How do I deal with my father's death?

Question

My father died last sunday. I have no idea how to deal with everything I'm feeling. He was so young. 51 is just too young to die. He was supposed to see me do so much. He was supposed to see me graduate high school, and walk me down the aisle one day, and now I don't have that chance.

I don't want to deal with my family, they make things worse by getting just as emotional.

It's all so much to take in, and I have no idea how to cope with it all.

Answer 1

My mom in law died young as well - at the end of December. My entire family went through that feeling of not wanting to deal with people, including their family members. For days, I didn't go out of the house unless I absolutely had to, because people were just so stupid and I wanted to punch a few. they weren't acting any different, i was just different.

It will get a bit easier.

You can still include your dad in those things in your heart - I've seen several weddings were the dead parent was still emntioned onthe invites, and a picture o fthem was set up at the event so they could be remembered fondly.

I suggest writing all of this down somewhere. And crying when you need to cry. And staying in when you know you'd rather punch people than talk to them.

I wish I could tell you how to deal, but if you ever choose to, you can talk to me about him. Sometimes just talking helps.Feel free to email me any time

If it helps any, I still miss my grandma a great deal, even though she's been dead 18 years now. But now I can go for months without her being on my mind at least once a day, and I can remember her with a smile rather than a tear.

Answer 2

i'm very sorry, but sometimes just u know he was a great man and still is and always will be and i bet hes been there for u so many times so u should be proud that u had a good farther but not only that a best friend, god bless u and your whole family, but still think about him, but go and have a nice time too, and when u graduate, think how proud your dad have been for u, and i bet that day will come for u when u go done that aise, he might not be there with u but up there he nows u would choose the right man for u, and that still love u with all his heart no matter where he is.

Answer 3

I understand completely what you're going through. I lost my dad a couple years ago. It wasn't easy. Seeing my brothers and my mom only made things worse. All I wanted to do was forget that he was gone and try not to get buried underneath a blanket of grief. I did a pretty good job until I saw them load his casket into the back of the hearst. I lost it. All the emotions that I had been holding back for the past few days just came out in a flood of tears. The reality was my dad was gone and I wouldn't be able to see him again. It was horrible. I started to dive into my hobbies and to spend a lot of time with my friends. It made me start to feel 'normal' again. Stay strong. Cry if you need to. It really does help. You will get through this. Trust me. But it will take time.

Answer 4

Losing someone is the hardest thing to deal with. Your pain will go away, but never fully. Eventually you will learn to accept it and figure out how to continue to live without your dad. There will always be a hole in your heart, especially at important events in your future, but you will be okay. You just need time. Try not to let it bring you down. Take a few months and grieve, but continue to live a life that your dad would be proud of. He's still around you and will always be with you.

Answer 5

You will deal with this the best way you know how. Even if you are not sure how that it. Our minds are amazing. I realized I zoned out mentally when my dad died. 20 years later I realized I was too afraid to feel the pain because I still feel it in my heart as if it just happened. My words of advise to you are to try to face it head on and don't be afraid to feel the pain. It's okay to cry in front of anyone or everyone if that's what you feel. Just don't be afraid to feel the hurt of losing your dad. If you don't deal with it now you'll carry it in you for as many years as it takes until you truly face it head on and feel the pain.
I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 6

Death is a translation.

He is still alive in your heart. Your love for him will always keep him alive. I'm sure he'll be happy where ever he is if you do good with your life. You'll see him someday, when you die, try not to worry about it. Never stop loving him, your love will always keep him alive.

Until then, live a great life!

Answer 7

My condolences on the death of your father. You have to live for the future. Remember what you had with your father and he will always be with you. Jump back into your life and enjoy your memories of your Father.