i was sexualy asalted over 3 moths ago and i have thought about killing my self running away (which i did) and then i cut my self i am seeing a theripist about it b ut i still hurt and the court date is still a long time away what do i do
2007-02-08 11:13:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry. You must remember you did nothing wrong, you were the victim. No one has a right to do what was done to you.
Do you have any idea how brave it is for you to have pressed charges? It is tremendously brave, many people could not do it.
This is going to take everything you have to keep it together between now and the court date. You can do it. Look how far you have come now. Reaching out and continuing to talk to people is excellent therapy. Don't close up on those who love you. You need to just risk it all and tell your therapist how badly you hurt and feel. You are not at fault, you did nothing wrong. Keep saying that to yourself. Cutting is not the answer, only a temporary fix. Talk to your therapist. There is much more that can be done to help you with this and I don't mean hospitilization.
You are not nuts, just in tremendous pain. Please know there is someone out here that cares for you. Take care sweety.
2007-02-14 22:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by dcricket23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let people tell you that you will never get over it or that your life is ruined. You CAN and WILL recover - people do it every day. It pisses me to no end that people will allow you to think your life is somehow over due to the cruelty of another.
I was gang raped at 15 and had much to go thru and with out benefit of the law or any kinf of justice, not even another soul to talk to. I was able to eventually integrate the experience into my life and it now has it's place along with other sad and hurtful things. It did change me but did not ruin me nor does it cause me undue pain today.
Some say it's like an onion, you peel it off a layer at a time, working on the issues a little at a time. You can take a break from it when you need to and come back to it later.
It's a process, honey and takes time and patience with yourself and with the world. Put your feelings in a journal and you will begin to see, as you look back, just how far you have come.
2007-02-08 20:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a shame,nothing I can say lighten the darkness of your life.Nothing.Please don't harm yourself.Do you know killing yourself will let this monster go free.Live,get strong,so that when you have your day in court.Send him to hell for a long time.Your soul object now should justice.You owe this to some other young woman out there,to keep this predator off the streets.
Please get over this traumatic experience.Hopefully with time you'll fully recover and gain your self esteem.You deserve nothing less.Good Luck
2007-02-08 19:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being violated is a tough act to get over. However, why kill yourself? Usually there isn't much you can do except tell them to stop. Its the other person's fault so take it out on them in court.
Surround yourself with people who can help will make it easier to get better. You have nothing to be ashamed of so stop being so hard on yourself.
You definitely need some counselling or psychiatric help to deal with the emotional stuff. The more people who are helping you, the sooner you will feel good about yourself and the better your perspective on this incident will be.
2007-02-08 20:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by numb nuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one day at a time, this is most definitely a traumatic experience, but remember it was not your fault. As difficult as this is just take one day at a time, find something to be thankful for and get your papers, etc. together for the court date, be completely prepared so you can put this jerk behind bars where they belong. Hang in there, it will get better and keep confiding in your therapist.
2007-02-13 08:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by mystique133333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! how old are you? dont do anything that u will regret in the future. I mean what will cutting yourself do that will make u forget everything that has hapened in the past. Continue seeing ur therapist and talk 2 him about this whole situation.
2007-02-08 19:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by jOe RuLeS!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy fix. Seeing a therapist is probably the best thing for you. There are also sometime group discussions you can attend. It might help to know you're not alone and maybe even meet someone who can help you cope.
2007-02-08 19:22:14 · answer #7 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember it wasn't your fault, you're not the one who has something wrong with them--the person who did it does. it doesn't change your value as a person, nor as a woman. you had to go through a terrible thing, and you WILL be stronger for it.
good for you, that you are pressing charges and sought counselling. hang in there, it gets easier with time.
2007-02-08 19:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a heck of a thing to just get over?
i acknowledge your courage and heart and character in dealing with it.
even if others might try to dishonor you - i request you find ways to keep honoring yourself.
you are beautiful
2007-02-09 00:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by lowroad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a support group at your local hospital.
2007-02-08 19:22:34 · answer #10 · answered by mission_viejo_california 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋