im 19 years old, and i haven't even gone on one date since i was in the 12th grade or since i graduated high school. that was two years ago. last time i really had a boyfriend was in the 9th grade. im not ugly or anything. i am a very shy person. it was a lot easier dating in high school than it is now because there were so many boys at my high school and I would see them everyday. but I go to a vocational school and the majority of the people there are girls. there's only like three guys and they're all gay. I go with my friends to places and hang out, and usually there are a lot of guys there, but usually, they look but they don't approach. I'm not going up to them and start talking becuase i'm affraid of rejection. what should i do?? I wan't to date. what am i doing wrong?? how do I get over my shyness when it comes to guys? I feel so ashamed
2007-02-08 13:42:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One thing that i have noticed hugely with guys that confidence and a strong sence of self worth (women who tend to put a lot of work in there appearance) is what attracts them. You know that you aren't ugly now show that you are confident smile and let out a laugh. bat those eye's, a smile is an excellent way too get someones attention. it also will make you feel better Hang out in places you are comfortable enroll in a community class doing something that you enjoy. Great place to meet people like you which will make it all the more easier to let loose and pick up a guy or make a new girlfriend, Girlfriends are the bomb. Make a girls nite go out and have a good time all girls, great way to boost your confidence tell yourself your going to go out of your comfort zone once a day and do something say someting to someone that you normally wouldn't do. You'll do great. Also remember there just a guy, they have feelings too and maybe the reason they haven't approached you is because there shy too. Good lookin women have the hardest time meeting good looking guys too cause men think they have this attitude that they are too good for them, please don't think that i am saying that about you. SO increase that selfconfidence girl. Go reinvent and create yourself and have fun doing it we are the only ones that can take charge of what it is that we want and go after it. If your rejected and it happens to the best looking people try try again.
A friendly note from
one of the girls
2007-02-08 14:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being shy is natural, probable cause of shyness is lack of self confidence and trust... "afraid of being rejected" is just one of the factor that adds for you to put walls between you and a guy. But you really got to look and search through your inner soul for the answer, people can give you millions of advice even hundred millions but without looking and searching from within those advice would just simply be a waste of time... everything starts from within....
2007-02-08 14:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by *Pretty Pink* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be shy but confidence is the key. Be yourself act like you do around your friends. Dont wait for him to approach you.
2007-02-08 13:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by sunrisevirgo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just flirt with one and start talking to him... there is nothing wrong with it. and believe me when i say don't be afraid being rejected.... everyone else had been rejected one or twice or even more...
2007-02-08 13:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by ahleks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not ugly then you must be pretty!! so go talk to them is they reject you then thats thier problem and think of them as cute bi*ches!!!
2007-02-08 13:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get there and talk to them.
Good luck
2007-02-08 13:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋