me and my ex-girlfriend broke up about a month ago. after the break up she ended up doing something with someone else and i've seen her text messages which all got me VERY upset. i know we're not together but she wants us to be if only i can get rid of my jealous ways and not be mean to her. i'm having second thouhgts about trying to work things out with her cause all she wants to do is hang out with her friends and i'm not all about that. deep down inside me i don't trust her, i feel like all she is feeding me are lies. i don't know what to do or what to think. i know valentine's day is coming up and she wanted us to spend that day together but i'm also having second thoughts about that. am i thinking too much on what she did and the texts she wrote? i know for sure i'm going to tell her how i feel and the whole valentine's day thing we can't do cause i don't feel like what we have or building is sincere.
2007-02-08 15:08:08 · 13 answers · asked by Blake 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When something like this happens it is so hard to overcome it. I have been in similar situations. It is so hard to move on and I know you are asking yourself....do I need to stay or go on with my life? This girl apparently does not know what she wants. It sounds as if you are more mature than her....trust is something that should be vauled and not broken. If you stay with her, you probably will question every move she makes....it will and does have a affect on a relationship. Once the trust is broken it is so hard to overcome...I did this to myex boyfriend 5 years ago and to this day he still holds something against me. We try to talk and work things out, but we always in up fighting. Don't let your heart and emotions consume you....sometimes you need to go with what you think is best! Good luck and be happy to know that you are better than her!
2007-02-08 15:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by dont worry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
valentine day..... My o My.... Valentine is actually for singles, seeking a partner. and not an Ex? I don't want to interfere, but you've already said it:"you do not trust her."....Many times have I caught a wee bit of Oprah.... and her saying about our intuition:"Gut."....Inside you it should feel right...When it doesn't sit right there, make a 180 , and get the hell away from her. She's too young for commitment yet, and you sound, like you are past that.... You are in your nesting phase young man... When you find the One.... I take it your jealousy will not spoil...She's The One after all... and what's more...You'll be The One to her... Tell your ex.... sincerity... your word has good sound .no trust is no good see?
2007-02-08 23:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by arnhems_wonder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered your question over and over again. If you don't trust her, then you shouldn't go on with this. It sounds like she wants her cake and eat it too. I say move on with your life, find someone you can trust. Also, I don't think if you don't want to be with this girl, you should spend Valentine's Day with her. In a way that would be giving mixed signals. Do what is in your heart.
2007-02-08 23:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are allot of real hard boiled, young girls out there that just don't want the same things guys want, they are nice they are this and that but, guys are looking for a commitment kinda of girls and they just are in the mood a a group that understands guys, they want this "my space and that means that allot of them don't have the home life that can have a boy friend either" for all that the world looks normal there are a million and a half new pieces of predators out there, girls don't want babies they take freedom away From their lives, they don't want to get married it takes their abilities to be open to the future away from them, all things hinge on your net worth maybe, the guys with bucks are always the winners and the nice guys end up patching up craters in love lives they could never have, they feelings that are the most deadly to deal with are jealousies and if u do tell her off and split it will open the other half of your feelings that you couldn't put your finger on til you got over being upset, kinda damned if you do and damned if you don't
2007-02-08 23:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not faithful to you and calling you are too jealous & mean? It's just not right...! There's plenty of girls other than her, look for someone who is more better than her, it's the best for you!
Good luck and I hope things will work out for you!
2007-02-08 23:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are extremely insecure. If you continue to be you can turn into a controlling emotional and physical abuser. It starts with obsessing about text and not wanting her to have friends.
2007-02-08 23:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by childrenofthecorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey from experience, you are to young to be driving yourself crazy over this female. Just move on with your life. Because life is to short. Its time to go find someone to enjoy life with. Good luck.
2007-02-08 23:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by BRENDA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen playa, drop that girl if she was messin around with another guy she doesn't care about you. There are plenty of other girls, trust on this I know.
2007-02-08 23:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by watsthedizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend...............the foundation stone for building of every relationship is trust.................if there is no trust....then 2 people cant be together................
even if u try then u will start fighting again and again......without any proper reasons...............
so as per my advice.....just get over this issue and move on..............
if u know what i mean!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-08 23:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by summeravi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your feeling like you can't trust her then move on that might be a sign that she is not right for you
2007-02-08 23:12:43 · answer #10 · answered by m. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋