What are some ways to become a more positive person?

Question

First of all, do you believe that a person naturally has a postive attitude, or is it dependent on how that person was raised and environment throughout life?

What are ways that someone can change their personality to a more postive one, and while doing it naturally and not feeling like it is forced?

Thanks

Answer 1

“Your belief system is the foundation from which all your thoughts, feelings and actions stem hence whatever you believe to be truth will be truth even if it’s in your life only.”
Now that you've identified who you want to be, and what you want to do and have, you will look at the hurdles you perceive to be in your way of accomplishing those things. Although it may appear as if the roadblocks are real, tangible things such as time, availability, money and ability, etc. most of the problem is an issue of perception and belief. You will find your greatest nemesis is fear. Where there's fear, there is stagnation. The acronym for fear is, “False Evidence Appearing Real” Somehow when you transform your beliefs. What was once a hindrance becomes attainable. New beliefs allow you to see your way around or through any obstacle. Since belief forms the foundation of our attitude and behaviour we will give some attention to it.IDENTIFY UNDERLYING BELIEFS
Belief is usually defined as a conviction of the truth of a proposition without its verification; therefore a belief is a subjective mental interpretation derived from perceptions, contemplation / reasoning or communication.
Many beliefs you hold today are a result of all you learned from childhood to this present moment. They are a culmination of all you hear, see and perceived. Factors that play a vital role in the development of your belief system are your Culture, Family, Religion and Friends, ect. Many of what you were told defy logic and are not helping you in your life. It is at this point that you should begin the process assessing your beliefs. Below is a list of the negative belief we hold towards others and ourselves. BELIEF ABOUT OTHERS
·No one cares about anyone else.
·People are dishonest and are never to be trusted.
·Relationships are a trick; you have no control over how they turn out.
·People are out to get whatever they can from you; you always end up being used.
·People are so opinionated; they are never willing to listen to other's points of view.
·You are bound to get hurt in a relationship; it makes no difference how you try to change it.
·It's not who you are but what you do that makes you attractive to another person.
·What count in life is others opinions of you.
·There is a need to be on guard in dealing with others to insure that you don't get hurt.
BELIEF ABOUT OURSELVES
·I can't change. This is just the way I am
·I do not deserve positive attention from others.
·I should never burden others with my problems or fears.
·I am worthless.
·I have so many problems; I might as well give up right now.
·I am the most unattractive person in the world
·I have to be realistic. People who are optimistic aren't realistic.
·I have to have [love, sex, new car, money, etc] to be happy.
OTHER BELIEFS WE HOLD
·There is only one way of doing things.
·Work is the punishment man must endure for being human.
·Always protecting against the forces of evil in life is the only way to live.
·If you are not married and have children, you are not a part of the normal human race.
·A handicapped person is imperfect, to be pitied, and to be dropped along the path of life.
·Admitting to a mistake or failure is a sign of weakness.
·The showing of any kind of emotion is wrong, a sign of weakness, and not allowable.
·Asking for help from someone is admitting your weakness; it denies the reality that only you can solve your problems.
·It's a dog-eat-dog world out there.
·If my happiness was a priority, I'd be inconsiderate of others.CHANGING NEGATIVE BELIEFS
Since our belief systems are brought about by repetitions of thoughts and also by our past experiences direct and indirect. When it comes to changing them we need to be quick in discarding negative ones. And promotes positive beliefs. The uses of affirmations are the best tool and will be discuss shortly. As children our belief system and our self-esteem are derived through our affiliation with society and its variables. By the time we become an adults we have fixed opinions of ourselves. And labeourselves as to what we are or not. These are then confirmed by our experiences. Changing these beliefs are not easy. It will take constant work to change these belief systems, which has developed over the years. If you are serious about wanting to turn your life around, you're going to have to go beyond simply wanting to. This will require tremendous mental and physical effort. It will require continuous self-monitoring of all that you think, say and do. It will involve making continual conscious choices. This entire process is an enormous move of consciousness. What you will find out when you undertake this challenge is that you have spent most of your life unconscious, unaware on a conscious level of what you are choosing in the way you think, speak and act until you experience the aftermath of them.

Answer 2

I don't think that every person has a positive attitude, but you can learn to have one, it takes a little time and work but it will work.
First of all, tell yourself at all times that you have no control over things that you cannot change. It's totally wasted energy to worry about them and be negative. Always look at your life and compare it to people in third world countries. Tell yourself if you have a bad day, this too shall pass. Another thing if you think you made a mistake and get negative about it, ask yourself, will it make a difference a week from now, a month or a year?
Everyday when you get up, tell youself, I have a choice, how am I doing today, should I be positive or negative. It's your choice!
You will see if you adapt these things people will be different to you, they smile and don't forget to smile. Good Luck!
Life is generally good and it's the only one we have and it's too damn short to waste with negativity.

Answer 3

First of all no one has a positive attistude naturally. Sometime it depends on how they are bought up or sometimes later life experiences.
Being positive is a good thing as long as you are facing reality. Many people use the word positive, but have alot of insecurities and never like to bring up where they have gone wrong in their life. If you can use your bad experiences and learn from them so they dont happen again, that to me will make you a more positive person.

Answer 4

Our experiences during childhood often shape our outlook on life, but we can change that. If you want to have a positive attitude, then you can gradually increase your positive thinking. One technique that helps is to think of negative words/thoughts raising a red flag. Picture that red flag whenever you catch yourself thinking or saying something negative. That red flag means STOP! So, after you stop, then replace what you were saying with something more positive. You can even do this aloud if you are talking to another person. As soon as you realize you have said something rather negative, then stop and say to the other person, "Hey, that was negative. Let me take that back and say something more positive." (Obviously you don't have to use those exact words, but you get the idea.) Over time, you will start waving that mental red flag a lot quicker when negative thinking creeps in, and be able to say/think something much more positive. I have used this for myself and suggested using this for other people. It really does work; it does take time, though, to get into that habit.

Answer 5

If you ask me, it is all dependent on a person...being "positive" can be inherent, instilled by the people around you, learned by yourself through personal reflection, or a combination of all of those things. In all honesty, it does not depend on anything execpt the person himself/herself since being positive, and being good, is a readily available trait that a person can reach anytime; it's only up to them whether to take the first step or shy away from it.

What are they ways? Honestly, there's no clear cut procedure on how to do so; more or less, a person is "stuck" with what's with him/her at the moment since one cannot be good/positive in an instant if everything around the person is bad, or if that person's life is "in a mess". However, if a "change" is in case, the first step that a person must realize is that admit that he or she has a problem, whether big or small. Then, acknowledge that there is a higher power at work who, in turn, that person will submit to that higher power for comfort. The next step, well, leads to change, if all else goes well.

A person does not become good because he or she chooses to; it's because of the situation that must be changed to a better one that enables a person to change.

Answer 6

Its never a good thing to be positive all the time or negative all the time find a happy medium

Answer 7

i believe that it is impossible to change a person instantly. Change your personality one at a time, make sure that it lasts longer than seven weeks, (minimum time to make sure that the good traits stays with us forever). Endure with the desire to be 'bad'. reward youself when you had change. Good luck!