I dated this girl for 2 years straight. We broke up in October, and I just now found out the real reason. She says that she just did not love me anymore, but I still have strong feelings for her and still love her. So my question to you guys is, if she loved me before is there a chance she can love me again? If so what is the best thing I can do to try to get her back?
2007-02-08 14:29:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then it's time to move on
2007-02-08 14:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she already taken now? There is a difference between falling out of love with you and in love with someone else. If your ex has a new boyfriend, she already has a change of heart then it would not be worthwhile to continue to pine for her. But if she is actually still unattached, then you do have a chance to win her heart again. Regardless of either, it all still depends on how strong her feelings for you were prior to your breakup. Eventhough she said she does not love you anymore, as long as she still has some feelings for you, then there is a chance that you might win her back (speaking from a girl's point of view :) . I suggest that you recall back on how you two started out together...afterall that's what made her fell in love with you in the first place. But remember also to give her more space during this time as she might just be confused and needed some time to sort things out. Be patient but firm. Good luck.
2007-02-08 15:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by Skystryfe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Let me tell you from personal experience, she never loved you and I know this may hurt but why would you want someone back that can break your heart after 2 years. Ok well maybe she did love you but you dont hurt the people you love. You are better off moving on. If that is you in the pic sweetie you deserve someone way better. Trust me!! The grass just might be greener on the other side. Also just remember. What doesnt kill us makes us stronger. And that sometimes if you love something let it go and if dosen't come back it was never yours from the start> Good luck sweetie
2007-02-08 14:34:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lived with a girl for 3 1/2 years and believe me when I say I went above and beyond what a normal boyfriend would ever do and put up with. She basically did the same thing to me. It hurt very much and took me awhile to get over her. What was really strange was that one morning she was knocking on my door at 6:30 just see how I was doing. Try if you want, at times I had put it out there, just do not expect much if anything. Good Luck man.
2007-02-08 15:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same thing just happened to me and oh man it sucks when the one you love doesn't love you back. and you just need to move on because it takes two in a relationship and you do not want her back if she was willing to not work on this relationship and put her whole heart into it. it will just cause you more heart ache to try to rekindle it. "relationships are like broken glass, sometimes it's better to leave it alone rather than try to put the pieces back together and get hurt." and as hard as it is you need to avoid contact with her for a while.. it is for the best. you need to go through the grieving process and you need to get over her as best you can. it is not fair to you anyways, no matter how much you loved her, to be the one to care more about the realtionship and love her more than she loves you. you deserve someone who will love you as much as you love them and who will not Let the relationship die in the first place. you WILL find someone else. you just need to realize and accept what happened. and Know that it was not anything You did wrong.. so it is not Your job to fix all by yourself. i'm sorry this happened to you. it sucks but you will find someone great! best wishes to you!!!!!! ((hugs))
2007-02-08 14:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its cliche and its probably something you dont want to hear: but if you really love her, and she already fell out of love with you , the best thing to do is to let go and set her free, if she is really meant for you she will come back, dont try that hard,it could ruin your heart and soul
for now there are other important things to focus on, you can still love her inside your mind,eventhough she no longer feels the same, if at some point she needs you to be there, then be there
but dont even try to push yourself to her.
set her free if you really love her
2007-02-08 14:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this isn't the answer you wanted. But there is a saying that sometimes Love isn't enough.
She can't *stop* loving you. There isn't a switch that controls love as an emotion.
However, if you she wants to still be with you and make the relationship she will be back.
2007-02-08 14:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww! You sound so sweet. But I would honestly say it's time to move on. I've been in a situation close to this before and as much as it hurt, You have to move on and try to forget her. It may take awhile but you need to lean on your friends and family. Time will heal everything and make you stronger. Good Luck.
2007-02-08 14:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by gands06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps. But if you love someone set them free—they may come back someday. In the meantime, love yourself and move on. You may find you've grown too and in love with another who is equally in love with you. Takes two to tango.
2007-02-08 14:34:16 · answer #9 · answered by Suzi Bean 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you just let her go. Move on. Someday you will meet someone better than her. "There are many fish in the sea"
2007-02-08 14:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋