I Still Love my ex, not only that he's "in love" with the girl he cheated on me with, what do i do?

Question

He is my 1st love and im still young so dealing with this heart break is hard. I really love him and wanna be with him help me out plz

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your pain. Unfortunately, you cannot make him love you. If you really start to analyze the relationship though, you will eventually realize you are better off without him. He cheated on you and betrayed that love. I strongly advise you to think about being with someone who didn't care enough to not cheat on you. He does not deserve you. It is hard to believe that now, because you still have such strong feelings for him, but it is true. And of course it hurts that not only did he cheat, but now he has the feelings for her that he once shared with you.
First loves can be the hardest to get over, but remember it is only your first love. You will experience another in time. Keep yourself busy and seek out the support of your friends and family during this time. And remember you deserve much better than that.

Answer 2

Your first love will ALWAYS be a tough heartbreak. Here's the thing though, if you think about it hard, and I mean hard, will you ever be able to trust him again? Will it be worth the trouble of trying to win him back. If he cheated on you, he isn't the one for you. He a douche, and I'm pretty sure you deserve better then that low life. This happened to me with my first girlfriend not to long ago, and she cheated on me with my best friend. So i know the pain is hard, but in the long run, it feels better. You will heal, and you will find a guy that cares about you and will make you feel special. The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" is true. Don't feel so bad about the relationship, it's not worth it. Next time you see him just throw something at him, and let him know how much he hurt you, after that, go out with your girlfriends, and just have a good time. When you are surrounded by people who really care about you, you will finally notice that this so called "love" was not a love at all. Trust me, there is better out there. You should find them, not go for the low life scum of the universe that breaks you heart, and then kicks you when your down. Besides, I'll bet it was his loss!

Answer 3

Yep, been there! It is hard to let go and it would be best if you found other things of interest than him. It will hurt but keep you busy. Show him he is not the only fish in the sea and beleive me you will meet plenty and some that would not disrespect you by cheating on you. That should tell you he is a con. Especially since he knew he had you hooked. He did not care that he hurt you and he is not worth the time to even ask this question about him. He is a loser and be glad he is gone!

Answer 4

Let me tell you a story. A year and a half ago, I was in the same boat. I was really into this guy and eventually fell in love with him. After almost being with this same guy for a year, I found a business card with some other girl's name on the back of it. Not to mention the business card was the same business I worked at. Instantly, I knew he was cheating on me. I broke up with him packed up all my stuff and moved-out AND ON! Let me tell you something, breaking up with him was the smartest move I did in that relationship. Not only did I feel sooooo much better about myself for breaking it off, but I felt sooo much better knowing that I did the right thing. Anyway, you gotta let him go. Especially now that he's with the girl that he cheated with. He's not worth it, and it seems to me it's causing you frustration you don't need in your life. Hope that helped some!

Answer 5

Right now you're probably feeling like he's your whole world and you're not too sure how you're going to move on without him but YOU CAN! Being in a relationship can be GREAT when things are good and can really SUCK when it's not. He cheated on you and apparently has moved on so what does that tell you about his feelings towards you? Do you really want to be with someone that can hurt you like that and move on as if your relationship with him meant nothing? You're not going to believe me when I say this but hopefully in time, you'll realize that it's true. A lot of girls don't realize how much they're worth. We tend to pick what ever comes along and roll with it. If your heart is broken and you find yourself crying more then smiling, then there's obviously something wrong and in your case it's him - you don't need that type of relationship. It's hard now but someday you'll find that person that is definitely WORTH your time. Don't look back - keep your head up and SMILE:)

Answer 6

He won't change his mind right now. But you never know with these things. Best for you to feel the sadness and move on. Find things that make you happy or happier and live well. He may see you differently down the line but there are others to be had and he cheated on you so forget him. Learn from this experience. You have youth on your side, but the pain is the same when you are 20 or 30 or even 60. Move on, you deserve to not be cheated on...

Answer 7

It hurts a lot, but if you took him back after he cheated on you, he will forever know he can cheat on you and get away with it.

You know you cant trust him to be true, how can you love someone you cant trust? I think what youre feeling is hurt, not lovesick. You want the rejection to go away and if you can get him back, it will. But only until the next time he screws around on you.

Will you still love him when he gives you a venereal disease from all the messing around?

The best way to forget a man is to start dating ANOTHER man. As a guy who has been cheated on by both girlfriends AND a wife, this is the best advice I can give you.

Answer 8

There is an excellent book that you can never be too young or too old to read and it's called "He's Just Not That Into You". The best thing you can do is read it and then read it again.
Yes this is hard, but if he loved you, he would never have done what he did to you. What YOU need to understand is that you are better than this. Everyone deserves to be loved and respected and you are no exception to that.
It sucks and it's hard, but you have to remind yourself of those two things every day and every time you think about wanting him back. Think about the way he treated you and think about getting treated that way every day for the rest of your life...is that what you want?

Answer 9

In this case, I'm afraid you'll have to move on. It's hard, I know, I went through the same thing, but rememeber this, he cheated on you. He hurt you. And even a small animal recognizes that when something hurts it, not to go near it again. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I didn't always beleive that but, my ex cheated on me with his ex, plenty of times, he would off and on break up and get back together with me. Not only did he cheat on me with her, but also my ex best friend, a girl he met on HotorNot, and a co-worker. He also "borrowed" over 600 dollars and took over a year to pay it back.
You need to do what's best for you now. Isolate yourself from him. It's better not to be friends with the ex, especially the cheating kind, you never know when they may drag you back in and use you again. The only way you can move on is if you just stay away from him. I promise, even if it hurts now, you'll move on.

Answer 10

hun, u need to move on. i know what you want to hear is a magical spell that you can cast on him, that will make him run back to you and live happily ever after. i wish i could do that.
but, the truth is, it isnt gonna happen.
so.....u need to take steps to recovery.
1. accept that he is no longer with you
2. accept that he is with someone else and claims to love her
3. have yourself a nice long cry
4. call your best gf up and tell her u need the heck outta the house.
5. put on a nice outfit that u know makes u look fantastic
6. fix your hair and make up that make all other gals envious
7. go out to a club, or mall or where ever you can go that is full of single males.
8. flirt with every available male u see. even if he isnt all that cute.
9. when u go to school/work put off a vibe of confidence like u have never had before.
10. whenever u feel down, call up a gf or someone u can talk to, that u can vent your anger, sadness blah blah blah to.
11. if you feel like crying.....start at step one and repeat to step 10.

trust me, if you make yourself get out and mingle, u will find another fella that makes u feel just as good if not better than the ex. your ego is crushed right now and thats whats making it so hard. so when he sees u, u act like u arent bothered by it. dont act like u are hurt, u act as confident and happy as ever. make him think u dont care one bit what he done. trust me, it will bug him that he hasnt made u heartbroke. men thrive on being the dominant being. its actually kinda pathetic. lol
every day and every person u meet will put a part of him in your past. it gets better hun,,,,,,but u need to get out and have some fun. it isnt healthy dwelling on something u cant change.
Good luck hun.