My partner and I have been together for a year now and I feel I am ready for another child. Is this too soon or is it ok? We have no intention of getting married so please, no answers about how we should be married first. We have a mutual agreement about not getting married and this does not in anyway mean I am not ready for other things, we just dont believe in marriage. I know I need to talk to my partner about it but was wondering if it is 'socially acceptable' to be talking about it 1 year into the relationship. I have 1 child already who my partner is very close to.
2007-02-08 12:07:06 · 14 answers · asked by kaz 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Kaz if you are sure this man is the one that is for you then you do it There is no rule and you should not be governed by rules in any relationship. If this was a first child i would have said ,OK wait 5 years till you have got things organized. like house, finances, who is going to take the work responsibility and generally got your roles of equality sorted out. This doesn't apply if this is a second relationship, you have mothering experience, he sounds like he has accepted your babe in the package deal and you are probably both fairly comfortable in where you are in the rat race.
Yes it does need discussion with him, but I am sure you already know that and any man living in a relationship knows that at sometime he will be called upon to have his jeans and genes got into. Good luck
2007-02-08 12:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Shelty K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
When is the right or wrong time to have a baby? it is so different for everyone and very personal.
Only you and your partner can answer the question about when you are both ready.
I think after a year together you have had ample time to get to know each other and cement a good strong foundation for a family. I don't see a problem with the both of you committing to your relationship even further by having a child.
Good Luck to you!
2007-02-08 20:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by greeneyes_au_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that's up to you. You should make sure you are both on the same page, have insurance and have the financial means to raise a child. I was married only 5 months before we decided to have a baby. I was pregnant shortly thereafter. We were also together 3 1/2 years by that time.
2007-02-08 20:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're insane to not "believe in" marriage, but ok...
I think a year is too soon. I would wait a minimum of five years.
If you're not going to make a formal legal and spiritual committment to one another, then you need to wait a long time (like 5 years) to make sure that your relationship really has the staying power that you think it does.
Clearly, if you already have a child from a prior relationship, the choices that you're making aren't working real well. How does your child feel about not having her father in her life on a daily basis? Maybe you should ask her, and decide whether or not it's fair to burden another child with your choice BEFORE you reproduce again.
2007-02-08 20:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what matters is if you and your partner are ready for a child. i had know my current hubby for a little over a year when we got together. i got pregnant after we were together o for only 3 months. we have been married now for almost 2 years now and we have a 15 month old son and another one on the way.
2007-02-08 20:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partner and I have been together for 2 years now and were having our first one in april. I would've waited another year maybe 6 months first, just because I wanted to go and do those spectacular things some couples do like going to europe (I'm from canada) or going camping for long periods of times, but that's ok, were happy and willing to do that in a little while instead of right away.
2007-02-08 20:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I dont think you should care what is "socially acceptable"... only you two will know when your ready. Children as you already know are a blessing & I think you should go for it! Your child needs a brother or sister. Good luck.
2007-02-08 20:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine. Just make sure that you and your partner are ready for a child mentally and physically.
2007-02-08 20:24:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♥i WANNA KN0W♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is okay, a long as you two have the same mutual agreement. Just make sure that it is what you both want. As you know already, it is a big responsibility. Mom of seven
2007-02-08 20:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your partner think yous are ready then why not...Time goes by very fast so maybe if you are not 100% sure you should wait. Good things come to those who wait..Good Luck!
2007-02-08 20:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by K J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋