he thinks.

He will only be worse if he doesn't have caring people to set an example and guide him. Discipline works this way:
1. Explain the inappropriate behavior
2. Reinforce the expected behavior
3. Time-out or whatever consequense is called for
4. Finish this by expressing your love and telling him how proud you are of him for some good thing he's done, and how "we're going to try harder next time to .... instead of ...., right?"
As I have done this stuff with my son, he has gotten a lot better.
This is a bit over his head right now, but not much. And the sooner parents start, the better they get at it.

Answer 4

NEVER NEVER NEVER bite a child. One of the worst things there is is the human bite and an adult who bites a child back for biting is guilty of child abuse. Part of the "problem" is the child is going through "the terrible twos"...which can start as young as 10 months and go on until kindergarten (or in most cases the teen years!). The best way to take care of the biting is to remove the child from being around anyone. invest in a child gate and put it in the doorway of the child's room. When the child starts throwing a tantrum put the child in the bedroom. It is not necessary to resort to physical violence in order to discipline a child. All that does is prove that the parent lacks the intellgence as well as education and common sense to parent effectively. Apes bite and hit their young, and I've never heard of an Ape being a member of Mensa. Of course alot of your your nephew is doing can also be a learned behavior...who hits and bites in the home or who is watching that sort of thing on television at times when the child is exposed to it?

Answer 5

My son was like this and we were very gentle with him and used proper discipline techniques but he just didn't seem to understand his own strength and would get frustrated because he couldn't everything for himself or have his way. He did pick up some bad behaviors from his cousin like biting and hitting but I limited his contact with him and we were still having problems. At 2 1/2 years of age he was diagnosed with Sensory Integration Dysfunction. My son needs a strong amount of input to feel normal, like jumping, running, biting and pretty much doing everything at full force. I have found when he has his tantrums, the best thing for him is to put my forearms under his arm pits and jump him up and down...sounds crazy but it works. You might try that and see if the tantrum stops...make it seem like you are playing and say "well then, I will bounce you" in a happy tone of voice. He may need the redirection into a happy thing or the input of his feet hitting the floor. It may sound like voodoo or something but it works for us. I do think he would benefit from early childhood intervention services but I don't think your brother or sister will want to hear that from you. Do some research on Sensory Integration Dysfunction and find tips on how to handle situations and try some of the simple techniques while mom or dad are around and see if they work and maybe they will start doing those techniques too. Good luck!

Answer 6

My friend had the same problem and took her son to a child psychologist it was so bad. She was advised to take the child home as soon as the inappropriate behaviour started. This meant that she could just arrive somewhere and if her son bit or hit someone they would have to go and get back in the car and go home. If she was shopping or anywhere. He soon got the message that biting meant staying at home, usually in his room for a while. It is a good idea to try and do something about the problem now as it could make your nephew very unpopular when he starts going to playgroup or pre-school or interacting with other kids. No parent likes their child being bitten! Good Luck

Answer 7

I am a mother of three girls, sixteen, three, and two. My oldest and youngest were biters. Biting is quite common among toddlers. So are tantrums. He is just at an age where he wants to control things. I would never suggest biting a child. I always told my girls no very sternly and eventually they stopped. The youngest one stopped after about a month. Consistency is very important with discipline. I would suggest buying the parents the book, What to expect: The toddler years. It is a great book,it covers every thing from discipline to developmental stages to medical. I also do not believe that he is acting that way because he is learning it from his parents. And as far as my girls are concerned my oldest was a biter but now she is a gentle caring sixteen year old who I am very proud of, she is not a thug just because she was a biter when she was three.

Answer 8

Some children do go through this stage, but need to be told that it is not alright. A firm no and then maybe putting the child in a very short time out should help. Even at one year old they really shouldnt get away with it as it is bad enough if they are biting adults, but it becomes a real problem on play dates with other kids when your child is a biter.

Answer 9

It is his way of getting attention. This behavoir needs to be ignored or he will get worse. The behavoir is fairly normal because he gets attention for doing it. When he starts doing it put him in a crib or playpen for 5 minutes. Do not pick him up or do anything to confort him. Do look in on him only after 5 minutes have passed. Then show up and let him know you are there. Do this 3 times and then extend it to 10 minutes for 3 times. Then extend it to 15 minutes. Only after he is really and truly settled down do you let him out. and it takes at least getting to the 15 minute point. Of course you must be sure that he is well fed and had plenty of milk and fluids before you begin this procesess.
I am not a doctor or anything and maybe that is where you need to go for starts.

Answer 10

It is definitely normal... my 15 month old has been doing all that and more! She even, at 10 months, learned the word "eyeball", don't ask me where because I would teach her mouth, nose, eyes... you know. Anyway , this was her thing for a while and she would always poke anyone in the eye if they got close enough and yell out "eyebah!" So funny. Anyway, every kid is different and yet they all go through the same sort of stages, (hitting, biting, pinching, etc.) but some at different times than others. My 15 month old is there! Yay for me!