My boyfriend and I have been planning to get married next year. And his mother told us that planning ahead is a sin. That you live for today only. But somehow I dont think thats right. Because people plan to get married, have birthday parties and to have babies. Can anyone give me their opinion?
2007-02-08 13:28:39 · 17 answers · asked by SweetestTaboo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think his mother is insane. NO IT IS NOT A SIN!
2007-02-08 13:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, planning ahead is not a sin. If you're Christian (sounds like it), then think about the passages where people "reap what they sow."
(by the way, sowing is planting seed. reaping is picking the plants after they've matured, months later.)
Passages like this show why it's understood that we are to plan -- otherwise, why would people ever plant seeds? It's understood that all plant seeds, some good and some bad. So, in a sense, you can't help planning ahead. Not planning, is, essentially, a default plan to not change anything.
Think of it this way -- when Jesus says not to worry about the clothes on our backs, and look at the lillies of the field and how our Father clothes them, he doesn't mean, "get ready for free clothes and you'll never work again," but that God will take care of people according to how God wants to take care of them. We are called to ask, "give us this day our daily bread," not because we aren't planting grain, but because everything is from God -- he made the grain, he makes the rain, etc. Jesus also prayed, "lead us not into temptation," a prayer for the future. Worrying, God says, about the future unreasonably (meaning, at the expense of the present) is silly, because "no one knows the hour of His coming, not even one," and tomorrow you may be dead or in heaven. But Jesus planned -- he sent disciples ahead to make arrangements in town, as did Paul during his ministry. All of Christian history is full of people planning. Do preachers not prepare sermons ahead of time? Don't you fill your car up with gas so you don't run out later? What's the difference between planning ahead 1 day and 1 year?
2007-02-08 13:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Snookable 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I have never heard of planning ahead being a sin. It's actually just plain intelligent to plan ahead. I think somewhere she just got one of those inspirational poster quotes mixed up with a Bible quote. Trust me, if you don't plan out your wedding entirely in ample time (like leaving the planning to three days before you plan on getting married) you will have a lot of trouble booking things, inviting people, etc. Also, don't sweat stuff that you disagree with your mother-in-law about. Wise advice I was once told: You are not just marrying your husband, you are marrying his family.
2007-02-08 13:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by KS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering does she want you to elope. That might be less planning. I'm just kidding. Half of the fun is planning. It only makes sense to plan. Of course you take into consideration "if the Lord wills" and pray about your plans ahead of time. I'm glad your boyfriend goes along with making plans. How many more fruity ideas does does your mother-in-law have? I think I'd make sure I knew where husband to be stood on some of these issues that may not seem important for now,but might be very important later.
2007-02-08 13:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's wrong. Planning ahead is not a sin. Ask her this...if planning ahead is a sin, when are you supposed to get the:
dress, tux, photographer, flowers, musician...and all the other things you need for a great wedding?
After?
Is she kidding?
2007-02-08 13:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Planning ahead has never been a sin - it was good common sense and good practice - as in God helps those who help themselves. that includes planning for the future.
You're fine - future mom in law is a bit cracked.
2007-02-08 13:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Planning ahead is a sin? Now I've heard everything.
NO, planning ahead is NOT a sin. It is a smart and responsible thing to do.
2007-02-08 13:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Faustina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, both you and your future mother-in-law are right.
As christians you should learn from the lambs. They go where the shepherd leads them. Do they plan? No.
But can we plan? Yes, you can plan, but bear this in mind, Man proposes, God disposes. You do not sin by planning, but by insisting your ways. Your plan must involve God.
Pray "God, if you will permit me, let me have my wedding next year, but should you think its not a good idea, let your will be done"
And God will be pleased with you.
2007-02-08 13:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mother needs to clarify her position. You can respectfully ask her questions in order to understand why she believes as she does, and you can also explain why you believe as you do. There needs to be mutual respect for each other's beliefs, and you need to start working on that NOW. This is a free country and people are free to believe what they choose to believe. She needs to recognize this, respect this, and let you and her son live as you see fit. If she intends to interfere and introject her beliefs into your marriage, the trouble is just beginning. Better to begin seeking mutual understanding before she becomes accustomed to pushing her ideas onto you.
2007-02-08 13:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by sonOman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your purpose, Planning is good if you plan it for good and in accordance with my God's way. to know more ask the right person...his name is Bro. Eli Soriano, ask him and surely you'll find the rightful answer. I know cause I did,
heres the link: http://www.truthcaster.com
2007-02-08 13:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Boyet from PH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋