What should i do?

Question

im a muslim and never converting and my friend and i have been friends for a couple of months we never talked about religion but once she brought it up so i told her i was muslim and then she gave me a dirty look and told me to convert to christianity or burn in hell so then she walked away the next day she gave me a bible and said i should convert on sunday i didnt take the bible from her and she hasnt talked to me since and started saying a bunch of roumors about me
so then i dont know what to do i dont want to talk to her but i dont want to be as low as her so what should i say to her

peace

i have studied many religions and still feel so happy with Islam not christianity but Islam

she the only friend i have that said that to me no wonder why nobody likes her i was just trying to be nice and a good friend

Answer 1

drop her

its as simple as this: if she cannot accept you for who you are then she is not a friend worth having.

even worse, if you dont see it, she insulted you by 1. saying "convert or burn in hell", 2. by gicing you a bible and 3. for implying that your religion is incorrect and hers is the correct one.

drop her a*s, call her an intolerant (*insert insult here*) and tell her never to talk to you again.

Answer 2

If she is a friend you feel is worth keeping (I don't think she is) then you really do need to sit down with her and talk it out and agree to disagree. But if she is a faithful churchgoer which I assume she is then she will be very close minded and never again open up to you for you have become the enemy. Unfortunately based on what you say she is deceived for true Christians would not act this way. She thinks she is a Christian but is nothing more than a religious fanatic the does not know God. I am a Christian and had a Muslim friend several years ago but we parted because he drank beer all the time. (a poor example of Islam and not of true faith I am sure). I also had a Muslim boss for about 3 years and though we disagreed we got along very good. he was a great man and did a lot for me in my career. We just accepted our differences of beliefs. I am afraid to say that you probably won't be as fortunate with this woman.

Just tell her simply that just because you both believe differently does not mean that you cannot still be friends and that you hope she will be able to get past that issue just as if you were of different races. Ask her if she would act this way if you were black, oriental, a Jew, etc. Make her realize her prejudices.

Best wishes in this matter.

Answer 3

Your friend is (I'm guessing) quite young and probably hasn't learned how to share what she believes in a sensitive way. I think what you say about not wanting to sink to her level is really wise.

Even though I know you don't want to and will find it hard, I suggest you do talk to her about it. Let her know that you felt hurt by what she said and about the rumours. If you think you can I'd also let her explain a bit about why she feels so strongly about Christianity people usually are much more likely to be a friend if you are willing to listen. Listening doesn't mean you have to agree :)

It might help you to realize that this friend probably cares about you if she wants you to become a christian. As a christian she believes that your choice of religion could mean suffering for eternity, so she cares about you enough to want to save you from that at least!

Often by understanding one anothers beliefs and world views it helps us to understand why they act the way they do. Just like when someone from a different culture joins your community or school, they often seem to act strange or do things that we wouldn't do. They aren't doing anything wrong, just have a different way of doing things where they come from.

Answer 4

Just tell her that everyone has different spiritual questions.

If the path of Islam answers your spiritual questions stay there. We can each honor the Creator no matter which path we are on.

If Islam is not answering your spiritual questions; then and only then should you ever consider converting to something else.

Wish her peace and tell her you will acknowledge the Creator the way you see fit, and she should acknowledge the Creator the way she sees fit. Then tell her that Judaism, Christianity, then Islam are all acknowledging the same God (The God of Abraham).

Unfortunately most Christians are not well versed in their owm religion, and they say all kinds of things against other religions that just isn't so. I remember hearing two Catholics that had very little enlightement.

1. said it was demon spawn from the pits of hell.

2. said Islam was not worshiping God that Mislims honor the Moon God of Arabia.

Do not worry about your friend. She probably doesn't know any better.

Answer 5

I had a friend in high school that we roomed together in collage. Towards the end of the first semester she told me I wasn't a Christian because I was a different religion then her.

I just let her go on her way and didn't attempt to talk to her. It took a while but, she came back and apologized to me for saying it. If she is a true friend she will realize that she was wrong for what she said. But, until then I would just leave it be. As for rumors you and those that know you know the truth, and that is what matters.

I applaud you for standing your ground and not giving into peer pressure!! Stooping to her leave would be giving in just as much as converting for what she said.

Answer 6

i wouldn't say anything to her, as a matter of fact i would stay away from her, such small minded people do not deserve your friendship.

as for the rumors, they will die down and go away. it may not feel like it right now, but they will. soon people will find some other tidbit of gossip and you will be yesterday's news.

do not sink to her level, even if it's tempting. by staying away from her you are taking the high road and not letting yourself get involved in something you may regret later. obviously her convictions are strong about christianity (even if her actions do not hold justice to her so called beliefs) and any arguing or debating would be fruitless. just trying to get your point across would be fruitless.

if she says anything to you, i would reply with, "well that is your belief, i have my beliefs, it's a free country let's agree to disagree." or something like that (that probably didn't sound very cool) think ahead and have your own response ready so you are not caught off guard. if she continues trying to accost you with her beliefs, repeat the same thing over in a different way: "i'm happy you believe that way, but i don't and i'm sorry that bothers you."

if you have to strike back, cuz you just can't take it....use her pride against her: "what would jesus say? would he act the way you are acting? pride is a sin." that sort of stuff.

Answer 7

Feel sorry for her and don't consider her a friend. Stay away from her. If you feel the need to say something to her maybe: "I understand that you are very devoted to your religion, as I am to mine. Telling someone they will burn in hell, giving them dirty looks and spreading rumours is not an effective way to attempt to convert someone to your religion."

Answer 8

you need to see the truth. The religion is "big Fake". If there is God, you have to ask him what is meaning of human existent. let tell you the fact, through out history of mankind, no one really contact God. All the so call the founder of religion, they are only the teacher. you can conclude their teaching as a philosophy. On their time they never say that they were God. sorry to say, the Muslim is biggest fake at all. On what ground did they present the truth. don't fellow them blindly. seek the truth. Ask God himself, is it really what he want?

if you have studied many religion, have you come to this site yet?

Answer 9

Well then she is not a friend. It's only the creator who has the right to judge us. These kind of people are the once who should take a second look to themselves. You don't need to explain anything to anyone. As long as your not stepping on someone else and not hurting anybody, you're in the right track...God Bless

Answer 10

That doesn't sound like a very good friend. A good friend (even if they wanted you to convert) would stay your friend anyway, and not spread false rumors like that.

I don't really think you need to talk to her, but if you do, just honestly say how she hurt your feelings.