I need help please?? I called mye x several times and left him messages, because he is too much of a?

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coward to answer the phone and confront me. I found out he lied to me and found out little by little the truth about all his lies. Today, I found out the worst one. I called him and his voice mail answered so I left him a message that his act was up and I found out the truth about him and what he is all about. Well, I got an email, telling me he filed a harassment report against me to my city police dept. He lives in NY. I live in another state. First may he be lieing? Can he file a complaint with my police dept. Shouldnt he have to file one in his own city?Also, he said he called it in..I dodon't you have to file a complaint in person? I cant believe this coward has sunk this low. I know you must be saying let it go, but he put me thru much mental abuse that I cant do anything about. So I figured I would find out the truth on my own and I did.The only thing I wanted was for him to be aware I know everything and I really wanted him to confront me.But he won't. What should I do

Answer 1

O.K., now he knows. Do yourself a favor, Oh you already have, YOU BUSTED HIM!!, AND NOW you don't have to worry about anything He does. anyway, I wouldn't worry myself any longer, although I would like to know, Why are you letting HIM get the satisfaction of knowing He has you as upset as you are, and the last laugh.

Answer 2

First, calm down. The email you received stated that he filed a complaint with your local police. So what? I could contact your local police and tell them that your dog is thinking bad thoughts about me, or that the sky is actually green... Anyone can call the police and whine about anything.

You need to consider three things: (1) A complaint to a police department is very different from a court order prohibiting you from contacting an individual, however, (2) Repeated phone calls to that individual could eventually (although rarely) lead to criminal harassment charges against you, but there must be concrete evidence (usually in the form of recordings); and (3) Why are you wasting your time contacting this person and then worrying about it after you do it? Just don't contact him anymore.

Answer 3

Situations that are serious should not be dealt with over the phone, resolves nothing. My ex did what you did(it was very scary to me and I feared for my safety) and I was told it was harassment and stalking.He can call law enforcement on you,after all he has the evidence recorded.( he can also call the phone company and let them know this is going on)
Don't know what the lies were , but if he has done so much damage to your relationship, he is no man you want in your life.
It may hurt, but leave him in New York, the further the better.
Chin Up Chic,Better things out there for you!!

Answer 4

He is an ex? It sounds like you still have feelings for the man. Ignore him and leave him alone. Who gives a rat's a$$ if he is a liar. That is why you broke up with him. Yes he can phone in a complaint and to your city. What can the police in New York do to you. Telephone harassment could land you in jail for up to 6 months if you are not careful.

When you kick someone to the curb leave them on the dern curb don't go back and invite them back in your life by calling them all the time

Answer 5

First of all, stop calling him. In order for it to be harrasment, he has to first tell you not to call. If you called after he told you not to, then he has valid reason to file a complaint against you.

If you live in another state, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Neither state has jurisdiction to charge you.

Now he knows you know the truth, so let it be.

Answer 6

Why do you want him to confront you? Sure he's coward, a liar and all sorts of other bad stuff. Be glad you are rid of him! Getting mad at him will only bring you down to his level.

BTW, a harrassment complaint is no big deal, our neighbor pointed a shotgun at us among other things, and the cops/judges didn't give a crap.

Answer 7

let by gone be by gone,its not worthy..his not worthy...they cant do anything to you unless you want the trouble to be on you.stop calling him,stop everything that your doing,its proving to him that you are nothing without him,do you want that scumbag seeing you like that?do you want him to have power over that?so what if in the past he's abused you mentally.your still standing arent you?ask him to log more report on you.the cop will end up booking him for falsified accusation...

Answer 8

Dont' worry about it. Even if he did file a harrassment, the cops arn't going to be that worried about it becuase they are more worried about murderers and drug dealers than a girlfriend who is calling her ex-boyfriend and leaving him messeges. It will pass. Your not in the wrong

Answer 9

Do yourself a favor and just drop it. And, yes, what you are doing is harassing him. He is obviously loser and you don't need him. Who cares what he did or said..he doesn't want to see you anymore and, believe me, YOU DON'T NEED HIM. Don't get yourself in trouble by continuing to harass.

Answer 10

You are just going to have to move on and try to put your experience with him behind you. Sometimes there is nothing more you can do. Work on healing yourself. Good luck to you.