well the honor system doesnt work, thats been proven. the states and federal government are tired of parents not paying for their kids, and in some cases, making the government pay for them. so they passed stronger laws to protect the children in regards to child support.
custody has nothing to do with being a parent; male or female, you are still responsible for the child(ren). full custody, joint custody, physical custody or whatever... you still have to pay.
she cant deny visitation, unless he is deemed by a court of law to be a danger of some sort. if she does, i would file a motion to have my rights enforced.
as for the child support amount:
you pay what? 400? 600? 900?
ok, lets see...
rent; 1000
electric 300
food 400-600
diapers 75-150 per month (fluctuates when baby is sick or teething)
heat 300
phone/cable 100
auto; (for doctors, dentists, take to school when they miss the bus, pick up when sick, pick up medicines, get food) 200
clothing/shoes/boots 200-400 every 2 to 3 months (seasonal and they grow)
that doesnt even include daycare, school supplies, hair cuts, class trips, class pictures, over the counter medicines, prescriptions, laundry det, dish det, cleaners, soap, shampoo, toothpaste, christmas, easter, tooth fairy, birthdays, etc. and sooo much more.
In my case, we go through 1 gallon of milk a day; that’s $3.50 x 30… its almost $100 per month… AND THAT’S JUST MILK.
thats right... JUST MILK.
if you dont understand the child support amount, or why someone needs it, try calling 1-800- I CANT ADD
--its not easy on anyone involved; him, the ex, the child(ren). hardship is an understatement, but we all do the best we can.
--if you cant afford child support, dont have any more or keep having kids all over the place.
--if theres no visitation, go back to court and demand your rights be enforced, and get the visitation. if he doesnt show up for visitation, its common, but his choice.
--paying for insurance is saving you money; one dental cleaning is $130, one prescription can cost $75, doctors visits are $40-50, hospitals are thousands, etc. (and split 60/40 or 70/30 you'd pay more per month). be greatful you have insurance, 47 million americans dont.
--get a second job to pay just the child support or whatever you need to do (thats what the rest of us americans are doing) to make ends meet.
--sometimes the ends dont meet, for any of us.
--suk it up like the rest of us out here.
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/
COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
2007-02-09 03:47:16
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answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6
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If you were baby mamma #1 instead of baby mamma #2 your opinion would be different, I guarantee it.
I'm in CA, so I can tell you that in CA the non-custodial parent (NCP) is required to have medical insurance on the kid - state law. I don't trust my ex, so I declined that, and pay it myself to make sure mine will always have coverage, but that's just me.
That forging crap is just that - a load of crap. Either you think we're stupid, or you boyfriend thinks you are. Full custody means she does all of the work of raising the kid - if he had split custody, he'd pay a lot less (or none) child support, because he'd be supporting his kid during the time they're in his home.
Still, I agree that you can't live on what you've got. You have the right to request a hearing to "modify the support order". They will want proof of his income, and your child, and then look at the mom's income, and reevaluate what is fair (based on some crazy calculation I still haven't figured out). And if he really honestly truly has NOOOOOOO visitation as you claim, he can request it then as well, and get it all in writing. K?
Please try to understand that the ex does not get to request the amount she's being given - the court alone decides that (in CA at least).
2007-02-08 15:06:44
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answered by ~Biz~ 6
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It's 20% plus he's required to carry medical and dental. Plus if he owes any back child support that will be tacked on in addtion to the 20%. It will not go down when your child is born. They don't care if he has other children.
Full custody does not mean that he doesn't see the child. There is no way she could have forged his name, he has to sign in front of a witness and it gets notarized. She gets full custody because the child lives with her and he did not fight for joint custody. There should be a visitation schedule that was set up with the child support and they should be following it.
If you cannot live on half his salary, then I suggest you get a job.
2007-02-08 14:48:41
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answered by janicajayne 7
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