help please!!!!!?

Question

Hey everyone. Well. My dad is very overprotective. like i cant go anywhere without being watched secretly(no i'm not famous, i am a normal girl in a small town) but i cant txt ppl privatly, I cant call ppl cuz our phone lines are rigged with monitors. and all i have is my MSN. and its my life, my only way to privatly talk to my boyfriend who I love SO much but my dad hates and dosnt know i am dating him. but listen to this. MY DAD IS GOING TO RECORD MY MSN CONVERSATIONS!!! okay the phone and txt was fine i can get around that but MSN. NO he CANT do that. I dont know what monitor he is going to use. But I need help; I need to find a way to block the monitor from monitoring my IP adress. If anyone knows how to do this PLEASE help me. I am desperate need of help right now!! Thank you so much who ever reads this and helps me with it.

♥ttyl

Answer 1

One thing you did not say is, What have you done to make your father not trust you other then dating the guy that he said your dad hates. Why does you dad hate him? what did he do?
There are alot of things that you have left out.
Your father has every right to monitor your every move.
You will get the rights to do things when you grow up and take care of yourself. right now he is taking care of you.

Answer 2

I'm going to assume that you haven't done anything to cause his lack of trust. Or have you? Be honest.

If you haven't, this goes beyond protective--all the way to mental illness. You might try speaking with a school counselor about the situation.

As in all questions of this sort, it would be a big help to have some background. Ages, at least. If you're twelve, you have little to no reason to demand such freedom. If you're sixteen, OK. Unless the boyfriend is several years older than you, in which case the scales again tilt in your father's favor. Although if phone calls are being recorded, it is very likely illegal.

Answer 3

Honey, instead of always hiding, why not take away the need to hide? Ask your dad WHY he feels the need to monitor all your conversations. Have you been dishonest in the past, that he doesn't trust you now, or have you been in danger in the past, that he doesn't trust the rest of the world not to hurt you?

Your dad is taking it a bit too far, and there are ways to calm his fears without lying to him. Compromise with him - offer to introduce him to all your friends, including your boyfriend, and their families, so he knows you're hanging out with good people. Remind your dad that you can't start ACTING like an adult until he starts TREATING you like one - and that includes respecting your privacy. You should be able to talk, text, and message privately, as long as you can assure your father that you are not going anything immoral or illegal. Show him your contact lists so that he is assured you are talking to people he knows, and not potentially dangerous people.
Work WITH him, not AGAINST him, and you'll both be much happier.

Answer 4

Did you ever try to talk to your dad? Try asking a question about overprotective fathers and see if anyone else has gone through the same situation and see how they handled it. Because if you get your tech related answer, that still won't solve the true problem: you're dad's fear of letting go.

Answer 5

you don't have to block it, more like use it to your advantage. write to him that you'll meet up a particular spot. but in school tell him a different location on the opposite side of town.

you can't really stop the monitoring of an address especially if controls the main address. you can set up your own network setup on a thumb drive. and adding an OS like Linux to one can limit some of the observations.

if you can get into his machine, you might be able to block your address using his host file. there also might be encryption software you can use that would scramble as it goes out. and if he is using a backdoor, you can get removers for that.

also, if you have a wireless network set up, like on a PDA, you can use someone elses IP - because many aren't password protected and use that. especially internet cafe's - actually that's your best bet.

Answer 6

Turn off the keeping a history of your conservations on your msn.
Does your dad know your password?
Try to use your msn on someone's else computer.
Try to set up a user account on your yahoo.

Answer 7

TALK TO YOUR DAD. MOST FATHERS WOULD DO THAT THEN THERE ARE SOME THAT DON'T CARE AT ALL BUT REGRET IF SOMETHIN' HAPPENS. WAS YOUR DAD IN THE SERVICE OR SOMETHIN' TALK THINGS OUT LET HIM KNOW YOU NEED YOUR SPACE TOO. THAT'S ANOTHER THING NOWADAYS WITH PARENTS BEING OVER PROTECTED. NOTHING WRONG BUT THAT'S JUST A EASY WAY OUT FOR THEM AND NOT TRYING TO GET TO KNOW THEIR KIDS. TALK IT OUT AND SOLVE IT! YOU SHOULD JUST OPEN UP WITH YOUR PARENTS AND INTRODUCE YOUR MAN TO THEM SO THEY'LL KNOW WHO THEIR DAUGHTER IS WITH. BOTH PARENTS AND KIDS NEED THEIR SPACE BUT ALSO RESPECT IT TOO

Answer 8

Well my dad is over protective too but I have divorced parents so I do all that stuff at my moms but anyway why dont you go to your best friends house and do all the stuff you want too unless her parents are overly protective too well i hope i helped u a bit

Answer 9

wow he is hard on you, isn't he? Now let me ask you, are you living in his house? Does he support you with food, shelter, clothes? What has been done in the past to make him feel that he needs to use this type of monitoring? You have only told one side, now please tell his.

Answer 10

thts really overprotective if you've been doin your chores he should have no problem if you speak to him with as much respect as you can and say "father i love you but i feel you are choking me with security could you plz give me some slack and let me keep my MSN"