I already have 4 groomsmen and 4 bridesmaids and i told her she could be a flowergirl but 13 is to old for that.
I told her like 4 yrs ago that she could be in the wedding but come on who thinks about it that far back.
Someone plz help me figure a spot for her that will make her feel important too.
2007-02-08 11:19:28 · 46 answers · asked by tsurthang 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My sister is 13 years old and I am having her be a junior bridesmaid. She will be wearing the same dress as the other girls, but will not have a guy walking with her. You could also make her a candle lighter, reader, guest book attendent, personal attendent, or if she plays an instrument or sings that is a suggestion. I think the biggest thing for you to do is make sure she feels included in the activities (getting dressed, taking pictures, etc) then it really doesn't matter what title you gave her, but just that she was a part of the wedding.
2007-02-08 14:48:51 · answer #1 · answered by jessann421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jr. Bridesmaid...which means she may or may not have an escort and may or may not stand up with someone else (another jr bridesmaid). She can still drop rose pedals if you dont have a flower girl...usually she would carry a pomade (the round ball of flowers) and usually she wears a more grown up dress but not quite as grown up as the other girls. Her duties might include helping the maid of honor straighten or carry the train, helping younger children in the wedding party (if there is a flower girl or ring bearer), handing out programs for the wedding guests or handing out bubbles/flower pedals/birdseed...whatever it is you do at the end of the ceremony. I have also seen these girls hand out peace roses...which I think is sweet...during the sign of peace in church...they go get them and give them to the bride and groom so that the moms and grandmoms get them from the happy couple.....and the parents of the littlest members of the wedding party...including the jr bridesmaid also get a rose....if she is NOT going to be in the wedding party at all....let her bring a friend so she has someone to chat with/dance with (probably a best gf).....allow her to help pass out wedding cake, make an announement of the garter ceremony or other song, you could give her a special gift...like a picture of you and your new spouse wih a special invitation to come over some weekend in a few months and go to a movie (if it turns out to be an adult reception and she is out all together...) hope this helps.
2007-02-08 14:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about a junior bridesmaid? She could come after the flower girls and before the "senior" bridesmaids.
She could do a a reading during your service.
She could pass out the programs at the entrance of the church and make sure the guests sign the guest book at the reception. She could still have a special dress to coordinate with the wedding party. And, you could put her a the head table or with the bridesmaids.
I hope these ideas help.
2007-02-08 11:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd add a bridesmaid. I know it seems like too many women but its not that bad. Do you or your fiance have a male relative (friend's kid, something like that) who is around her age to pair her with? They don't have to be exactly the same age, but pairing her with an adult (except maybe her dad or somebody like that) would be strange and likely uncomfortable for her. She is old enough to be a bridesmaid and I think that any other job you give her (guest book, things like that)will seem as though you are not keeping your word. I assume that this is coming up because she wants to be in the wedding. If she doesn't care and its somebody else bringing up your promise, I'd give her a job that makes her part of the wedding but not necessarily in the wedding. Sorry, I don't have a good out for you. Congrats!
2007-02-08 11:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by pag2809 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Options:
- Read a passage at the ceremony
- Hand out the program books at the ceremony
- Junior Bridesmaid
2007-02-08 15:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by NoTurningBackNow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you promised her, you need to keep the promise. So the easiest solution is to add a 5th bridesmaid and find her groomsmen partner. I have to discourage you from trying to do something otherwise unless someone can think of a special, even more special than bridesmaid, position for her. Don't let her down. Add the 5th...
2007-02-08 13:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by mickeymouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a flower girl can be anyone who wants to be mostly in tradition it's between 5 thru 10 but 13 is good. But also you can make her an honorary bridesmaid or let her be the ring bearer.
2007-02-08 11:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is hard to place in a wedding but the only thing i can think of is for your cousin to walk after the flower girls go down the aisle but before the main bridemaids, she could walk down the aisle by herself but not as the maid of honor. I don't know what you would call that but I would make her dress different and still include her in the wedding as a "little" bridesmaid. It is your wedding you do what you want and keep your keep your promise
2007-02-08 11:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by cocoabutter1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jr. bridesmaids that is what i am going to do with all the 10 -14 yr olds in my family good luck
2007-02-08 17:27:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be an angel where her dress would be slightly different color and style from the bridesmaids. She would walk by herself after the bridesmaids. I've done that before it is really nice and I've also seen it happen. Some people call it "mini- brides".
2007-02-08 12:00:10 · answer #10 · answered by laurechery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋