How do you get over your first love?

Question

you can answer this question Generally.. or specifically to my situation.. Whatever advice you can give would help immensely! (thanks in advance..) specifically this is what happened.. i fell in love with this guy after getting to know him Really well.. we talked Every day and night for hours on end and he said the absolute Cutest things to me.. i felt like i was the Only girl in the world. things were going great. and we only got to go on Two dates.. one weekend after another for two Great weeks. he held my hand a lot on the last one and gave a Really nice hug. i thought things were going good between us. then he still continued to text and/or talk on the phone every night after that.. and still said he liked me and all that stuff. but then 3 weeks after that i learned that he liked some other girl.. and had liked her for that past 3 weeks.. while continuing to still lead Me on. so basically would you say he played me? but i just cant figure out what went wrong..? did i do something?

THANKS so much to all the great answers!!! there are so many good ones! it means a lot! :)

Answer 1

I know that this is hard. How can some one treat you like your special, he likes you and all that jazz then like some other girl. While we'd like to say that all men are scum we can't be bitter. I guess some men just don't know what they want yet. He might have met you first but didn't know how to let you know it wasn't the same for him with out hurting you. While he though it was the best way shame on him. It is hard getting over some one like that. Your better than him and you deserve better. besides why would you want someone who wouldn't share his true feelings for you. You want some one to be as nuts for you as you are about him. I've been in the same boat. I know its hard but trust me it will come back to him in a bad way it always doesfor treating you bad. I gues you could say you were played and I don't think you did anything wrong if you were honest and true about your feelings. Forget about him and move on and some one perfect will fall into your lap. Good Luck

Answer 2

Sweetie -
Give yourself some credit.... he wasn't your first love....he was
your first crush and you had two WONDERFUL weeks with him.
It felt like you were falling in love because he made you feel SO SPECIAL.....you felt like you were on top of the world and you would never need to look for another guy, right?? Get use to it.
You are going to have many more heartbreaks, but the key is
to guard your heart. Dont give it away to fast. I know its easier said then done, but it will save you alot of heartache in the future.

Did you ever wonder why you only saw him twice?? Yah, a guy who REALLY likes you....isnt going to JUST call you or text you.....he is gonna want to see you IN PERSON....for lunch, for dinner, during the week, on the weekends. If he cant see you at least 2-3 days a week, or tell you why he can't see you, then watch out cuz
chances are its not good news.

Nothing went wrong. You liked a guy, you let your guard down
and you got hurt, but it isn't anything you did. REALLY.......
this guy just isn't worth your time cuz if he was then he would
KNOW that he just threw away a good thing.

Take a couple days to be sad.......you got played. It happens to the best of us, but then watch out world cuz you are a single girl again and some LUCKY guy is just waiting to see how wonderful you really are.

Answer 3

You did nothing wrong, you were just going to slow for him. He's not the guy for you. You will have several men in and out of your life. Trust me. You will. I'm 36 and even though I'm a male and you're a female, we're both humans and it's our nature to seek love. Love is strange, love is hard, love is also the best thing in the world. It's difficult because you have two different people who have two different minds and a man's mind develops differently than a woman's. Some are ready to settle down before others. This is where the heart breaks happen. But you know what?

The fastest way to get over your first love is to find your second. But, you will find him when you're not looking. You can go to one party after the other, wanting to hook up with a guy and you know what? The guys can sense when a woman is looking or pushing for a relationship. Most guys, think.... "what's wrong with this chick? Why is she so pressing for a relationship with me?" "Somethings not right with this chick"!

So here's what you do. Concentrate on making yourself look really attractive. Take care of your skin, use lotion every day! Don't over-do the make up. Smell clean and fresh always. And above all else, smile! Every time anyone looks at you, smile. That's all you have to do. Take care of yourself and smile. Your second love will be right around the corner.

Remember this. When you're talking with a guy you think is cute. If you are close to him, pay attention to his eyes. If he looks you in the eyes when you're talking, then looks down at your lips, he's fantisizing about kissing you. Right then, right there he wants to kiss you. So when he does this, send his mind soaring and lick your lips. Then just keep talking like you don't know what he's thinking.

Show a lot of neck. Wear your hair up, if it's long. Change your hair style by wearing hats and different things. If you have several different looks, you'll get all types of guys interested in you. Those guys that like long hair, when you wear it down. Those guys that like short hair when you have it up.

Line your lips with a dark color. This makes them look fuller. Large, full lips like Angelina Jolie are just plain sexy!

Love yourself, and be proud of who you are. Be confident, not conceided. Smile! I'm telling you, you will find another man and it won't take long. Just don't be so eager to find one. Let them find you!

Answer 4

Not to be rude but this that situation almost sounds like it took place in Jr. High. That's not to say that this kind of stuff does not happen to older people. The only cure for a broken heart would be TIME. Pick up the pieces and move on. What does not kill you WILL make you stronger.

Answer 5

When you read the revolutionary yet true book called 'The Rules' by Ellen and Sherrie (just Google it), you might understand much more. 'Why men love bitches' is also a very informative book.

You were simply too availible, and it's not your fault because that's the way nice and intelligent girls (mainly) are. But sometimes it just doesn't work with men... I STRONGLY recommend reading those books, especially the first one.

Best of luck and don't worry too much. I had it worse;)

Answer 6

I think he was just getting to know you and the other girl at the same time. I don't think he was being mean, just immature. You will get over him, it will be easier. I did get over my first love. Also I have met two soul mates. Life is good if you have faith,

Answer 7

That sounds like a dandy ole time but I have to let you know that is not love. When you experience your true first love you will know that this situation doesn't even compare.

Answer 8

youll never get over your first real love
but it doesnt sound like you really LOVED him
just move on
do the best you can

i think that youll find your real first love another time
sorry im not trying to upset you

Answer 9

No you did nothing wrong he was playing with you so don't worry it will come back to haunt him. He is not a true love.

Answer 10

get a second love if u wanan gt ova ur 1st 1! but there is a sayin that says ull always love ur 1st...