I have a boyfriend that I love soo very much but it seems to me when he is depressed I have the denceince of listing to his problems, but when it comes to my problems of my feelings he does not want to listen and he becomes a different person that I do not like. I feel like that he is shutting me out completely because, he has changed his password for his email and for yahoo answers. I feel like he is looking else where for a other female then with me, We want through soo much and he is trouhging it all away. What can I do for him to stop being a jerk and start listening to my problems of my feelings?
2007-02-08 13:10:02 · 6 answers · asked by shakiraalejandra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey if this helps- guys are basically not good listeners.if your the kind to go on talking and want to share your problems ,you should possess a set of good girl friends,coz they will be more understanding and they enjoy long conversations more than guys.
leave him alone and dont try to push yourself on him.that will drive him away.just let him be, let him change passwords,let him not respond to you, you do your own thing. change your attitude,coz girl that's the only way. you can never push for more importance and attention.it has to happen naturally.
and yeh '' all guys are animals- its just that some make better pets.''
2007-02-08 13:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do, is distance - at this point. There is no need for you to have his pass-world for e mail. If you initiated the need to check up on his e mail, then this was not a trusting move. What I have learned is, there is absolutly no point in jelousy. It is a total waste of time. What people want to do, they will find a way to do, any outside desire to stop that person from doing what that person wants to do, can and usualy does manifest a situation where - the person who does not want that action creates the action through sugestive thought and quizing. What you need to do in my opnion, is focus on a talent of yours and just let that take your heart to a happy place.
Do not allow yourself, to be driven by blind love. You can find yourself loving somone who does not feel the same way. Maybe he does, but if he is not an equil partner in the listening department, it could mean many things, so don't get all worked up over it. A suggestion is let him ask about you for once. Just kind of let things happen instead of trying to get answers, just let them come to you. If he cares, you will eventualy know, if he does not and you continue to feel that way, there are many available people in this world, just kind of dump him without all the fuss and move on. Every person goes through this, but just remember you cannot force change in another person. Just take it one day at a time, and do other things that make you happy, dont rely on anyone for that, or you will be waiting until your hair turns white. Try something artistic for a change and just let him come to you in interest, of what your doing and thinking. Turn the tables, it's not hard to do.
2007-02-08 21:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by firstamendmentpress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry that you have to deal with this!! Maybe he is going through a hard time in his life or something big has changed
and doesnt need the stress of listening to yor problems. for right now find a friend that will listen to you and just be there for your BF (Maybe thats al he needs) but if this keeps going on you have to discuss it with him!!!!!!!!!!
Hope that helped
2007-02-08 21:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it to his attention.He may not be aware that he doesn't listen to you.Men are like that sometimes.If he seems unconcerned drop him at the door.There is someone sensitive enough to listen and care about your feelings,but you'll never know as long as you waste time on someone who doesn't.If you think he is trying to shut you out,bring that to his attention as well.Sometimes it is easier for them to show you that they don't want you anymore,than it is for them to tell you.This is why you should go on a persons actions,because a person can make their mouth say anything.
2007-02-08 21:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by girlqueen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that it's not all about him. That a relationship is two people not one. If he is shutting you out this conversation needs to happen ASAP, or he might permanently shut you out. Tell him like it is. Good luck!
2007-02-08 21:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
say, not to be mean or anything but sometimes i feel like you don't care about me because i have feeling and problems to and i want you to know them or something like that
2007-02-08 21:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Selena♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋