My mom is really mad at me and i don't now what to do? answer quickly PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I feel like my mom just wants me to do all her work. I got fed up with doing mothers work and I yelled at my sis and didn't clean up the kitchen after our snack even though hardly any of it was mine. I feel my mom takes atvatage of me being her oldest dauter. She is a stay at home mom and i feel as though she does nothing all day, then when i come home from a crazy day at school she just orders me to do things i feel she could of done while i was at school. Some times i just want to lay in my room and cry. Don't get me wrong i love my mom and she provides me with every thing a mother should. am i a brat for just wishing she would forgive me and move on???? please don't just say apologise i need to do more.
Help,
cindy

Answer 1

You are not wrong for feeling the way you do - that's just the growing pains of getting along with your parents. I think that you should talk to your mother and hammer out a chore schedule - one that the two of you agree is set once you agree to it. So that means that you have let's say five things that the two of you agree that only you do around the house to help, and she has to do other things. The chores that you two agree are yours are ONLY yours, so she can not yell at you for something that you don't have on your list. Let her know how much you love her and are willing to help out, but you can't do everything and it hurts you when she yells at you.

I don't think you have anything to apologise for unless you are yelling back at her. In that way, no one gets any kind of point across and the both of you hurt each others feelings. Try to stay calm and cool when she yells at you. Don't get caught up in a terrible argument.

Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 2

I went through a similar time with my mama when I was around 14-16 years old. I was the oldest, too, and all the cooking, laundry, taking care of my brother and sister, etc. fell to me because she drank a lot and wouldn't get out of the bed during the day. I resented the h e l l out of it. She would be mad at me all the time because I was resentful. In looking back on it now, I can say it made me a better mother to my own kids because I SURE knew how to clean the house etc. and I knew what NOT to do to my kids. You're not being a brat at all. It ISN'T fair for a mother to try and turn you into an adult before you're ready. She may very well be suffering from depression and just can't make herself do the "stuff". I know this sounds like a bummer answer, but you might just try staying out of her way for a while. It will blow over (the part about her being mad at you). Try catching her sometime when she's not in a "mood" and tell her how you feel. If that' s not an option, do try not to take it out on your sister (she can't help it either). I hope things do get better for you, hon.

Answer 3

Well as the first born and oldest there is always lots of resposiblty for been that. And your Mom is overdoing it a little though. But just whenever you get teh time just go to your room and don't cry jus sit there and be tahnkfull for everything you have. But you should every now and then try to talk with your MOm about how you feel. ANd if you need to chat just IM me or e-mail me anytime

Answer 4

Your age makes a difference in everything. If you don't like what she is asking you to do - come up with a list of things you can OFFER to do. And stick to it. Tell her "I don't really appreciate it when you make me clean up my sisters mess, but I would be willing to fold the laundry for you." Or something. Your mom does more than you realize. I remember thinking my parents had it made - all they did was work, and never had homework or anything! Now - a working mother of 2 - I need a wife, myself. It's a lot harder than you can imagine. Wait as long as you can! :) Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Obedience is better than sacrifice. You will understand that more as you grow, but I will give you something for now.

You will never be satisfied looking at the actions of others, even when they affect your life and are very close to you. Just continue to be the best you you can be including doing just as your Mom asks even if you are the only hard worker in your family. God will honor and reward that. Remain obedient.

Look on the brightside, at least you can come here to vent, my dear. Here is a song, I dedicate to you. Enjoy and stay a good girl. It really pays off in the futurehttp://search.music.yahoo.com/search/?m=video&p=unappreciated click "watch" Hope you enjoy.

Answer 6

Wow...take a deep breath. You are absolutely right to feel the way you do. BUT... Please put yourself in her shoes. She must be stressed out to be so strict on you. I do not think you need to apologize, but maybe try to remember how much she does for you that you take for granted. You will one day be out of her house and you'll realize she had SOME good qualities, but until then, try tothink of those qualities and ne nice. It'll all be over when you leave home.

If you show a little appreciation, even for the little things, she'll be more likely to show appreciation to you. Give her a hug.

Answer 7

I know how you feel really you should tell your mom that your sister also needs to share in the responsibilities,there were 6 of us and it seemed like i had to do everything, but look at it this way i grew up and can do several things doing things like that gives you responsibilities and your mom can count on you, so don't be so hard on your mom, when you get older you will look at it like yep i did it and got it done and my mom always could count on me..

Answer 8

I think we need a better picture of what's happening, Cindy. I've heard of psycho moms using the kids as a maidservice, but she may also be teaching you how to be a functioning adult. You may need to talk to a counselor to see if it's you or your mom that is being inappropriate.

Answer 9

No hun, you're just young. I didn't get along with my mom when I was in High School and younger, now we're best friends. Express your concerns to her. You're not at home all day, so you don't know how much she does. She's your mom, she may get mad at you, but no matter what she'll always love you, just as you'll love her.

Answer 10

she's probably trying to teach you to be responsible. she does a lot in the time that you're in school...and you being older, you need to mature faster than your sibs...tell her how you feel and see if there's common ground....maybe try to get your sis to clean up with you...and tell your mom that she needs to be responsible too. volunteer more too...if your mom sees that you're trying to help out you'll get your way more in doing other stuff. =)