how can i believe more in and love myself more?

Question

I really think i cant do stuff, eventhough i'm capable of doing things; I think people are better than me. What can i do to love myself more, believe in me more? confident?

Answer 1

Try to see yourself the way others see you. I'm sure that others think much more highly of you than you think/feel about yourself. Set some goals for yourself and work on accomplishing them. You will get a lot of satisfaction out of that no matter how small the goal may be. That is probably the most important thing and will make a world of difference in your life.
Also, maybe make a list of all the good things about you because I'm sure there are a lot of things :)
Good Luck

Answer 2

You need self confidence, tell yourself that you're a good person, write down all the good things you can do and all the things you think you cannot do and try to do them. You will see that you're a lot better than you think you are. Find all the positive things about you, do you have nice eyes, nice hair and focus on them. Smile more often, you are worth it. It takes time, get a book from the store or library about self confidence and read it through. It's a learning curve but you can do it. Believe in yourself. I was once doubting when I was looking for a job, I either was too overqualified or didn't have the experience they asked for. I went into despair and then I read an article, if you're looking for a job and don't get hired, tell yourself: you know you could have done that job probably better then the person they've hired, therefore it's their loss and not mine. I started to get that attitude and live by it ever since.

Answer 3

Don't listen to people like Erock...he's a moron and obviously has rocks in his brain :)

I know how you feel. I'm probably quite capable, I just don't know how to believe in me...I have to ask people what my good qualities are because I have no idea.

I would suggest setting out little goals for yourself each day and completing them. Make these goals, goals for you. Something you can feel proud of all by yourself, that no one else is going to judge. And not something someone else has told you to do. You can eventually build up to doing more and more and feeling better and better.

Also, why don't you make a list of your good qualities? Try to figure out on your own what you like about yourself. It might sound hard, but you may be able to come up with 10, 20...maybe even 100 if you just try to. I know that's helped me before. Of course, I probably should have posted it on my wall to remind me everyday, because I've since forgotten.

Answer 4

A technique that author Eckhart Tolle recommends is to learn to love yourself for any and every reason. For example, if you look in the mirror and see an ugly face, can you accept that and tell yourself that you love yourself for having an ugly face? If you said: "Not a chance! It makes me feel so insecure about myself, I just cant stand it!". Well can you love yourself for not standing it? Can you love yourself for feeling insecure? The basis of the technique is to love yourself for ANY reason that you can think of, and even your worst qualities, you should still love them.

You see, alot of us may be familiar with something called "negative self-hypnosis". Negative self-hypnosis is just autosuggesstion; negative things your conscience repeats to yourself on a consistent basis. I use a technique where I record every negative thing that I tell my self on a daily basis, I intelligently find a COUNTER to these negative thoughts and feelings, and then at the end of the day I torch the piece of paper that I used to record the negativity. I use this technique in combination with many other things that I'm not going to get into here, but it is QUITE effective.

Answer 5

Well, you know your self. Take on little things and succeed. Never quit, but you tried. Try again. you will not always succeed, i am lucky at 1 and 10 but I tried. Learn from the times you try.

confidence in yourself is not what others think only of what you think. Never try to impess, since the only one that has to be happy about it is you.. you will be scared, but have faith. remember faith is blind. you sound like you have confidence so use your inner self and you will be find. you learned to crawl before you could walk, you walked before you could run.

Good luck, keep your head up. you can do it.

Answer 6

Tell yourself your a good person. Find the things that you are good at and do them. No one is better than any one else. Just different. Thats what makes the world go around.

Answer 7

The time has come for you to stand up and be proud of you and tell yourself I am a good person and I love myself because I am a good human being and stand up for yourself and if you fall get back up we are not perfect but to love yourself is the greatest gift you can receive.......no one is perfect you see them a sperfect but they are not so get on with life and enjoy who you are and love who are your a great person believe in yourself love kara

Answer 8

Stop being such a sensitive pu see and just get things done. Accomplishment is the mother of all confidence builders. So set some goals and plans and tasks for your self. Then get to work. As you accomplish these you will feel more and more like a man. If you sit around asking girly questions then you will feel like a wuss. Instead of asking how can I love myself. Ask what can I accomplish that will make me feel like a MAN.

Answer 9

Instead of thinking of the things you cant do think of the things u can do.and instead of doing things and not finishing them finish somthing and u will know u can do this it might be the one thing ur most good at.

Answer 10

dont aknowlege how others do things istead look at the inner beuty of what your doing if you and realize the meaning in why your doing that.