he just told me that he has a baby and he just find out himself from his ex..she was supposed to get a abortion but she never had got one..to be honest my feelins were hurt.we been going together for about 8 months.what should i do or tell about how i feel.
2007-02-08 11:54:12 · 12 answers · asked by lisa j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you cant be mad if he just found it! That isnt his fault! All you can do is move on and make it work! If it cant work walk away!
I mean i dont understand why your feelings would be hurt! If he was under the impression there was no baby and just found out how is that his fault??? Your agression is on the wrong person!
2007-02-08 11:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you know about his past? I mean, it's one thing if he had told you before about her and the pregnancy, but it's another if it's all of a sudden.
You've got no reason to be hurt if you knew about her before, because it was his ex's decision not to get an abortion. If he's all of a sudden coming clean, then yes you have a right to be hurt. It's up to youif he's worth working through the issues with his ex.
Keep in mind that if his ex just had this baby, that he slept with her about a month before he was with you. He has to have known while he was with you about this baby.
2007-02-08 19:59:12 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run run run run run as fast as you can, Mama it's only been eight months and your heart will heal quicker then if you stall longer- from experience its not easy but she will not go anywhere and if she kept it and told him its because she wants him, and she has an excuse, believe me that kid is just her means to him- You are to good for that situation and for God's Sake do no under any circumstances get pregnant you don't need a baby daddy, run run run run run run run run run run that is the best advice any one can give you. Call a girl friend and set up plans get busy and the busier you are the quicker you'll start dating again and forget all about that lost cause- that fact is, without being mean, he is worthless to you and that pain you feel know is minute to the pain you'll feel later. Thats his blood and he won't see her intentions because he is a man and they just don't think that much.
Good Luck
2007-02-08 20:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by MARIA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me say this to you, if you want to be with this person you have to first fine out is it worth the ex being in your relationship since there is a baby involve, and how far along is she if she is less than nine months that should tell you he has been with her, since he was with you, and if so you need to test the water to see if it is worth you going through this or not because she is alway going to be there.
2007-02-08 20:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Natural 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ppl really need to start putting their ages on this stuff. but n e way y the hell were u hurt?? this baby has nothing to do w/u. U shouldnt feel anything its his problem and it is also a good opprotunity to see what kind of man u are dating. does he take care of his responsibilites?? is he respectful to the mother of his child??? these things will pertain to any future relationship.
PS. 8 months is not nothing compared to the rest of your life
2007-02-08 20:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be angry a little then get over it. since your his girlfriend NOW. and he just found out about it so give him some time to cope and stuff. it would be pretty harsh if you yell at him or something. 8 months so far congrats. dont let this baby ruin the relationship. good luck.
2007-02-08 20:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by xkathiee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't tell you what you should do about this. My best advice sweetie is to talk to someone close to you (other than your boyfriend). Just remember its your decision whether or not you want to stay with him. No one on yahoo answers knows the situation better than you do. Good luck I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings, it's possible that things could work out better than you thought, whichever choice you decide.
2007-02-08 20:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by genuine♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Support him. He'll be very upset that it's upsetting you. He might still be in a state of shock where everything he says or do is meaningless. He's done nothing wrong and so you MUST be there for him when he wants you and to understand everything he does - good or bad.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 19:59:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAND BEHIND HIM AND PROMOTE A GOOD FATHER. NEVER COME BETWEEN THE CHILD AND YOUR BOYFRIEND. THE MORE YOU SUPPORT THEIR RELATIONSHIP THE BETTER YOURS WILL BE WITH HIM. DON'T BAD MOUTH THE GIRL EITHER. NO NEED TO HAVE YOUR FEELING HURT. HE IS WITH YOU NOT HER. P.S. THE GUY IS NOT A LOOSER BECAUSE HE GOT A GIRL PREGNANT. HE WOULD BE A LOOSER IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE IN HIS CHILDS LIFE.
2007-02-08 19:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ew
he is a loser
dump him
you shouldnt be involved with guys like this.
big mistake.
2007-02-08 19:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by brittany23454 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋