ladies...a guy that listens?

Question

how much does it really matter if a guy listens to you? a lot of guys i know have problems coming up with things to talk about when on dates. would "let them do the talking" be good advice?

Also, how much talking is good, and what do girls want to know about guys?
hahaha! questions,questions, questions... thanks a ton!!!

Answer 1

Yes you need to listen but, you also need to talk

Answer 2

Well... I think the guy should be able to carry on a conversation, it shouldn't be just one person talking the whole time. And for me, it is important that the guy not only listens, but retains some of what I tell him, it shows that what I have to say to him is important.
What we want to know about the guy we're talking to can be different depending on which woman you talk to... but basically, little stories about yourself, stuff you like doing, something exciting that happened earlier or the other day... Usually the same kind of things you want to hear from a woman (at least I think...)
"Let them do the talking" for advice.. no.... participate in the conversation, be sure to listen, and don't be the person talking the whole time.. it should be a 50/50 effort on who's talking...if you find you're doing a lot of talking, ask the girl some questions about herself... Neither person should be doing the bulk of the talking... how is the other person supposed to learn if only one is talking?

Answer 3

ok in dates there are two people that are nervous, not just one. so i imagine that letting a girl do all the talking would be boring and a buzz killer. and how else would you find out how much you two have in common? the amount of talking that should be done,,,hmmmm.....i dont know maybe just enough so that neither of you fall asleep. where do you come up with these questions?? are they so hard and buffling that you cant answer them yourself based on logic? i cant tell you exactly what to talk about and what girls wanna know about guys exactly because every girl is different and every situation is different, so the questions and the chemistry wont be the same with everyone. so just go out there and learn from personal experience buddy!

Answer 4

Sure, let her do the talking, but you better participate. Ask her questions. Good advice would be read the paper. You can always talk about current events too. Some of them are really interesting. Girls just want to know what you want to do, what you want to do with your life, what your friends are doing, etc. LOL, we're not that hard. Good luck

Answer 5

You can't generalize personallities. Women, just like men are different. We don't all like the same things we don't all want to know the same things.
As for how much it matters if a guy listens to us...well it matters a great deal. Because if someone (male or female) doesn't listen to us it means they're really not interested in us so we might as well not waste anymore of our time with them. Actually if a man IS interested in a woman he would WANT to listen to her, it's called mutual respect and NO ONE (not even men) likes to be disrespected.

Answer 6

Well if i was on a date with a guy i would want him to talk and not let me do all of the talking. Hearing guy stories is interesting sometime and if he talks he seem realy into her because he would join in the conversation. too much talking like talking about something stupid like math for 15 min is not good and i know girls dont want to hear that. Flirt sometimes when u talk to get her attention or to make her feel specail. :P And its nice to know that guys actually listen to us and arnt getting bored. so join in the conversation whenever you need ir want to.

Answer 7

dating... is supposed to be about figuring out about where the other person stands. Sometimes you've gotta stroke a gal's ego some and let them know what they're comfy about telling you, before you take your turn to share something about yourself.

Sometimes, people go on dates 'cause they just want friends, or they want someone that should like them and be interested in them-- they want someone to care. On those, I'd expect to do more listening than talking, but then you get into those funky are we friends or lovers conversations...

Answer 8

Guys will never talk as much as gals want them to but you can help him to open up. Find out what he talks about when he talks to guys and then take time and do your homework. Once you understand what he talks about write down a list of questions you can use to get him to open up. Find out what he likes and dislikes and then come up with more question lists. Come up with a list of things about yourself and come up with a list of question you could use to teach him about yourself. I am sure you get the idea by now. Remember that when you learn to get a guy to talk you will be able to get your husband to talk when you get married.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

the best thing you can ever do for a woman is to listen to her and to listen well
women are sensitive , over sensitive, if they find a man whom they can talk about life and their worries,adventures in daily life, they really fall for that man, either they became a bestfriend or something more
as a woman i terribly hate a man who cant speak for himself when im talking to him, i hate a man who cannot pay attention to what you are saying
as women we dont necessarily need that you comment on everything, its enough that you are trying to understand and relate it with your life
its like if men listen to us, we feel that you see us as equals, more than a partner, if you can listen and even enjoy our conversation" believe me a great conversation can continously run in a woman's mind"
remember that women fall in love with men's words
if you cant even talk, relate, chat, understand or have the patience to listen to women , how in the world would you ever understand us

we want to know why guys are too mysterious, why some dont like to talk often. sometimes we think that if men cant even talk that they dont like us, or that they have nothing on their mind, but we also hate it if you tend to dominate the conversation, women want to tell about what they think and of who they are, so that you would know if you would really like who the real person is inside o f her.
when we talk its our way of telling and revealing who we are indeed,
we like to know what guys want, if they have a sense of humour,of what is their purpose in life,
as for mine i dont like to hear whether youre good at sports or if you have money, i care to know what you really think about the world and life itself
we need to talk for us to know if youre worth our time