What do you all think about a woman asking a man to marry her. My bf keeps saying stuff about marriage but never has followed through with buying a ring or anything. So when i ask some of my friends they tell me to ask him. What do you all think?
2007-02-08 12:47:27 · 38 answers · asked by mojosbaby41472 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not in a hurry really just wanted opinions
2007-02-08 12:52:25 · update #1
Don't do what your friends think you should do or what people on here tell you to do. If you love him and you want to marry him then yes, I think you should ask him. But really do what you want to. It's your life and this is obviously going to be a big part of it, no matter who asks who.
2007-02-08 12:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by figglepie123 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Personally, I won't do it. Even some of the most liberal men I know aren't fans of the idea. And like another poster, I feel that when he is ready he'll do it. His hesitation is likely a sign that he is not. I know that it's easy to be impatient and women seem to be naturally bigger fans of the idea, especially at younger ages, but just be patient. Why are you in such a hurry? Finding the answer to such a question is important. If you do this, do you buy him a ring? Will that mean you don't get one? Is that important to you? Why is he hesitating? Why don't you try some pre-marital type counseling and see where your relationship really stands.
2007-02-08 12:54:21 · answer #2 · answered by rumezzo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, personally i don't see anything wrong with that. The only problem is you have to make sure you have i guy you think wouldn't care. Because he might think he's "less of a man" or that he wants to marry you, but he was waiting on his own time. So, just watch for a while, see if he gets his nerves up. If he doesn't then looking into asking him yourself.
2007-02-08 12:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by laangel464 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am keeping my last name when I marry. I spit and curse. I drink beer and I'm doing a job that most guys only do. But, I would never ask a guy to marry me. There's just some things in this world that have to be left up to the guy. And if he hasn't asked you yet, it's probably 'cause he's not ready. What's your hurry?
2007-02-08 12:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, if u are really sure u like him enough to marry him, ask. but how long have you two been together? a lot of divorces usually happen three years after the marrige so date for at least that long before marrying him so u know if u are ready to spend ur whole entire life with that guy. so if you are really really sure you want to marry him, ask him. hey, that will make a great story to tell your kids!(especially if you do the bow on one knee thing.)
2007-02-08 13:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by amallama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DONT your breaking tradition listen VALENTINES Day is coming up you never know what is planned. Girls dream about their dream wedding but guys dream well not so much dream lol about their proposal dont take that away from him give him a chance. Dont you want him to be the one to wear the pants in the family. Give him time, maybe he will do it when you least expect it. I dont know if you watch the shows FRIENDS but itz my favorite show and they went through the same thing. Monica thought chandler wouldnt propose because he made her think that and when he was going to everything got in the way monica bagan to propose but then chandler finsihed it off. Maybe you bf is trying to keep you off track especially if he keeps on talking about weddings. Watch Friends and you will understand good luck
2007-02-08 12:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could do that. But what if he's waiting for a perfect time to ask you? And maybe if you ask him he'll say no because he'll feel bad because he's the one who has to ask you. Just wait a while, or joke about it and say "So when are we finally going to get married" or something like that.
2007-02-08 12:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by ♠lAUGhTERZ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl Plz. I would never ask a guy to marry me. U no y becuz if hes not asking yet. Then hes not ready for that kind of thing.
2007-02-08 12:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by babysholla 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with haley
if you push him he will feel obligated and the magic will be gone
women in general are ready for marriage way before the guy even starts to think about it....give it time....maybe make so more hint on the subject, but dont demand it
2007-02-08 12:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you think you are both ready for marriage, and you're doing it for the right reasons (getting married won't fix problems like infidelity, trust me!) then in this day and age I see no problems at all with you asking your man to marry you. Good luck hun!
2007-02-08 12:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋