ok so, i am not in a relationship with this guy but we're on the verge of one like we're dating but we're not officially bf/gf so the other day i hooked up with his best friend after school. My guy doesn't know about it but i feel bad that it happened. Should i tell him or no. I kind of like his best friend but i don't know what to do in this situation...ahhh please help!
2007-02-08 13:04:22 · 12 answers · asked by Leannedrufy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jees, you've put yourself right up **** creek without a paddle on this one! You're sorta damned if you tell him and damned if you don't, cos if you tell him, chances are he's not gonna trust you and may even cut all ties with you - best friends - especially when it's guys - are off limits. Not only may he not wanna talk to you again, it would probably cause a major fight between him and his mate. Bad move on your part hunnie...
On the other hand, if you don't tell him, there's the guilt that you'll feel, plus the chance that he could find out from someone else... and if that happens, well you're screwed cos it'll look like you were purposely trying to hide it.
First of all, you need to decide who it is you're interested in and stick with that person. If it's the best friend, then you're gonna have to deal with the main guy's feelings - especially seeing you guys are all but together officially. If you chose the main guy then depending on the sort or person he is (understanding and level headed Vs. irrational and quick to anger) I'd either:
a). Come clean and make light of it saying it happened, it shouldn't have, but it meant nothing, and that you're really into him (don't try to blame it on the best friend for making a move unless he really did, cos chances are he'll verify this story with his mate, and if you're found to be lying,well.....***** before chicks as I've heard the saying go...) OR.
b). Don't tell him and hope for the best and if he does find out, revert to plan a).
2007-02-08 13:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, bad girl...slap your hand dear. If you really, really liked this guy you are on the verge of being a bf/gf with you should have just stayed on track. Obviously you are not ready for the real thing yet. Own up to yourself that you are just wanting some attention you are not getting from this guy and that is why you went out with the other. It is not a good thing because now his best friend is also a jerk and put all three of you in a bad spot. I have to say that all you really should do is be honest with yourself and others. This is why people should not date unless they really ready for a relationship, otherwise you end up hurting others and yourself. How can your on the verge to be bf trust you? How you trust yourself? How can the new guy trust you knowing you did this eventhough it is with him and he may feel flattered for now?
2007-02-08 13:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you sorta wanna date this guy, yet you went and had a one-night-stand with his best friend? what kinda girl are you?
if you don't tell him, he'll probably find out soon enough. i'm sure he'd be hurt to know you are taking things very slow with him, and are giving him signs of an interest in a relationship, yet you rush into bed with his friend and not him..
i think you should leave this guy alone. he deserves better than someone who sleeps with his best friend.. even if you weren't "officially" bf and gf, it sounds like you sorta were bf/gf, so what you did sorta seems like cheating if you ask me
2007-02-08 13:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really like him u should tell him about the best friend. it sounds like you are confused because you cant have the best friend too. but if u are going to get in a relationship its better to tell him now than he find out later!!!! trust me
2007-02-08 13:07:45 · answer #4 · answered by peachez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One make your mind up. On which one you want. Than tell both of them how you feel. You have to choose, before you are out, like yesterdays trash. Good Luck
2007-02-08 13:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetblue85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are trying to get with a guy and you sleep with his best friend? Way to go. Gonna bang his brother next?
2007-02-08 13:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by Steveo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. It might be painful. But everyone will get deeper there. It will clear the confusion and create less turmoil later..
2007-02-08 13:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by thunderbleu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok, as long as you didn't do anything lovelike (kissing/hugging thing). And even if you tell him, he will understand if he is your best friend, trust me on that!
Just remember:
It's OK, you aren't screwed, and a good talk is a good thing to do.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-08 13:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet_summer_breeze 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go with what you feel...if you like his best friend,drop him
2007-02-08 13:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lady B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose otherwise they'll both hate you.
2007-02-08 13:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋