okay so there's this guy that i have been together with about a week. we've been friends before that. these couple of days, he's been sad/crying, because he thinks he's a jerk and thinks i'm mad at him. i keep trying to comfort him, saying i love him, that i was never mad at him, and how he isn't a jerk. he keeps insisting he is. can you please give me some things to say to him, because i hurt so much when he cries. i can't help but cry myself.
2007-02-08 14:05:21 · 6 answers · asked by Hehe. ;]] 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him that he needs to stop crying, he didn't do anything wrong and you will tell him when he does. Also tell him when he cries that he makes you feel bad and just be happy that you two are together!
2007-02-08 14:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, wait a minute...did he do something to say that he is a jerk and cry. If he did then maybe he is a jerk so you need to move on...but if he didn't do anything then why is he crying? Does he feel guilty of something he did that you don't know about or something he wants to do?...
Look you are too young and beautiful to waste your time with him. Be a friend, but that's all. Don't tie yourself down to him and his negativity some people thrive on that and it will never go anywhere good.
2007-02-08 14:18:38 · answer #2 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open up, tell him that he truely isn't a jerk. Tell him how you truely feel, and how you are being "crushed" inside with him being in that sad state. Keep telling him that you were never mad. (Although him not willing to forgive himself means that he loves you a lot). Just keep trying to convince him. Do some fun things together that you both like. You should also tell him that when he cries, he makes you feel bad too.
I wish you the best of luck,
--Tamino
2007-02-08 14:13:07 · answer #3 · answered by Tamino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand your problem i have a similar situation with my girlfriend. there are times when she will cry and say she is "a bad girlfriend" etc...
here are somethings that i have learned:
first you need to find out what the real problem is, ask him why he feels like a jerk and what he thinks he did to upset you, he will almost definitely be reluctant to answer. all i can say is keep asking and keep trying to figure out what he think he did.
once you know what is wrong, you can start rying to explain to him how he is not a jerk and you weren't angry.
it may be something as simple as a misunderstanding and you reacted to something that has made him feel this way.
it may be he doesn't believe you when you try to comfort him, it is probably not your fault or anything you did just one of his inner problems, all you can do is try to help and try slowly convince him you are being sincere.
you have to be extremely patient with him and slowly try to help. never let him forget you are always there when he needs you, and that you love him dearly.
i hope this helps
2007-02-08 14:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by r_p_gibbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you may not be able to change... Like tell him little things like:
"If I thought you were a jerk, would I be standing here right now?"
"Look, If I was made at you, why would I be talking to you??!"
"You are so awesome, and it's hard to see me putting down yourself like that right now."
"I dont date people who I dont care about, and I am dating you, right?"
After a week and you STILL dont get to him, break up with him. He is probably trying to make u make him feel good, and thats not ok. You dont need him if he is going to act like him.
2007-02-08 14:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have Borderline Personality Disorder?
Consider leaving the relationship unless you can tell him honestly how you feel and get him to stop his outbursts. This is NOT healthy.
2007-02-08 14:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by lissa2882 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋