I found out not too long ago that I have a biological father. Since we first met, he has offered to send money and help me out with rent expenses but I feel like I'm taking advantage of him whenever I accept his generosity. I don't want to feel like this or that he "owes" me or something. I have a great father in my life, but he won't help me out with expenses like my bio father has offered to do. Should I accept the money or no?
2007-02-08 13:10:37 · 5 answers · asked by aslgirl143 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if i was your father and i missed out on your childhood i would want to see that you are happy and safe and not suffering due to a lack of money.
he loves you and wants to help you, dont deny him that. parents should help their kids and in your case he has alot of catching up to do. you sound like a good person, who wont take advantage of anyone so you will know when to stop, but for now just give him a hug and thank him for his help and support, its what a dad is for.
2007-02-09 00:41:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I don't know you, but personally you sound like a money-hungry goblin to me. Sure you've got your expenses and it might be easy to let someone give you money from time to time but unless you re-pay it you are missing out on some important life lessons my little gold-digger. Everyone struggles with money from time to time, but by adjusting our budgets or doing what it takes to make it work ourselves we become stronger and wiser. The only time I would understand you dippin into Ol' Sugar Daddies "money sack" is if it were an emergency. That's what your (non-biological) dad is trying to teach you by not offering wads of money every time you come along an obstacle. If your accepting money from your bio-dad with no intentions of developing a real "Father-Daughter" relationship with him your basically saying that you can be "bought". -Holla
2007-02-09 16:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Smirx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you bio father is feeling guilty about not being there to be a father to you and is trying to make up in the only way he knows how, you would not be wrong in accepting it. but do offer to repay when you are financially able to and make it clear to him that you don't want to feel like you are taking advantage of his offer. you will be making him feel better about himself if you do take the money, also if you can do some chores for him in return, offer to do so.
2007-02-08 21:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by cvgm702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he offers, it's only courteous to accept it, especially if you need it. I think he may be trying to repay in money what he could never give you as a father.
2007-02-08 21:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to you but its ok if you accepted it because as a father he has to do that...right? gud luck ^_^
2007-02-08 21:50:51 · answer #5 · answered by wEnNy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋