His friends have come to me complaining about his girlfriend. Simply put, they don't like her and they think she is suffocating him. They say they've tried to talk to him about it, but to no avail. Now they've asked me to step in and talk to him. I don't really know her, and I don't see my brother that often since I moved a few months ago, so I don't know:
a) if its even my place at all to step into the situation and
b) what I would say if I were to step in.
Any thoughts?
2007-02-08 14:14:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well ask them what the problems are and if they are bad, then butt in,
2007-02-08 14:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your brother and ask him how things are going with his girlfriend. Tell him you were just concerned because of his friends calling you telling you that shes suffocating him and you just want to make sure hes happy. Let him know your there for him if he ever needs to talk.
Then I would just step back let him think about it and make his own decision. May be his friends are right or may be they are just jealous.
Eaither way I would call him find out hows hes doing and be done. I wouldnt get any deeper than that. Hope that helps
2007-02-08 22:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by lillies4lynn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well..... I suppose your brother likes his girlfriend in bed better than his friends.
.....From the context it appears that everyone in this scenerio is of the age of majority (18) & I can't help but think that if your brother was active with these guys for man events & they use the term 'suffocating' that perhaps they just need to get laid too.
The distance you've moved away should not prevent a phone call to just say hello and see how he is.
Over time he will most likeley fit them in again..... but at first as he tries to win her over good for him that his focus is on her.
If it goes on for a very long time.... say 8 months with no man events, then yea perhaps she needs to let him hang out a bit.
2007-02-08 22:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and ask him how life is. Let him talk to you. If he brings up his love life then ask him how his is and go from there. I wouldn't just call him and as soon as he answers the phone slap him with a hundred questions. Ease into the conversation. Ask him if he is happy with the new girl and what she is like. Ask him if he still hangs out with his friends. He will let you know if he is really happy. I wouldn't get too involved though, he may not talk to you about it later when he really needs some real advice. If he doesn't bring up his love life then you could bring up yours to see if he will do the same. If he doesn't then take the hint and drop it and stay out of it.
2007-02-08 22:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by country girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer without knowing more specifics, like his age and whatnot. Maybe his friends are upset because they think he is replacing them with her and won't find time to spend with "just the guys" anymore. I'd just let him know that you're there for him if he needs to talk about ANYTHING and leave it at that. If his friends are any sort of friends at all they will respect his decisions and be there for him if things don't work out.
2007-02-08 22:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by Monica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stay out of it. If your brother doesn't see anything wrong with his girlfriend, then let it be. But, if he starts complaining, then he might come to you for help. Wait for that to happen instead of intervening.
If she really is that way, then I am sure he will get tired of it and start to be brave enough to stand up to her and let her know. But right now, he doesn't want to lose her. Don't worry, he will wake up when he can't breath any longer. (smile)
2007-02-08 22:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It's not your place. Especially if you don't know her. Let THEM deal with him ..they seem to be the ones with the problom.
How about asking him what she's like?? Let him tell you how he feels. If he's happy, then leave it alone. If not, then give him some brotherly advice. Don't let his friends put YOU in the middle though. It will only lead to friction between the two of you. Leave it alone.
2007-02-08 22:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would ask his friends what the problems are. if they seem really serious then i would step it. he is your brother after all. i would tell him how his friends feel about her and how i think he should go about taking care of these problems. if it is not terrible then i would not worry about it though. you do have your own life to live without worring about pity things. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-08 22:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not your place , and if I were you I would see how your brother feel's about what they are saying about her and he is the one that has to live with him or be their and if they do not like her they should talk to him not you .
2007-02-08 22:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His friends may be 100% right about her, but he doesn't want to hear it. Stepping in will only cause problems between you two (speaking from experience).
But when he finally figures it out on his own, be there to support him and back him up. That's where you'll be needed AND appreciated.
2007-02-08 22:33:07 · answer #10 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get involved unless she was seriously doing things to hurt him..........it sounds to me that his friends are a lil bit jealous of the time they're spending together now.
2007-02-09 07:24:30 · answer #11 · answered by lil_tommy_grl_devil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋