Why cant my dad just respect my privacy?

Question

Im very private with things, especially my room. I dont know why. I always have the door closed and I really dont like people in my room. I guess im kinda paranoid. But my dad is always opening my door. Its wide open when I get home, I hate that. I close it again just to find it open a while later. It seems like hes always in my room for some reason. My room door has signs like
PLEASE KNOCK or
DO NOT ENTER
but he never even looks at that stuff. He just barjes in without knocking.
Why does he do this?

Answer 1

Not knowing the whole story, I'll just say this. In most homes, privileges are given in general. When there is a transgression of trust, restrictions are applied. This transgression maybe as simple as a change in routine, friends or habit. Make no mistake, you are not grown, it is not your room, for it is not your house. Do what your parents ask (legal and descent). If you have always been private, what caused your dad to violate that now, or has he always been that way? There are many children left to guide themselves threw life, having no parent, even none caring. Everywhere you go there are rules governing, rules that are not wanted. There are always dues to pay of some sort. Life at home is the easiest environment you ever have. Talk to your dad.

Answer 2

Sometimes parents can be overbearing. They feel like since they own the house, they can go in any room they want.
He might be worried about you, maybe you have been distant or different lately, and he thinks that by barging in your room he might catch you doing something.
Depending on what kind of relationship you guys have, you could tell him in a nice way that you want to keep your door shut. Do you have pets or siblings? Use that as your excuse, that you don't want them coming in your room. And be open with you parents...if they trust you they might not snoop so much.
My mom read my diary when I was 16, and I got grounded for 4 months. I know about privacy...I am 29 now, and looking back I should have been more open.

Answer 3

My father never would go into my room growing up even though it was his house, he respected my privacy. Your father is snooping, that's it and that's all. In college I had a landlord who would come over uninvited to snoop on us in his house. So you know what I did when he came over unannounced? I found work for him to do. "Since you're here already, the dishwasher is broke..." or "Thank god you're here, the heater isn't working." Get the idea? He stopped coming over after a few of those.

So you know what you do...give your dad a reason not to go in your room. Plant something that would make him NEVER want to go in your room again. Off the top of my head...maybe a female hygeine product...I'm a guy and I run from that stuff like its the plague. Use your imagination. Make him learn to respect your privacy.

Also, start going into his room unnanouced. See how he likes his privacy ruined. Just walk in and look around the room for something. Or plant something in his room of yours (bra or thong) go into the room when he's there, get it, then accuse him of taking it without permission. Mess with his mind.

Answer 4

You certainly have a point, he should respect your privacy unless you have given him some reason not to.. like doing drugs or sneaking friends in through the window... etc.. Baring anything there, I would suggest you talk to him about it... You're not a little kid anymore, you're probably not going to swallow a toy and choke to death or anything like that.. You are now a young person and would like to feel like your room is your private space where you can be yourself and enjoy "your space".. He should understand that being a kid himself once... It's really all about that, so if he doesn't get it... well I don't know... just keep trying to get him to understand... Do it nicely, not with attitude... That is, you deserve it, but it is his house (including your room), so if he allows it, it's not because he has to, it's because he respects you enough to allow it and give you that freedom.
- good luck

Answer 5

Have you ever talked to your dad about how you feel? and how old are you? if you're in your teens, you def need some time for yourself in your own space. Does your mom live with you? If I were you, I would either speak to your mom and/or dad and just let them know that you like having some privacy. if you haven't brought it up before, they may not realize you have a problems with what is going on. just be open and let them know your feelings and see what they say.

Answer 6

well I'm a dad with a daughter at home, and I always respect her privacy, but if your dad has a problem with that, maybe try leaving out some personal\private stuff that would be embarrassing to him, like maybe some tampons on the dresser, with some rubbers too, better yet find a camcorder, hide it and film him, and then stick it in the dvd recorder before he gets home, then hit play and theN HIDE AND WAIT FOR HIS REACTION.........

Answer 7

First its your dad's home, unless you are paying rent, he can go anywhere he wants. Second if you want your dad to respect your privacy then talk to him like an adult and tell him your reasons why. Third remove that idiotic sign. Finally unless you have something serious to hide from your dad you really should not be worried (right??). When you have your own place do whatever the heck you want - no one is going to stop you.

Answer 8

Along as your father is moral he has every right too! Why do you teens thinks parents don't have a right to stay on top of your butts?! Teens do some whacky stuff and you guys don't think y'all just do! So he's doing his job. Your his baby girl, come on. I do my daughter the same why, I even go through her little purses, Yes I do! Thats my JOB to parent.

Are you being sneaky, have you changed habits-your moods? Do you act boy crazy? I'll tell you this and I hope you understand it-when daugthers leaves daddy knee-good daddies become very mindfull to your actions. He paying closer attention then you think. I hope he's talking with you while watching over you.

Answer 9

parents dont understand that privacy is very important.....but im in college now and i still dont get privacy.....dorm parents walk in everyones room with no real reason hus because they think were having sex, or we have pets and cooking appliances in or rooms.....dont trip when you get yo own crib i say you go all out wit it LIL MAMA

Answer 10

if you behave al the time ask him why he is always in your room and tell him you'd feel more comfortable if he would respect your privacy just a little bit more