i'm about to graduate from high school and plan to start college in fall, we have been dating for 1 year and 3 months. he a really nice guy and i love him with all my heart. my parents like him and hes always been good to me. i'm just worried that i maybe too young. its not like we'll be married as soon as he asks but thats a big step we dont even live toegther now.
2007-02-08 15:15:46 · 45 answers · asked by STACEY H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im already in college at my school there is dual credit so i take college classes while in still in high school so i already have the college experience. he already graduated. i'm actually almost a freshman --in fall i will just officially in only in college so its weird.
2007-02-08 15:26:27 · update #1
grow up a bit..................see the world around u in college or university............then decide something..............only love cant let u survive in world..............u need something else from ur marriage and that is financial security..................
Su ppose u get married and have kids later .....but no monay.....then with what will u feed ur baby................just love??????????????
so first let him be financially independent......then decide something.....if u know what i mean.........
2007-02-08 15:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by summeravi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are making a very BIG mistake. You are only at the beginning of you life. There is know way that you are sure that this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. For one, your taste in men are going to change. What you like right now will not be so in the near future.
I made this very same mistake many years ago and YES, I have lived to regret it. The only reason I didn't walk out of the relationship was because I had children in the marriage. The true thing I hate is that I gave up my youth for this man. And there is no getting those year back. If you feel you really love him then put it off for at least 1 year while you are in college. If you still feel you want to get married then go for it. But please take time to see what else is out there.
2007-02-08 15:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on... you are way too young to get married. I cannot believe that your mom approves of this relationship. You need to finish school, and do some growing up before you even think about getting married. And, if a 24 year old man is dating a 16 year old girl, then he's got some real problems.
2016-05-23 23:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did this when I was your age. I was 18 and my fiance was 25. After graduation H.S. I gather different views than when I was in H.S. You think that being smothered, not working, relaying on him to take care of you and not really having to be independent is good. GUESS WHAT YOUR WRONG !!!! What happens is that when you decide to become an individual and go progress to finding a career he will become jealous and angry. Eventually by the time your 21 yrs. old you will have a whole different attitude then you did when 17. We tend to get older and have different views of our life. A couple pieces of advice I will give you that I hope you will take with you for the rest of your life is :
1. If he tries to hinder you more than help you in you life goals (college, career, ) watch out
2. Always keep a separate bank account just in case he wants to put your a** out for another woman.
3. Even though you feel as if your a women your not your still a teenage (DONT GET OFFENDED) and your youth and innocence is a precious gift. Don't be robbed of it cuz he's been there and done things that you haven't even done yet remember he is 7yrs older.
2007-02-08 15:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
Just 1 year is too short for a life-time commitment.
I would say finish college first then do whatever the hell you want. If you don't have college to support yourself and him, you might as well find a new cardboard box to live in.
He also seems like a great guy. Make sure he finds a good job with a great salary.
2007-02-08 15:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by Pristine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really truly love him, why should you have to ask people whether you should marry him or not. If you want my opinion, YES 17 is waaaaaaaaaay too young. I'm almost 17 and I have a boyfriend who is 19, I would like to spend the rest of my life with him but I would also like to accomplish my goals first you know? Follow your heart, but if he does ask you and you say yes, make sure ya'll are married quite a few years down the road. I would also like to make the suggestion that you wait until you are considered an adult too.
2007-02-08 15:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by ibleedorange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NONONONONONONONONO!!!!!!! GOD NO! You are way too young. Move in with him, live with him, have safe sex with him, shack up with him... anything but marry him. If you are right for each other and stil getting along great in 5-7 years, then you can start to consider marriage but not until then, and you will have all that friendship and experience and memories to build a great long-term relationship on. You are way too young and so is he! Wait until you are togethr for at least six years or you are 24, that is the first age you should ever consider making a huge decision like marriage!
2007-02-08 15:21:34 · answer #7 · answered by drjen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not rush into anything like that. Really one year is too early anyways. I would finish school, and go to college. If your going to get married then you have to be thinking about having a family also. Are you prepared to have kids, and raise "your" kids? You need to be thinking about what's right. If ya'll truly love each other there's no reason why you can't wait for a while. Good luck on your decision :)
2007-02-08 15:23:16 · answer #8 · answered by Betty B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many things to consider before marrying, but your 7-year age difference is not one of them unless it bothers either you or him. Would you be asking this question if you were 31 and he was 38? My wife was 32, and I was 51 when we met over 5 years ago. Age has never been an issue, since I plan to live to more than 100 now that I have my soulmate to share my life.
2007-02-08 15:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by arizona wolfman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't jump into something like that. You're right, you are way too young to be even thinking about marrige!! It's good you are planning on college, but who wants to meet new people and go to parties (Major parts of the experience) when they're married.?. Wait.. if you both love each other there's no reason to rush in to it.
2007-02-08 15:22:25 · answer #10 · answered by js 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you are too young just because you been together for over a year doesnt mean anything if your really serious about this then move in together first and maybe a year later get engaged and then wait another year or more to get married by then you will be 21 and you will truely know that hes the one you want to spend your whole life together!!
2007-02-08 15:25:11 · answer #11 · answered by Joanna G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋