What should I do?

Question

OK, I am seriously in need of some good advice. Alright, I trust my friends plenty enough, but in matters relating my love life, I'm not too trusting of my friends.

I have 4 friends, I'll name them J, T, L and S. I trust J the most, and I haven't been friends with him for long, but I trust him more, due to events in the past. I trust S less than J, and I trust T less than S. OK, so here's the order, starting with most trusted. J, S, T then L.

Now, J hasn't been at school for the past 2-3 days. And I hope to God that he will be at school tomorrow, because I need to ask him something, and I don't trust S, T or L with this information. Now, if he's not there tomorrow, should I ask S? I don't really trust him too much, nor do I even trust L at all, because when I told Lwho I liked once, he told S and they asked the girl if she would go out with me, and she didn't even know me.

So my question is, if J isn't there tomorrow, should I ask S?

I asked this because no one's ever at Friends section. Anyway...

I asked this because I wanted to send my crush a gift for V-Day in school. And I would ask J that, but I'll ask you guys this too. Should I send it?

By the way, I am shy, so I'm just sending a candygram, a little thing set up by the school where you send a box of Sweethearts, a heart-shaped lollipop and a card.

And I don't have J's number. Forgot to add that.

Answer 1

1) A friend is some one you can trust on, absolutely.
Not plenty enough, more or less than. Those are acquaintances.

2) You can get advise from your friends. But if you are not
too trusting of them in matters relating your love life,
don't ask anyone. Decide by your self.

3) In "Additional Details", you are asking people you don't even
know. I can understand that. We don't know you nor your
crush, so that won't bring to you further complications.
But that gives me the opportunity of giving you some good
advise. Trust more on yourself.

4) About the gift for V-day, I would give it personally. But if you
prefer to send it, just do it. Gifts are always welcome.

Answer 2

No not if you really dont trust him b/c he might tell the girl.....maybe you should send a v-card but make it secret dont sign your name leave lil clues and keep doing it even after v-day that way she won't know and by then j should be back at school to see if you should let her know who you are.....

Answer 3

why dont you just call J or e-mail him, text him. you have a couple more days to ask him. i would go ahead and do it. and if u dont feel comforable with your other friends dont even ask them. go by gut feelings. so do it. is what i would. an you will never know the out come. sometimes your going to have to do things on your own with out any help from friends or family. try it on your own once. you might feel better by making your own choice.

Answer 4

if you're a guy, i do not recommend telling your friends this, especially if you are in high school. i say, give the girl the valentine, and if your friends ask, just say it's something you want to keep private. your friends may hoot and holler, but just trust your instincts. do what you think is right. (but fyi, all girls like to know they're liked!)

Answer 5

ok i think you should wait till j gets there cuz you could trust him to understand you than yuor other friends and i think you should send you crush something for V-Day!!

Answer 6

Grow up. This is so juniorhighish. Do what you want too and who cares about what the others think.

Answer 7

I wouldn't ask any of them. You obviously have issues with all of them. Try asking your parents if it's that important.

Answer 8

no need to think about it... just send the gift so that she'll know

Answer 9

dont tell the any one but j ok

Answer 10

Its called a phone, call 'J' and tell him.