My friend is being forced into marrying someone she's not sure if she loves. This cannot be solved in a court or anything like that. She's only 16, and is under alot of pressure to marry him. I can't let her be misrible for the rest of her immortal life. Please, please help us!
2007-02-08 11:52:26 · 14 answers · asked by Princess of Fantasy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First off, she has no parents, so "parental consent" is not a factor. Second, she is not pregnent, and the very idea of that is treason. Third, I tried to explain that "leagality" is not an issue. Please, try to understand!
2007-02-08 12:10:59 · update #1
This relationship is not like a dating relationship. This is more of a "marry him becase there's going to be alot of trouble if you don't" sort of thing. My friend likes the supposed groom, and they have grown up in a brother-sister relationship.
2007-02-08 12:20:22 · update #2
And you should also know that he is 19, so the age differance is not the issue. The issue is duty over heart.
2007-02-08 12:21:59 · update #3
She has no gaurdian, as you would define it. She has lived since she was three in the care of the mother of the supposed groom. He is almost in love with her, but is accepting his duty to marry her.
2007-02-08 12:31:39 · update #4
She doesn't live in the United States. Where she lives, there aren't the same sort of laws. Her duty is to that country, not to the family of the groom.
2007-02-09 11:23:49 · update #5
What Jia K says is true, she was raised to be the perfect bride. We're not looking for "go tell the police" or "take the matter to court". We want an honest answer that will help her with the EMOTIONAL part of this crisis.
2007-02-11 01:15:09 · update #6
Why can't it be solved in court? Who is trying to force her? Is she in one of those compounds where they marry off the young women to old men because of religion? You really haven't given us enough information to help you two.
She needs to contact child services and report this. Being forced to get married at that age is abuse, in my opinion.
2007-02-08 12:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What country does she live in?
We really can't help you unless you give more details. Is she in an abusive relationship?
I don't know what that means. You are being very vague. Who is pressuring her to marry him? Is there some sort of mob involvement? Just tell us the whole story.
Just like others have said, she can't be forced to marry. If you think that she will be then tell one of her teachers or a counselor at school (if she attends). Unless this family adopted her she is a ward of the state, so it is responsible for what happens to her. Her legal guardian needs to be notified. She has to have one unless she was emancipated.
2007-02-08 11:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accepting that a whole different set of cultural rules are in play here my thoughts would be thus: If she "likes" him already and does not have some other man etched on her heart, than she would be OK to marry him. Trust me, I think all women should have a choice and say so on whom they marry, but for many this is not an option. The fact that she likes him and has grown up with him gives them a common ground for their love to grow from. The most enduring love tends to begin as friendship. Do you think that she will be miserable or has she stated to you that this would make her "miserable for the rest of her life"?
2007-02-14 09:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you think she is marrying him ut of duty just cos the grooms mom raised her??...hmmm its a tough one...
why are you saying legally nothing can be done when EVERYTHING can be done...unless the girl herself refuses.
depends on how mature the girl is...she has to make her own mind up...if she doesnt know what to do and doesnt want to contact the police then maybe she can get some counselling and this may open some doors for her that she never even expected?!
give it a try...what has she got to lose .... if she goes into this marriage without 100% sureity she will have a miserable life...
i have heard of this happen with a girl within my culture....and i would advise that if she has no guardian then the law is there to protect...she may say no because she doesnt want to tarnish their name but then she has to make the choice and settle with it.....just cos this woman raised her it doesnt mean she can force her into doing something so serious.....its emotional blackmail...im thinking the grooms mum only raised her for all these years with the intention of rearing her into the prefect bride for her son ...pretty sad :(
i hope things work out for her...just be there for her and be objective so she can have honest opinions from you....sometimes its difficult to make decisions because ur too deep in the scenario to see or make sense of things....
good luck to you both!
2007-02-08 12:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jia K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can make someone marry them. tell your friend this. if this person is scaring her in anyway into going through with the marriage they are breaking the law and should be in jail. be there for your friend and do not give up. talk to the authorities about this. your friend should not get married. do what you can to stop her from doing so, get her away from the guy and get her some help soon as you can. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-08 11:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has to have parental consent, you can always go to where she is getting married and tell the JOP why she shouldn't get married..Well the only other thing i suggest you do is ask her to go to the mall and take her to the juvenile authorities or the police and see what they can do the justice system will work if you let it.
2007-02-08 11:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off shes 16 WHO THE HELL WOULD MAKE HER MARRY SOMEONE! And my next question is why ? This is 2000 They dont make anyone marry anyone! She doesnt have to if she dont want to! Grow some guts and stand up to her parents and say no!
2007-02-08 11:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is her guardian now? Why does she have to marry him? I am not sure exactly how she can be forced, but no one should have to be with anyone they don't want to. Does she have anywhere she can go?
Who is telling her "marry him or else"? And how does he feel about the situation?
2007-02-08 12:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not have to marry him. No one can force her into it. She needs to stand up for herself. And no court will let her get married if shes being forced.
2007-02-08 15:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is she being "forced" into marriage? Here in the states it is illegal to force someone to marry against their will. All she has to do is notify Social Services.
2007-02-08 11:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋