How do you comfort your mother when she finds she has breast cancer?

Question

Her biopsy came back cancer. She'll go monday to see how far it's spread. What is the best thing I can do for her right now besides sit beside her and feel helpless?

Answer 1

make a pot of tea, give her a hug, tell her you love her, and tell her this is a fight she can win!
remind her she isn't alone, you're there, as is the rest of the family and all her friends.
let her talk. dont tell her not to worry, she cant help but worry and be frightened.
i know it is a scary situation, but, its scarier right now because you dont know what is going on or what to expect. once you know what the prognosis is it wont be quite so frightening. its the not knowing that gets to you.
once you know what is going on you can take action, make plans, and prepare yourself for whatever is coming.
but most of all......remember it can be beaten.......and it is being beaten more often than not!
good luck - we'll keep our fingers crossed for her!
s.b.

Answer 2

My suggestion is serious vitimin C. It may not ease your mind, but it just might help. The RDA says 64 miligrams a day. Linus Pauling who got 2 nobel prizes for his work on vitimin C and organic chemestry said a minimum of 1000 mg a day and 2000 mg if you are sick. I had something, to this day the doctors have no idea what it was, but I was flat on my back for 2 weeks in usually Nov and again in Feb. I went on vit C when I got sick and after a couple of years I have never been sick again. During those times I was sick I took a varying amount daily and it followed a bell curve over the 2 weeks. I was up to 40,000 mg a day at one point, 300,000 mg over 2 weeks. It was a narrow range I had to maintain. If I took too much I got diarrea and if I took too little I was sick. In that range I was totally asymptomatic. You need to drink a lot of water because Vit C is a natural diarretic. Also, you doctor will say your kidneys will disolve or calcify, but drink the water and it SHOULD be fine. A couple of years ago the had a report out that said the best cancer-fighter was Interferon - at $15,000 a gram - but it also said that Interferon is a product of the natural breakdown of Vit C in your system. Shortly after that they tried to make Vit C by perscription only. Guess why. Good luck.

Answer 3

Let her know that you're going to be there for her and that she is strong enough to get through it. I haven't been diagnosed with cancer, but am dealing witha breast mass. From viewing it through ultrasound type testing they aren't able to tell if it's cancerous or not and am waiting to have a biopsy. I know the chances of it being cancerous aren't that high, but I am still worried and by having my husband tell me that if it is cancer that he'll be there for me every minute of it makes me feel better.

Answer 4

don't baby her. don't get upset if she lashes out at you. do some research with her on the computer.together find out all you can about her kind of breast cancer. basically, just be there for her, and let her know you will do whatever is needed to make it easier on her. cry with her.

Answer 5

I know what she is going through, i am a survivor! talk to her, explain to her that now days they have came along way with breast cancer treatments... does she know what kind of cancer it is? there are three major breast cancers.

Answer 6

I went through the same thing when we found out my mom had leukemia. There's not really much you can do but to be there for her. Tell her you love her, hug her, just let her know that she's not alone in it.

Answer 7

the same thing i did with my mom talk to her about it listen to what she has to say and take it all to heart .talk about the opions she has ansd the choices she will have to make just be there and listen ask her if she needs help doing anything

Answer 8

Go on to Breastcancer.org. they have a chat room you and her can get get support there.

Answer 9

Be there for her and let her know you love her!