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I have seen this guy around school. When I first walked passed him, I noticed at the corner of my eye that he was staring at me (my face, to be exact.) I looked back at him, and he did not avert his gaze. A couple of days later, I was walking with my friend and telling her about him, then suddenly, he walked passed us! My friend said, "THAT'S HIM?!" sort of loudly, so I'm guessing he probably heard us.

And now, whenever we walk pass each other, I noticed that he'd look straight ahead, then when we're a foot from each other, he'd glance at me for a couple of seconds, then look away. (I saw this at the corner of my eye)

Does he think I like and stalk him? (which I don't!)
Does he think I'm attractive?
What exactly is he thinking?
Next time, should I maintain eye contact and smile?

We don't know each other at all, if that helps.

2007-02-08 11:09:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

Rude answers aren't appreciated!

2007-02-08 11:13:58 · update #1

20 answers

The real question is what do you think of this guy? Do you want to date him?

He is interested in you and probably thinks you are attractive or he wouldn't stare at you so often. He probably wants to get to know you better and maybe even be your boyfriend. That is pretty clear.

Instead of just maintaining eye contact and smile, why don't you go up to him and start talking with him? If he is not interested then he will make it clear (and probably needs to have his head examined). More likely he will be interested and if he meets your ideas of a boy friend then you have got a very good chance of having him become one.

If he won't ask you out on a date, and you want to, then ask him. Make it subtle and low key, "Would you like to get together and study sometime?" "Would you like to eat lunch with me?" if you give the guy a clear signal that you are interested in him then he will show a similar sign. Men don't often have the deep and convoluted thinking that women have; we tend to be more direct.

Men also have a great fear of rejection and a tendency to not want to pressure women too much (at least the good ones do). If a woman asks them out then as long as she doesn't put them on the spot in front of a group of people, he will be pleased. Once you do that then you can let him take control, just make sure to signal him when you are ready to move on to the next step. Make it a clear and obvious signal, because men have a hard time figuring out what women really mean.

Another hint: Men are more goal oriented. To us a first kiss is special because it is a first kiss and a big part of the joy is in surviving the event. Women want their first time to be special, they are more interested in the relationship so they want it to develop and they want an event that they can look back to with caring (maybe even loving) feelings. So it is up to you to set that up. If you want your first kiss to be on your porch swing then do it. You don't have to go all the way, just go 80% and he will finish it. If you want your first kiss to be at your favorite dinner in the middle of your favorite song then do so. The guy will enjoy it and the circumstances may stick in his mind better, but often we don't think that way. If you set things up like this enough times then your man may get the idea (we aren't totally dense), but it is against our default thinking mode.

2007-02-08 11:27:34 · answer #1 · answered by Dan S 7 · 0 0

maybe he liked you at first. He just probably doesn't liked being talked about. You might have had turned him off. You can smile at him, there is nothing wrong with that. But you need not expect that he'd smile at you in return... always expect the worst so as not to get disappointed in the end. Just be yourself, Just give him a friendly smile, a smile friendly enough for him not to think that you like him, just enough to make him think you are not snobbish. Try to smile at everyone else so as not to make him think your smiling at him only. Somehow, he'll like you more. Just pretend you had not seen him before or that nothing like that happened before. do things like you always do them everyday before you noticed him. Trust me, I'm a guy... and I know every guy's weakness. good luck with school by the way!

2007-02-08 11:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by beruto 2 · 0 0

Well, I think that he likes you, but he's kind of shy about it. I guess that the thinks that you told your friend and is embarrassed about it. I can't tell you exactly what he's thinking. Just try and be nice to him and after a few days, or weeks, if his behavior in the hall doesn't change, then look at him and smile. If after a while, he is back to normal, then you should ask him his name or something. Be all smiley about it and he won't get scared or embarrassed. If he asks your name, then he's definately interested... or curious to say the least. Just give it some time...

2007-02-08 11:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by ~Geeks Will Rule The World~ 3 · 1 1

He is just shy, play coy with him. Guys like to think girls are not aware of there affections. Hearing a girl discussing his infatuation with a friend spooks him off. If you want some good advice, learn his name and be sure to say "hi____" it's pretty straitforeward and accompany it with a smile. I remember a hot girl use to say that to me all the time in school and that was like 3-4 years ago and I still remember so it definitely works.

2007-02-08 11:15:11 · answer #4 · answered by trigunmarksman 6 · 1 0

I think that he felt something for you, but was rather put off and shy because he found out you were tlaking about him to one of your friends, which guys don't like very much during schooling years.

Next time, you should make eye contact and try talking with him alone, so there will nto be anyone around who can distract either of you, your friends or his.

2007-02-08 11:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0 0

He doesn't think you stalk him that is the furthest thought from his mind but he probably thinks your hot and next time look at him and smile that is if you want to get to know him better

2007-02-08 11:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by whyus?? 3 · 0 0

As a guy, i would say he might be interested and he doesnt want you to know that he wants to look at you. If hes a good guy, next time look at him and smile, then see what happens from then.

2007-02-08 11:14:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

He probably finds you physically attractive but your friends has done you no favours. So because of that, you have to make the first move if you are single and you're interested in him.

2007-02-08 11:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

defnietly shoot him that smile! when I was in that school lovey phase of life, if I got a smile from the person I liked it lit my day up, and I couldn't help but throwing back a huge smile of my own =)

That should give you that information of wether he likes you or not...

2007-02-08 11:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

We're not the little guys who work inside his brain, So we can't really tell. He might though =0

2007-02-08 11:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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