Well, im 16 and have been with my boyfriend(who's also 16) for exactly one month this saturday. We exchanged the special three words by midnight of the day of our first meeting. he says that he wants to wait before we have sex(which is rare). and he's my first love. but he has a short temper and gets mad over any little comment. like today i was joking and i called him gay. he said i disrespected his manhood and would not accept my apology. i asked him if he was mad and he responded "no, im just mad at what you said. but im going to get even." i said are you going to cheat and he says"maybe." i mean since he has a manhood doesn't he think that he's disrespecting my womanhood by threating to cheat on me? and he does it all the time; bringing up girls from his past and giving me the silent treatment and just making me feel so bad. he says thats the 2nd time i've disrespected him, and that the third strike i'm out. does love strike you out over petty things like that? What should i do?
2007-02-08 14:38:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is very boring for a boyfriend , he cannot even take a joke, seems to me he is immature, and takes life rather too seriously and i dont even think that he views you as an equal, which for me is a really bad sign
and he is even threatening to cheat on you, jokes are half true so i wont really count on that kind of man
plus people who love you should not make you feel down, they might make you feel sad , but not down
you deserve better and you know that!
if he cannot even make you happy he no longer is worth your love
2007-02-08 14:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with him and concentrate on school and having fun and not having to worry about him. Dating is for people who are looking for a lifetime partner. You should be getting to know all different kind of boys and being their friends and seeing what qualities you like in a boy before you talk about LOVE. Loving someone is a big commitment you are not ready for but being close to a guy can be exciting but just look at you after only 1 month all the problems you are young have fun don't worry about a guy.
2007-02-08 14:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has no respect for you in the first place and if thats love I sure don't want ANY!!!! tell him he already struck out and to get out before he makes you more misareble. I mean if you guys aren't haveing sex how is he respecting you by threatening to go else where? you already know what you need to do move on and forget him not saying that it is a easy road to go down but you will be better for it and feel better to.... you don't deserve that kind of treatment and it won't get better!
It happens all the time and if he starts out that way hes not going to change question is are you willing to live the rest of your life like that?
2007-02-08 14:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by moonangel31637 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 years old. You have been with him for one month. YOU ARE NOT IN LOVE. His manhood?? Give me a break. This punk needs a positive male role model to teach him how to treat a lady.(assuming that you are a lady.) Get over him and don't give him the opportunity to "strike you out." Strike him out first, he'll get the picture eventually.
2007-02-08 14:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by m_h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little girl you have so much to learn !!!!!!!!! First never call a heterosexual man gay . Especailly a 16 year old young man. Second love is not in1 day it is earned , felt an learned over time at least true love is. You are in puppy love. Is there not one there to teach you about life , guys and reality ????? If not email I can give you more advise !
2007-02-08 14:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by conan999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to sound mean, but i kind of doubt that you love him. not saying you're incapable because of your age, but you [usually] aren't so madly in Love with someone after a month.
and also, if anyone even threatens to cheat on you, he's not worth it. i think if he's saying he's going to break up with you after the third strike, you should find someone who can take a joke & will accept a sincere apology and respect you.
i've been with my boyfriend for 4 years, but if he said anything like that to me, i'd have to let go of him.
2007-02-08 14:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should break up with him, because if he LOVED you then he wouldnt threaten to cheat on you, or being childish and giving you the silent treatment! Things will probably get worse if you continue to stay with him. He might try and hit you or something.
2007-02-08 14:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by one_thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. It won't be easy but please do it. I met my husband at 16...he was great - but had that short temper. I thought he had a great heart and really loved me though. He believed in revenge and getting even...that is a huge flag to get the heck out. I wish I could have gotten out sooner...and I now have to say I am lucky to be alive.
2007-02-08 14:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by bgmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him and stop dating until you know better than to exchange the 3 special words with a boy you just met. boys are a waste of time, especially if they treat you badly; even if they say they are willing to wait.
2007-02-08 14:46:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I think u should dump his ***... He is no good. If hes treatin u like crap and makin u feel bad then hunny u better get rid of him. U derserve so much better. He sounds like a pig.
2007-02-08 14:44:56 · answer #10 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋