ok well I have a bf but I don't really like him anymore I like another guy but I know if I break up with him I'll break his heart he wants to bring me back150$ of stuff from Hawii......he is such a sweat bf but the truth is I don't like him anymore plz help me!!!!
2007-02-08 12:34:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
then tell him the truth!! dont lead him on thats not right
2007-02-08 12:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by mother of teenagers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds cliched, but I think you're going to have to have the "it's not you, it's me" talk with him. Whatever you do, don't mention the other guy you're now interested in, because that will just hurt and humiliate him further, and don't accept any gifts from him if you've made up your mind to end it with him, otherwise you'll look like a user.
A word of warning though: Has the guy you now like only started paying attention to you since you got a bf? If so, he could be one of the classic "wants-what-he-can't-have" guys, who would say pretty much anything to get you (or it seems that way - they flatter you with compliments, maybe give you small gifts, whatever). For these guys, however, it's all in the thrill of the chase. Once you're available (usually after you've broken up with your current man) they don't want you any more, because the excitement's gone. Or if you two do get together, you'll find he's not as sweet and attentive as he was in the beginning and you'll regret your decision to end your previous relationship.
So if you're thinking about dumping your current bf, who's been nothing but nice to you for this guy, just beware of burning your bridges till you've sussed out this new guys' agenda.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 20:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by Nat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the time has come for you to be honest with your BF.
Tell him the truth about how your feelings have changed and be sincere with him. I would not mention this other guy just yet.
But if he is as a swell as you say, he might understand and leave you to move on. I hope you will be happy, and I pray that your bf does not leave with a broken heart.
Good Luck.
2007-02-08 20:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's go with.... Ummmmm.... Break up with him, but then you know what... It show's your immaturity in relaitionships if you are not ok wiht a good guy... Or your young and innexerienced... in either case, You need to let the good guy know that your've changed and that you want to break up.... Though, do realize that a good guyis hard to find... REALLY hard to find any more... So, do a cost negative analyisis of what you sould do... adn then rbeak up... becuase quesitionsing this is soenthing you will do untill yourelaize what you have... and please, don't go back ot hiim if/when you realize that he was the better option for you...
2007-02-08 20:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you lead him on ! the longer it takes the more hurt you will bring him. Make it as quick as you can . Don't waste his time. He needs to find someone else. Maybe you have someone in mind that he can go out with. Remember one thing though feelings are not something you can turn off and on like a light switch. Finding someone you like more Then dumping someone flat is kind of rude .It sounds like he would be better off without you. Even if he doesn't realize it. Maybe he treated
you to well and you deserve someone who is better looking but treats you like dirt.
2007-02-08 20:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by conan999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason your just not as into him as you were?
If you know in your heart that this relationship is headed for the rocks, I suggest you end it as easily as you can, as easy as it is to end a romantic relationship.
If you do break up with him, take it slow with the new guy, it may be a case of "The Grass is Greener On The Other Side".
2007-02-08 20:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you not tell him how you felt when you started to not have the same feeling he did a month ago?? or whenever it was.. you are totally leading him on now and thats just mean. You are going to break his heart now no matter what..
2007-02-08 20:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell the truth because you lieing to him you are just going to make him hurt even more...
also just tell him that you like someone else but dont break up with the guy and then go out with some one else because that will hurt him even more also make sure you tell him that you like someone else otherwise he may get mad but make sure you stay single for a little while at least
2007-02-08 20:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by alexandra a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him about it. if he gets all mad and defensive and stuff then u will know u r doing the right thing by breaking up with him. if it really does break his heart then give him a second chance or just be friends...
2007-02-08 20:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by .. .. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you want him as a friend ,and that you need your space. Of course it will break his heart but don't lead him on just because he buys you stuff, he needs to find someone who will care for him too.
2007-02-08 20:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by Dee U 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you like him any more? is it simply because you found someone hotter? maybe your not taking in account personality. if the guy is getting you that much stuff for you, he has to like you, you on the other hand sound self centered, and kind of hope the other guy dumps you. maybe you should call him up so he doesn't spend the money.
2007-02-08 20:41:28 · answer #11 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋