I am just curious to know how I should behave to my ex girlfriend who is now dating my roommate. I don't approve of it, but I have no say. Should I act friendly, indifferent, etc...?
I have been told to completely ignore her, is this the best course of action? To act as if she doesn't exist in my house.
Also, while I may not be indifferent, how can I appear indifferent to this situation? Any types of behavior I should follow?
Thanks!
2007-02-08 14:36:02 · 12 answers · asked by Samuel F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should be nice and courteous.
2007-02-08 14:38:17 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like you are about to allow this to ruin something good in your life. From what you say here she has obviously turned her life around probably for the very reasons you state. Her past is just that, past. She cannot erase it and she cannot change it. No matter what she does from now on that will always be her past. You have a choice. Get over yourself and forget about her past life OR forget about her and move on. It is not fair to her for you to keep holding this in your mind. It is stressing you out because you are letting it do so. What is the problem? Do you see her as damaged goods? Is there something wrong with her? You say you share a similar past so should people forever hold that against you? She is showing and proving that she lives a different way now, why can't you concentrate on that? If you cannot get over this you should break up with her because you are right your attitude will poison the relationship. I think that you will be the looser but if you cannot forget, you should let her go find someone who can love her for who she is today and not "obsess" about her "dead past".
2016-05-23 23:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may or may not still have feelings for her, but the best thing to do is pretend like it doesn't bother you that she's dating your roommate and be friendly towards her. If you ignore her or are mean to her she'll just think you're immature and she'll have the satisfaction of making you mad.
2007-02-08 14:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dzee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendly but distant will drive her crazy. She will always be wondering what you are thinking. That is better than having a conversation about it. Let her just wonder. What about your roommate? Doesn't that bother you? That would bother me more than having to be around her because you will be around him all the time. Doesn't sound like a good friend.
2007-02-08 14:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang, that's just cold. Not only did your roommate do you in, but so did your ex. I wonder if she did it on purpose. Personally, I would be pissed. I may say that much, but I am wondering if she wants you to react. I say kick him out, get a new roommate and a new girlfriend.
2007-02-08 14:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, That's cold. And I'm a female...lol Is she doing this to get back at you? I would say to act normal and try to not be home when she's there. It'll be hard if she ends up sleeping over or you hear them though. That's a tough one. Have you talked to your roomate to ask why would he do this to you? Maybe they could go to her place.
2007-02-08 14:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by gands06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ignore her. be friendly but not so friendly that the roomate will suspect you of having feelings for this girl again. you shouldn't care that they're dating though. you're not with her anymore. you can make yourself indifferent by pretending she's not your ex. hopefully you've moved on from that, so just be yourself.
2007-02-08 14:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, just get a new girl and forget the old one. So you see her once in a while at your house. So what? You were there first. If they end up getting married, that guy will always know that you know what his wife looks like naked.
2007-02-08 14:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kevman9999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it was me i would be pretty mad but, you cant ack like it you need to talk to your room mate about this tell him how it makes you feel. If he dont like what you have to say then he is not a freind anyways. I dont think it is right i would never do that to my friends. Just dont ack like it bothers you when they are around you are better then that.. But frist have you ever none that before??? If you have think before you speck
2007-02-08 14:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by ebabybrown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be nice to her and just treat her like your roommates girlfriend and not your ex. i don't know what happen with yall but this is generally how you should act
2007-02-08 14:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by ititit3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get over it and don't let it bother you
2007-02-08 14:38:23 · answer #11 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋