He is completely uninterested and being a relatively new father I'm worried he's going to be the only kid in kindergarten in diapers. We've got potty treats and everytime he goes on the toilet (once every couple of weeks) he gets one but he has yet to go #2 on the toilet at all. Am I just being a worry wart?
2007-02-08 11:10:41 · 16 answers · asked by amokmania 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
they will not let him go to kindergarten without being toilet trained, three and a half it's going to be difficult, that's very late to train, you are going to have to work hard, number one get rid of the diapers or pull ups, use underwear and have lots of changes ready, consistency patience and about a week or 10 days and it will be done,
2007-02-08 11:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by melissa s 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well you are not a worry wart, you just have a son who wants to be in control. He will not be the only one in kinder though. I have an autistic seven year old who is not yet toilet trained and I am proud to say for the first time in three months he pooped in the potty.
I used to be a day care teacher and I have helped train many children with great success. I cannot go by my on son because he has many chalanges.
Here is what you do. first make the rule that until he learns to poop in the potty there will be no standing up. If he crys when you sit him down on the potty give him a treat just for sitting there and only keep him there a minute for a while. As he gets to where he is sitting and peeing treat him for the peeing only and make a big deal out of it. Take him every thirty minutes to an hour, and if he does not potty in the potty do not make a big fuss just let him be. Set a timer, and keep setting it up till you get to about seven minutes and this will allow him time to poop in the potty. Let him know that when the timer goes off he can get off the potty.
Now when he has his first poop in the potty make a really big deal out of it. Number one gets one treat so number two gets two treats. Be consistant, and be patient. Remind him that poop and pee goes in the potty, and also, one thing they have been doing with my son at school is making him shake out his on undies when he poops in them. So far it has not worked but it does work for a lot of children. Undies are best but not always practical while toilet training. So use undies at home and pullups out if you feel you need to. That should do it. Good luck.
OH and those of you that think he is training to late, the averaged age for a boy to be trained is 3 to four years old provided they don't have chalanges. Boys are very difficult to train. No one is perfect and no one has any right to judge because you do not know the whole story.
2007-02-08 21:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't go to kindergarten in diapers. He'll probably come around. The Potty Power video and some books can be very motivational. He may not come around. Mine did not, and after he turned four I just got rid of the pull-ups on a Sat. morning and said the diapers were gone. There were a few accidents, but he put it all together pretty quickly and went to school in underwear on Monday and everything was fine. Over the weekend, we kept a potty chart. Every time he went in the potty, he got a sticker. 20 stickers = something he wanted at the toy store. It made it fun, but I think the thing that really did it was that he believe the diapers were gone and decided he didn't want to wet or poop in his pants. By the way, he did poop in his underwear for about a week, but got past it. It was helpful to have the pediatrician talk to him a bit at his 4-year appt., so he thought it was her idea and not mine. You'll get there.
2007-02-08 19:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by numinous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is the same age ( I have 2 other boys that were trained by age 2 1/2) But this son of mine is difficult. I just recently started to try and train him again and I went and bought him some cartoon character underwear, some stickers and some fruit popsicles. The first 2 days he was uninterested and peed in his underwear and just about anywhere. Then just today, he has actually peed in the toilet all day long. He had one accident. I told him if he used the toilet I would be so proud, and give him 2 stickers for his chart. I let himpick out the sticker and put it on a piece of contruction paper hanging in the bathroom. Then I told him if he did it again later on, I would give him a popsicle. So he did. Then I did that about 2 more times with the popsicle and still am giving him stickers. He was so excited once he actually did it and started getting the rewards. BUT you have to be prepared to sit in the bathroom with him while he is trying to go. You may get impatient , but its worth it if you are serious about getting him trained. This morning. I also set a timer for every 15 minutes and told him that every time that timer went off it was potty time. He would jump up when he heard the timer and say potty time and actually run tothe toilet. You just have to try and make it interesting and fun. I think we finally made some progress today....Thank goodness. I know its frustrating.
2007-02-08 20:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really amazed at the number of rude responses.
My son is the same age, and we're battling the same thing. It's not that he doesn't know what to do, he just won't cooperate. And for anyone who would suggest that I'm being remiss in my parenting, we've been working on this for a year and half.
I've gradually taken away the crutches. I make him wear underwear when he's awake. He had a couple of accidents, then one day he just started peeing in the toilet.
Pooping is another story. I originally had the Pull-Ups where he could reach them, and he'd go put them on and poop then come to me to ask me for clean underwear! So I put them out of his reach. Now he just holds it, sometimes for 2 or more days at a time!
Don't worry about it! Keep working with him. Take him to the bathroom when you go. It's gross, but let him see the poop in the potty before you flush. If he's anything like my son, he'll put two and two together (no pun intended) and he'll probably just do it on his own before long.
I've never known of a single kid who went to kindergarten that wasn't potty-trained. He'll be all right.
2007-02-08 19:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
O.k. First of all... All these people keep saying that you waited to long and you should have done it sooner are making me mad... Every child is different. My daughter was not having anything to do with the potty until she was 2 1/2... I forced and bribed and nothing happened... She just one day said ok.. I'm a big girl now and that was it.. My 2nd child was worse... He wasn't potty trained until 3... Same with him... Bribed and pushed and nothing... I just finally took away all the diapers and pull ups and gave him the only choice of using the potty or going in his big boy undies... He tried just peeing and pooping in the undies for a little bit until he realized I was throwing them away instead of washing them.. He had spider man underwear, and that is his favorite hero...He didn't want me to throw them away and that was that.. Now I am "working" with my third child... Who is 3 also...We just started the no diaper rule... We will see... But anyways try the no diapers and the pull up rule and see if that helps... Good luck.. And by the way, he won't be able to go to kindergarten in diapers
2007-02-08 19:55:10 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a father of 4. I trained my 4 1/2 daughter and just have finished my 2 3/4 boy. Bribery works in conjunction with telling him that he won't go to cam/ kindergarten etc. You can use modeling by showing him how you pee standing up and aiming at cheerios etc. You have to sit him on the potty/toilet for as long as it takes for him to poop. It will be a boring day or so; plan to do it over a weekend.
2007-02-08 21:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ira L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of these responses are just so freakin' RUDE!!
You people don't even know the details as to WHY he's not potty trained! Chill out because we're not all perfect!
Ok so as for your question, just be patient and very persistant. try every 30 mins to sit him on the potty for about 5-10 mins and then of course as soon as he wakes up and goes to bed. Just be patient he'll get it. Boys are harder than girls anyways. If he messes in his underware take him strait to the potty and scold him a little bit and explain to him that he's to poopoo or peepee in the potty not in his underware. Oh and no diapers during the day only at night after you sit him on the potty.
Best of luck to you!! :-)
2007-02-08 20:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by La Chula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming he doesn't have any mental or physical problems that would prevent him from being able to learn to use the toilet.
Take away the crutch of the diaper or pullups and put him only in underpants. Take him in every 30 minutes to use the bathroom. Bribe him with something he really wants (we just got done with training our 3 1/2 year old to stay dry all night, it cost us a dollar per night and he earned $20, and now he's totally potty trained for days and nights).
2007-02-08 19:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont put diapers on him when you are at home and keep on asking him if he needs to go potty. try changing the treats to something different like giving him a sticker everytime he uses his potty and also make a really big deal about it. tell him how much of a big boy he is for using his potty
2007-02-08 19:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my grandson who is the same age, what really worked is a blank sheet on the wall and every time he went #1 he got to pick a sticker! And of course lots of praises! Within about 1 week he was also going #2. Now he just runs to the toilet, of course, announcing that is where he is going lol
2007-02-08 19:21:10 · answer #11 · answered by Linda M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋