My boyfriend and I love each other very much. We were together for 2 1/2 years, broke up for one, and just got back together. We are taking things slow, but we do have a good relationship. We laugh together, have a great time, and can be completely honest and upfront with each other. He is my best friend.
The problem: we want different things. We are both in our late twenties and still a bit confused about what we want in life. The thing is, I want to get married (someday) and he doesn't know if he wants to get married. I want kids (someday), he doesn't know if he does (he used to want them). We are both Catholic, but he doesn't want to practice Catholism. He won't even go to church, but still prays and believes in a higher power.
I am an independant person (ie. I like to go to church myself) but feel like we are on two different paths.
Can love be enough of a foundation to help everything else come together? Will we make it? We hope so
2007-02-08 15:08:32 · 10 answers · asked by BJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not everything works in even the most closest bond between two lovers..you must remember that..everyone is different and have different views on things..you guys have to talk face to face about compromises and what you two want..both of you will have to give up some things and gain others..love is about give and take..if the two of you have exchanged hearts then exchanging views is also important...explain to him that there are things that you want..and he will have to accept as well as you having to accept some of his desires...try having an honest and upfront discussion as you said..and if he loves you and is committed to you..then he will understand your needs and that will boost the longevity of your relationship..best of luck
2007-02-08 15:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tidus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself. You are an independent person. Why can't he be. You have been together for so long. You know each other very well by now. Can you accept him for who he is now? I am not seeing it if you have to ask. Your questioning your insecurities, and only you know those answers. You cant make him do anything he doesn't want to. Just like he cant do that to you. Will you make it, Maybe with a lot of hard work. A lot of compromises.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 15:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are about compromise. No two people believe the exact same thing. You two should sit down together and talk about all this. Talk about marrage and children and religious beliefs. Try to come to some sort of agreement. But if you two really love each other things should work out for the better.
2007-02-08 15:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by unreal_punk_rocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have honesty then you dont have nothang. You have to be up front with each other or you will go thew life with a lie you dont want that. And two people with differnt views will have problems in life, love is not the only thing that can keep people together
2007-02-08 15:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by ebabybrown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its all about compromise. if he can't work with you and you can't work with him than its not going to work. give him more time on the marriage and having kids thing he might change. let those 2 things come naturally. the other issues you and him are having can be worked on if you both want to stay together.
2007-02-08 15:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Blake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are truly in love with other than focus on that. Everything else will takes it place along the line. Love will help you though anything and will only get stronger.
2007-02-08 17:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Beav 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you have to want the same future. You dont want to be with someone hoping for more than he will ever give. Maybe you should talk to your bf and ask where he wants this relationship to go. That might answer your question.
2007-02-08 15:13:52 · answer #7 · answered by msX 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can work out if you talk to each other and work on things and meet in the middle
2007-02-08 15:13:50 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best Answer
SAME OLD S H I T, Different Couple. You know damn well that you like playing these games with your boyfriend. Drama builds character in a relationship and gives you something to talk about with your friends & family. YOU KNOW YOU LIKE IT.
2007-02-08 15:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Its possible...butr seek some help thru your church....that will help a lot
wish both of u good luck
2007-02-08 15:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by DON 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋