Sexual Monogamy Forever?

Question

My boyfriend (who is 24) of almost a year mentioned to me (I am 22) last night that our sexual chemistry together is off the charts, and I agreed, stating that it was a wonderful complement to the other great parts of our relationship, and he agreed with me.

Then, he looked me straight in the eye, pulled my face toward his, and said really seriously and softly, "I can see myself having sex with, and only you, for the rest of my life."

Of course, I thought this was incredibly sweet and romantic, and I would never question his sincerity. I suppose my question, then, is:

Does this imply anything? From what I know, for most men, it is a HUGE wall to overcome, realizing that if they marry a woman, they will not be having sex with anyone but her for the rest of their lives. Thus, I am curious, is this a sign that he is considering something a bit more serious (ie: proposing?) for our relationship?

Constructive advice is very much appreciated!

Answer 1

it sounds like he's getting pretty serious...feel him out a bit more, and best of luck!

Answer 2

Ok. Here is the constructive advice. If you are already having a sexual relationship, what is the purpose of marriage?
Sex is very intimate and there is a great transference of DNA.
He is 24 and if he had an older woman, it would be way off the charts!
Perhaps you will have to get the answer form the best person who can tell you what he means-your boy friend.
Constructive advice again-sexual chemistry is not only reason you should consider marriage. Some men are not able to perform in later life, due to vessel issues or other medical conditions. I this happens to be your case and you have based your relationship on sexual compatibility, you ware headed to no where.
Get your answer from him and consider other factors that you have that makes you qualify for long time marriage partners!
Good luck and I hope it works out!

Answer 3

If you had only been dating a week or two it would sound like a line to get you into bed but since you've been dating nearly a year I think it's safe to assume that he's thinking of keeping you. My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years and we are best friends and more in love now than when we got married. We discussed our expectations before we got married and we both felt the same about monogamy. 1 strike and you're out for cheating. No exceptions. It's never been an issue for either of us though because we love and respect each other so much and truly enjoy each other's company. This is important because we are growing together rather than apart. Good news for the fidelity issue. I don't think monogamy is impossible and in fact, is more common than you think. Remember, if the statistics say 50 to 70 percent, (depending on your gender), cheat, there's still 30 to 50 percent who are faithful. It sounds like you doubt men's ability to remain faithful and monogamous. They can be and you'll know better than anyone if your sweetheart has the integrity, morals, ethics and character necessary to an honest, monogamous relationship. Good luck to you and your prince.

Answer 4

I would say that you're statement about the monogamy thing being difficult for a lot of guys, but I know a huge amount who don't have a problem with it. The whole 'true love waits' phenom. but I would say it sounds good for you! he sounds really serious, and thats bodes well for your relationship, because if he's promising that, I would take it as he implies that he will be faithful to you not only sexually, but in relationships and emotionally too. Test the waters yourself a little bit. :)

Answer 5

Monogamy, is for people who make that choice to have a stronghold in these stormy times... We're on the brink of forever.That's maibe in the making, but I might not be for old accidental damage. I don't worry about such things. These questions about Love's Ways that are infinite.... Young people need to know, that a relationship is a way of life.. There will always be people who don't see eye to eye, with only 1 bed partner... Only for mindless sex, with countless doormats ???? Damn you, your sicknessess shall not go unnoticed. But warm relationship between two people . that encourages both partners, to act out of love, can also mean leaving eachother free to make such choices as to have another lover, besides wife or husband....
but it should be a free thing I believe.. My first husbnd wasn't, neither was I, my second slept around, not me. My third a choice as single mum, he was in thought really unfaithfull as well as impotent after some time . I became widowed, and I'm with the guy I once fell for, but only had platonical friendship with for 25 yrs...Besides, we only used to see eachother once in blue moon.... He ws somewhat of an idol when we were young... And I didn't wnt to be one of the many girls at the time. I refused to be his lover ..... He changed after meeting me

We're very close and hot... For the moment I can't see either of us falling for someone else., or the context ..but I'd know if E would be atracted to someone else. He's so lovable.. Our friendship very deep and together we're quite a live databank for live wires in a network full of AI's so we don't meet people to fall in love with, we have lovers of total different kind nd we'd love give a body to.

Answer 6

More or less thats what it means. If I said that to a girl It would be because I was letting her know how serious I am about her and how I wasn't interested in being with other girls, just her. Doesn't necessarily mean he is going to propose to u tmrw or anything, but just that he's all about u.

Answer 7

I don't know what to say. Sexual fidelity wasn't such an issue when I got married- we just assumed that was part of the deal, so we didn't question it. It was a given. My husband didn't find it such a huge wall.

Answer 8

I don't understand why commitment and monogamy is such a huge deal and a problem for men to overcome, it's never even occurred to me to think of anything else but to be faithful.

Answer 9

dont look too much into it and overanalyze it. you;ll only end up being disappointed. just take it as it is, and dont think he;ll propose or anything. girls tend to overanalyze guys actions/reactions to things, and it only leads to disappointment and trouble. also your boyfriend is very young and may not realize how serious a comment like that is to a young impressionable girl.

Answer 10

It appears that something major is in your future together.

Look at it like this: he could have continued to have sex with you and not said a word, instead he chose to say something pretty deep & meaningful.

Don't press him to say more, when he is ready, he will.

Be patient.

Hope this helps!