Got passed down from exes side, they both won't work, one does drugs and sleeps all the time, they both will not do anything, they both use people for what ever they can get. and have learned to become cons so to speak., and both are living with my ex, who is very sick themselves, and exes' brothers live their too, and they all get drunk and trashed and beat each other up. and ex enables my kids to be just like them. and they are getting sicker and sicker mentally. How can I help my kids? My ex cuts them down every chance, but yet, they want to live with them. and they won't or can't live on their own.
2007-02-08 14:06:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
the one that does drugs has been diagnosed with bipolar when he was around 15 years old.
2007-02-08 14:11:48 · update #1
Offer to help them out if they agree to certain conditions, like no drugs, have to work, etc. But be patient, it may take them a while to open up to the idea. They are addicted to the cycle of your ex mistreating them
2007-02-08 14:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by Together 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy! If you know they're doing drugs, send the cops over. Yes, I know it will cost them a lot of hardship, but if you want to force help on to them then this is the only way I can think of besides just trying to level with them. The courts will probably make all of them go throught drug treatment programs, which focus greatly on mental health.
Bad advise? Maybe, but I would do it in a heartbeat if the situation was that hopeless.
2007-02-08 14:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by lissa2882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being the guy you'd probably have to fight hard to gain custody, if that's even an issue at this age. If they're adults, you cant really impose anything upon them. Do you spend much time with them? If so, try a subtle approach. Putting myself in their situation, my dad trying to take a hardline approach to telling me I'm wrong would be counterproductive - they'd see you as the old man killjoy. If you believe in a God, pray. Be accessible and broach the subject whenever possible. Seek advice from professionals in the field.
2007-02-08 14:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get a referral to talk to a psychologist on your own. Ask them what you can do. They'll listen to the detail and together you can make a plan. He or she could also help you sort out your own feelings about everything. When I read your question, I could almost literally feel your pain. I'm so sorry that you feel so helpless to help, you know?? I think it will do you a world of good to let someone in, to talk to, and to help find ways to get your kids out of this unhealthy situation.
2007-02-08 14:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the father and you need to step in and get them help this is abuse and they will end up dead because your ex does not care and they want to live there because they can do what they wany ,but this has to stop get a court order and remove them to a safe place many cities have free mental help places to take them ...do it you will save there lives love kara
2007-02-08 14:30:16 · answer #5 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you get them into an assited living facility? Also, tell them you won't help them financially unless they will seek treatment (therapy, counselling, going to a mental health clinic).
2007-02-08 14:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by zandyandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋