great grandmother (nonna)? She passed away in December of 2001, and it has not be easy grieving for her. I can go a while of being fine. Then I start having all these dreams of her when she was alive. It just wakes up the pain of missing her all over again. I feel like there isnt closure for some reason. I feel just as I was really getting to know her and appreciate having her in my life, she died. How do I find closure??
2007-02-08 14:26:37 · 8 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pray to her to give you strength and help you through this. She will. I lost all my grandparents to accidents or illness, my father due to cancer and my husband in a construction accident. I believe that when asked they did what they could to help. Watch for signs around you. My husband used to come to my son in his dreams and he would wake up crying. This went on for days until I spoke to my husband and asked him not to appear in his dreams because he couldn't handle it (of course it was more elaborated but you get the picture), at least until he was older and could handle it. Anyway, that night he did not have one of those dreams and didn't dream of him again until two years later and he woke up happy. I believe they listen and just want to be with you because they care, if it upsets you she will stop.
I was also able to heal alot by writing stories or papers in school about them. Writing I have found can be very therapeutic. Focus of healing, trust me it gets easier with time. You will always miss her, but strive to get to the point where you can think about and share memories of happy times with her without it ripping your heart out.
2007-02-08 16:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You say that part of the reason you miss her so is because you didn't get to know her. Is there anyway to change that? Are there other family members that can talk about her life with you or can you research her family history. Maybe a good project can help you grieve. Try a scrapbook with photos and family tree stuff. Write down funny things that she said or strong beliefs that she held. Do it now while she is still so important in your heart. Good luck.
2007-02-08 22:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 7828 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard but Im sure she loves you and watches over you from heaven and misses you. I think she rather you celebrate her life that she had and be happy again instead of sad. Its always hard losing someone that you love but just know that there not completely gone, she still in you heart and thats where you will find closure and you will see her again...
2007-02-08 22:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Young South 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my grandma just died so i can relate a lot. Im having a ton of trouble too, but what i do is use the good memories and know that she would want me to b happy. Ur great grandmother would want you to live your life to the fullest extent. Just live your life the way that you want and thats all that she would want from you.
2007-02-08 23:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by :D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should seek the help of a professional. Five years is a long time to mourn for your grandmother. We all know that grandparents won't be in our lives forever...that's a simple fact of life.
Remember your grandmother for who she was and for how much she loved you. She wouldn't want you to be sad. You may even be making her sad...and you wouldn't want that.
Tell her goodbye. Tell her you love her and always will.
And get on with your life. She'd want that for you.
2007-02-09 01:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by miri-miri-off-the-wall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will heal is time...unfortunately you just have to go through the grieving process. Good luck & GOD bless you!!
2007-02-09 00:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to come to peace within. You will miss her forever, but only you can find the wa y to let it not control you. Good luck
2007-02-08 23:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by -------- 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just think that your nonna won't be happy seing you sad..you should actually be happy cause she's in a much peacful place right now..
2007-02-09 00:53:06 · answer #8 · answered by wingedfire83 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋