my mom is hateful she always calls us messy and never takes us out to have fun?

Question

and when we dont do her cloths like she asks she gets even mader

alright you might think of me as a brat but im not she doesn't do any thing the only thing she does is go to sleep and go to work she has us do everthing she does nothing. she complains about my dad because he doesn't take her any where he used to but he doesn't now because she fusses to much and if he has to go to work because of an emergeny she goes ballistic. i just wanna run away!!

my dad works in the medical field so he gets called to an emergency

Answer 1

So what's the problem?

Answer 2

it seems like your mom is working hard at her job but when she comes home she is exhausted. Asking her children to take care of the chores around the house is not a lot to ask. But if she is ignoring you and not appreciating what you have done for her I could see being a problem. Are you taking care of the chores? Or are you being as lazy as you say she is?

Surprise her...take care of all your chores and then do some extras...but let her acknowlegde them on her own...don't jump down her throat if she doesn't notice right away...give her a chance. Sometimes parents work long hours and are so stressed from their jobs they may tend to not give as much attention to their kids as they should....kids need to realize this and be a little patient...if they don't come around, give your parents a reminder.

Running away is NEVER a good solution for anything. You need to face things head on, it makes you a stronger person. Besides, your parents would really miss you...

Answer 3

Your mother is probably having a ruff time. It may because of stress (work is hard that's why people get paid for it). So, in those spare quiet moments instead of trying to get away from your mom talk to her. Not really all about your problems at first. Let her talk about her day and see where she's coming from. Then after wards talk about some causal things. After a while you might understand her much better, and I'm sure she'll benefit equally.

Answer 4

Maybe your mom has personal issues and at the same time having relationship issues with your dad. I understand that your mom's behavior is upsetting and that you probably just want things to get better between you and her. Maybe you could try talking to her about your feelings instead of thinking of running away. I know this may seem hard but the only way to mend things is by communicating. You can try doing this by writing a letter or by talking to her face to face. You can also try talking to your dad about it since this involves the whole family. If you run away, your problem is just going to get bigger. Think positive.

Answer 5

No mother gives birth to her child just so that she can abuse the child or hate the child, unless she's crazy.

Sounds to me the situation here is that your mom is not crazy. Sounds to me that you are spoiled and messy. You are not helping your mother keeping the house clean and you are not respecting her. She went through labor giving birth to you, and this you will not appreciate until you have a child of your own.

You need to listen to her. Once you realize that she's the mother and you are the child, things will be better and perhaps then, she will take you out to have fun like the way you wanted it to be.

Be good and behave. Help her around the house. Help yourself to be a better person and stop talking about your mother, you little brat.

Answer 6

You should keep helping your mom. She works and has to take care of you guys. You're a family and families should work together. She's probably real lonely and tired, especially if your dad is gone all the time. Cook your mom dinner and try to make her feel better. Maybe your parents are having problems and she's taking it out on you guys. Just try to clean up behind yourself so your mom will stop fussing.

Answer 7

Well do your best at doing the things that make her happy, think about it why should she be the one to clean after you. You are old enough to be on a computer you are old enough to comprehend that you are do not have a personal slave to clean up after you. Although that does not mean that she gets to get on your butt about it all the time by bein mean. Express your emotions to her and maybe she will see how mature you are and do things for you guys more often. All it is, is lack of communication between her and her children. If you can open that door you will be fine in the future with your mom and other people in general.

Answer 8

My mom's not around anymore.&,u know what the biggest regret in my life is...when I was a young teenager,& thought I knew it all,I hit my mom.We got in a fight.I was way out of line.She slapped me.I had never got spanked or anything like that.So,I felt that nobody had that right.So,I smacked her bk.I live w/that & miss my mom every day that passes.If yur dad's gone alot,then,mayb yur mom has alot of stress.She has work & home & kids.Try 2 understand.She won't always b there 4 u.Then,u'll look bk & c how much u really nded her.Good luck!

Answer 9

You're talking to the wrong people here. You should be having this conversation with your parents. They can't read your mind. You should say this to them, exactly as you said it to us. Pick a time when mom isn't in such a bad mood. If you don't know how to start this conversation, print out what you wrote and how people have answered you. Be prepared. Either things will change or you'll just be in trouble again. Good luck.

Answer 10

Since you didn't mention about your father, not sure if you have parents but at least you have your mom.

Your parents(or just parent) has many things to do even you don't see it. Your parents has to work, earn money so they can feed you, clothes you, give you a place to live, pay for your fun, education, and many other expenses.

It may not seem a lot to you now, but as you grow up, you'll see how hard it is to be parents and adults. You'll see how hard it is to make a living...

So what you can do is to try to understand her, try to listen to her and try to help her. By helping her, you are helping yourself. There's always a message behind what she says...try and hopefully, your mom won't yell at you anymore.

Answer 11

You must be very young. One day you will understand your mom and your mom will regret that she wasn't able to spend more time with you.

If you mom works, then has a family to raise, she is probably under a lot of stress and pressure also. Maybe helping your mom around the house more will give her more time to do things with you.