his question may seem long, however i am only including the relevent info because i believe this is a unique situation and need some advice.
I am in my mid twenties and i had been dating this lovely lady for a few months. We started off as friends (but i always liked her so i always hoped for more.) This lady is the same age as me and she has been through a lot. She had two brain surgeries within a year and a half and after the first one, her boyfriend of a year broke up with her in the hospital via a text message (so he was a real jerk.) The second surgery was completed August 2006 (so it is fairly still fresh.)
Going into this relationship she told me that before i came around she kinda hated all men and that she wanted to take things really slow. Things between her and I were going extremly well and there was no sign of anything wary. About two weeks ago she told me that she did not get "the butterflies when we kissed and that she wanted to break up but remain friends"
2007-02-08 13:12:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She also told me that she had been feeling like that for a month.
Two weeks before we broke up we made plans for me to go to a wedding as her date and go upstate for a different weekend. She even brought it up a few days prior to the break up. Why would she make/agree with the plans if she knew she was going to break up with me? She also told me that she wants to remain friends with me. This whole thing seems like it came out of left field. Here are my questions
1. What does it mean when she says there is no spark? Is she making an excuse for something else? Does it mean she isnt pysically attracted to me?
2. Does it mean that there will never be a connection between her and I?
3. Why would she insist that we stay friends knowing that its near impossible for me to do so? Should i stay friends with her?
4. Is there something i can do to win her back?
Serious answers only (ive asked this question before so im looking for new opinions. I REALLY AM IN LOVE WITH HER :(
Thanks
2007-02-08 13:16:05 · update #1
maybe she doesn't believe that she will "get better" so she could be trying to spare your feelings so if she goes you won't lose it and then u won't be able to move on with your life
2007-02-08 13:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Selena♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Candle lit dinners and a lot of understanding and pampering will go a long way and may solve your problem, but if it doesn't its time too look elseware and remain friends, for your own sake. Take care Heather
2007-02-08 21:17:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not too late continue being a good friend and things may progress further later.
2007-02-08 21:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just needs time as she has been through a lot,
2007-02-08 21:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋