I really don't know what to do. One part of me says to go ahead find a great guy and get married, so I will no longer fight this battle. I grew up in a christian home, and I am shocked that something like this would happen to me. I don't know whether its some sort of fantasy or whether I really want to be with another female. I don't want to let this one experience lead me to hell. In a way, I know I am condeming my own self, but I just can't deal with something of this magnitude. I have always had a sexual attraction for females, and believe it or not I have never dated a guy or had sex, and I am trying to maintain purity, but its difficult having a huge sexual attraction to women. Its weird bc I dont want a relationship with a woman, I just want to be with one sexually. What's up with me?
2007-02-08 11:08:09 · 10 answers · asked by bicuriouschic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe you need to have a sexual relationship with a female so that you can explore the depth of the feelings you are having. don't get married just to make this 'feeling' go away. marriage is commitment and if you are still curious about something or someone then i would say you aren't ready.
2007-02-08 11:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, let me tell you RIGHT NOW, marriage does not make you holy. Only Jesus can do that. I made the error of thinking that getting married would keep me from being tempted and giving into temptation. Let me tell you sister, that is being doubleminded and you being a believer, you know the Book of James says that we are unstable in all our ways if we are doubleminded, I don't mean about the bisexualilty, I mean about the wanting to do right, but being a human being with strong sexual desires you'd like to tame. Your experience will NOT lead you to hell, honey. AGAIN, Jesus and no one and nothing else can assure your salvation. Lots of women fantasize about being with another woman. If the desire is so strong, you have to find something bigger than yourself to devote your Romans 12:1 sacrifice to. I could talk to you about this so much, because I went through something similar, but to answer your question IN SHORT, NO ... marriage is going to do nothing but add guilt to the way you already naturally feel. You must deal with your feelings either way. Best wishes.
2007-02-08 19:14:59 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you're stated you're just curious. Getting married to a guy will probably not curb your sexual appetite for a woman. You need to go ahead and experience it and get on with your life. We all make mistakes, just after its all said and done confess your sins and never do it again. No matter how you look at it lusting is a sin too. Might as well go all the way and get it out your system.
2007-02-08 19:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? you just sound confused, women are beautiful creatures no doubt, it's natural to have these feelings... but if you are absolutely sure you don't want a relationship with a female then you are probably just curious, and don't rush into marriage just to avoid the subject, take your time and things will happen on it's own. focus more on yourself and what would really make you happy in the long run. whatever life brings you, choose the right path for you and you should be alright. good luck and god bless
2007-02-08 19:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mystery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a serious student of the Bible, then you already know the answer. You know God didn't create something to hate it (as he does homosexuality), so your attraction to the same sex is an impurity caused by Adam & Eve's rebelliousness. This is something you have to resist if you are to remain in good standing with God. What's more important to you- sexual gratification or salvation? It's up to you...
2007-02-08 19:15:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anomaly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of women are attracted to other women-it's not a big shock because God created us to be more beautiful(obviously.) I would suggest you pray about it and see what God has to say. Don't condemn yourself-the good thing is that you are aware of it. I would recommend some counseling for you. I believe it would help you sort through your confusion. It really helped me with issues I have with men.
2007-02-08 19:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by Psychgirl35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you are fine. i grew up in a christian home too and i know the pressure you put on yourself. i am a married woman with 3 kids, but i think we have all danced that line before. some women who are not bi- or gay still feel a sense of attraction to other women--some of us are irresistably sexy. i myself have fantasized about me and a woman and my man.
all i can say is... We were brought up that this is a sin..but are you going to be miserable on earth, just to not worry about going to hell? i say investigate your curiosity... try it with a female first--you will still be a "virgin".
2007-02-08 19:15:28 · answer #7 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal curiosity, you should try it out.
Even if you dont, getting married is definitely going to make it go away and it sounds like you havent even got a guy ready to marry you so if you chose to get married you'd probably rush inot somehting that wasnt right and it would end up badly.
2007-02-08 19:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called life. Not easy. Maybe you should experience a woman before committing to a guy.
2007-02-08 19:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and u only can make the right desion
2007-02-08 19:11:48 · answer #10 · answered by Party Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋