i love him so much and he doesnt want to be with me anymore, but im finding it very hard and i miss him very much. It seems his already over me but ive given him 4 years of my life so i dont want to let go please help how do i move on, or should i just give him some space?
2007-02-08 11:24:13 · 9 answers · asked by carly m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the same possition, my boyfriend after 4 years left me and started goin on dates with someother girl. at first i called and cried and screamed at him but then i decided to let him go and did not call or even mention his name to his friends so when they said they saw me he wud ask what i said bout him and they wud say nothing... i put on a great show and had fun everywhere i went and if he was there i greeted with a smile and moved away for the rest of the night i didnt once even look his way he eventually missed me so much he changed for me... AND WE ARE NOW GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!!
2007-02-08 11:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your boyfriend? .. because it sounds as though he is now your "ex-boyfriend"!!
It's always tough to let go .. I'm assuming that you guys have talked things through and it has still come to this.
I have been through a very painful break-up ... there is no easy answer to it; but you must realise that it is over. You WILL find love again ... don't ever give up on that!!
You can give him all the space you want (and he needs) .. and if he has moved on, then you have only wasted time. Don't think about revenge either.. trying to play the "jelousy card" will not help.. move on... as soon as you feel that your heart will let you.
I'm sorry if some of this sounds harsh .. it's not meant to be... I'm an "incurable romantic" .. but I also know that you must seek out the true love of your life - and that person would not put you through this.
You will find the right person - just keep your eyes open ... and don't be afraid to take time to grieve the loss of this relationship ... it takes time to heal and to trust...
.. I wish you the very best of luck and love for your future. x
2007-02-08 20:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by tattooed.dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this as an opportunity to let your hair down, try some new things and generally enjoy yourself. You have given 4 years - take some "you time". Think of all the things you would like to do, perhaps things that you keep putting off... a hobby, a class, a club. Phone those old friends you haven't spoken to in years. You may well find your perspective changes and you're better off without him, but even if not your self-esteem will get a turbo-boost. I know it's tough, but turn the tables, put the effort in to turn this into something positive :-)
2007-02-08 19:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Reb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to except it, if u beg him you will only end up regretting it, you just need to mourn for your relationship for a while, listen to slushy music, cry and ache, talk about it with ur friends and then one day u will realise u have spent the day without thinking about him and eventually u will be able to think back about ur relationship with fond memories, its not a waste of 4 yrs,it was a learning process and part of your life. You will learn from it and meet someone else and fall in love again and maybe it will work out or maybe it wont, you will just live and get through what ever happens. Thats all any of us can do.
2007-02-08 20:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by Smiley_1714 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me also. What I did was ask him back, but this isn't the best way cause you are degrading yourself. I regret doing that. Right now were still together however, and I dont get the respect I deserve. He's thinking because I asked him back, I'm all over him and he's my life; he has the right to do whatever he wants. You should just move on and heal your broken heart before you move to the next guy.
2007-02-08 19:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by rosemarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, you've given him 4 years. Don't waste one more second of your precious life waiting for someone who doesn't want to be with you. It hurts for now but take it from a 45 year old woman, you will love again and it will be as sweet or sweeter than this love.
2007-02-08 19:33:19 · answer #6 · answered by Alecia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's hard-core. Things work out for a reason. If he doesn't "love" you back, it's not worth trying. Move on. He'll regret it because it's his loss. :) Cheer up!
2007-02-08 19:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by tougeu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to him and say " I was really hurt when you told me that you wanna break up but I guess we weren't supposed to be." Then just walk off and he'll be runnin' after u.
2007-02-08 19:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by Muna H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, but where are the problems exactly?
2007-02-08 19:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Chris cc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋