I am 18 and my boy friend is 20. my dad was 20 and my mom was 18 when they started date, so why not let me? what can i say to get them to really listen?
2007-02-08 11:30:38 · 14 answers · asked by mc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they have not met him yet they act as if they don't care, but my boyfriend is the one who really wants to meet them.
2007-02-10 04:04:05 · update #1
If you live in their house, you live by their rules. If you move out, you can do anything you like. Maybe they learned from their mistakes, and are trying to keep you from making the same one. Put yourself in their shoes. (How can you have a boyfriend if you're not allowed to date? It doesn't work like that.)
2007-02-08 11:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regret.
Youth is wasted on the young.
You have the rest of your life to regret the screwups, but you dont regret it when you dont fubar. They want to take away regrets, fubars, and give you a life with less regret, less a sense of "I wasted it", and maybe a less bitter sense of "youth is wasted on the young".
You may regret fighting so hard. You get to live 80 years and you want now to make decisions that permanently change the next 60 of them. You dont know what those 60 years taste like, but they (your parents) have a better idea than you.
You really should do yourself this favor, and screw it up big and painful once while you are young, so you can live the next 60 years with a few tears, a little unstopping pain, and the humility to not spend the next 60 years making regrets. Break your heart in a way that it cant heal, and maybe you wont kill it off later on. Thats what you want to do.
2007-02-08 11:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're wiser now than they were then. Why not ask them? They might have learned something the hard way and don't want you to repeat their mistakes.
Also, try to be honest about your maturity level compared to theirs. An 18 year-old now is generally not as mature as an 18 year-old then. Finally, it might not be you at all - maybe it's your boyfriend.
Parents that take the time to be involved in the life of their 18 year-old will almost certainly take the time to explain their reasons to you. You really ought to have a sitdown with them.
2007-02-08 11:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by pmk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHy do no longer you start up via putting out with your acquaintances, like at a bowling rink, shaking rink, or the flicks. i'm somewhat previous. yet whilst i replaced into your age a gaggle of my friends went to the skating rink, and that i might skate with a woman I enjoyed. My mum and dad drove some human beings to the rink, and a couple of-3hrs later picked us up. boys and girls did no longer date in a automobile till sixteen. i'm undecided what the way it rather is now, with you young infants. good luck. P.S. do no longer positioned on a abdomen shirt in case you elect him to show you how to bypass.
2016-11-02 22:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny question. it sounds like they are sort of hypocritical....and it sounds like YOU are already dating him, no matter what your parents say. my parents allowed me to date a 20 yr old when i was 16. we are still together as well.....and when i asked my parents if i could, my dad said "well hell, i was 21 and dated a 15 yr old for 6 years so i guess its ok!" which is pretty cool (and funny). You are 18. You are a legal adult, you can do what you want.
2007-02-08 11:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your dad knows what is really going through a 20 year old guys head.
2007-02-08 11:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by tree daddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well no offense, but maybe they have reason to belive u might be immiture, if thats not the case im sorry. ur 18 and ur considered an adult by mostly everyone now, and by law. tell them how u feel, and that u belive ur ready, let them meet him, maybe they feel hes the wrong guy for u, ask them a few questions like do they not like him, or something along those lines
to see wat they say and based form their answer u will know wat to ask them next, good luck!!
2007-02-08 11:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by chell4evr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when talking 2 your parents, remember to not get overexcited. remain poised and calm-so they know that you're an adult and can be treated like one. Know what you're going to say....don't whine or scream. Tell them about the cute guy you know and explain why he's good bf material. Best of Luck!!!
2007-02-08 11:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Amber _rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are truly over 18 there is nothing you need to say to them. Let them know you are old enough to make your own decisions and thanks for the advice.
2007-02-08 11:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by kerry9477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To them you are still they're baby, you are not adult. Maybe they dont like the guy too or they don't want you to fall on the same mistake they had.
2007-02-08 11:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by rosemarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋