I am in a serious relationship but I have decided to join the Navy. He acts supportive but I know he has second thoughts about our relationship in terms of me being away. I completely understand though and I don't blame him, I'd have the same thoughts. However, I refuse to go on a "break", it's all or nothing. What are your opinions on my situation? Should I stay with him throughout the beginning or should we part ways?
2007-02-08 10:58:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
well it is hard to tell. Before that, I would like to thank you for joining the navy. =) Well I do not know what kind of job you will be doing. But relationships do end when people go to war. Mines ended already, not because of hate but more like "I can't wait for you anymore, I want to see you so bad" sort of thing also it was a serious relationship. If you are planning to get married or going to get engaged, I suggest you stay with him. If it is just a regular relationship, it is really up to you and him if you two promise to wait for each other when you get home.
navy deployment are long. my opinion is, break it up. It may hurt now, but it will benefit you and him later on in life. Maybe he will be able to achieve his goals and dreams without worrying that you might be cheating on him and vice versa.
I broke up with my gf 3 years ago ever since I was told that, I will be doing black operations in the navy seal, that means mission could stretch for days or months. No contact to my gf or my family during these time. So, I knew it was better to break up, instead of keeping her wait in her life, I wanted her to move on and achieve her dreams and goals. Hope it helps.
2007-02-08 17:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question and I will do the best to answer it well. Yes you should end the relationship. There will come a time during the course of duty when you might be overseas for months or years. This gets lonely and sooner or later both of you are going to have sex with someone else. It is natural. When you are done with the military you will not be the same person you were when you left. If for no other reason then as you grow into your 20s you always change and mature. If you are not together it will be like being with a stranger when you come back. I will not go into what can happen in the military and what you will see but it definitely opens the doors for some very radical changes. Be fair to him and to yourself and let it go. When you are done if there is still something there then restart the relationship as a new couple> Don't put him and yourself through lonely nights of wondering what is happening with each other. That being said there is so much you are going to see and do that is both good and bad. That is something you can share someday and I hope you get back together when it is all done I hope this helps you some.
2016-05-23 22:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok molly if you guys are both haveing second thoughts about your relationship when your going to the navy then the best thing to do is leave him.But if you are both willing to make a strong commitment and really love each other then i would stay together.Just ask yourselves do you really love her enough no matter what she does or where she goes your both willing to do anything to keep the relationship going if thats not a thought then you guys really dont need to be together.
2007-02-08 11:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by Nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part ways, this will be the easiest time to do it, start your new life with a clean slate. You will meet many many people from all over the US and the World.... be free/single for that, you won't regret it. Save yourself wondering if he is staying faithful while you are overseas or on the seas.
2007-02-08 11:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you join the services, I think it doesnt work out well with long distance relationships. They are hard and usual dont work out well at all, if you have doubts, its really not going to work out. Personally i think part ways, because its always harder, when you get the call or the email saying your over.
2007-02-08 12:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by brian l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I parted ways with my BF when I joined the Navy. It was the best decision for me. I truly started to live life when I was in the Navy, and a BF didn't have a place in my life then.
An old Boot camp saying, "If it wasn't issued to you, you don't need it."
2007-02-08 11:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That depends on how devoted you are to each other. You're going to be out and about with a group of 90% men, and he's going to be back in the states doing whatever he pleases. If you two feel that you can trust each other then go for it.
2007-02-08 11:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by promethius9594 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is in the cards then you will both stay together. If you walk away now you will never know if what you did was the correct move. Stay with it and see what occurs.
2007-02-08 11:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would break up with him if i were you, like you im joining the navy and if i had a girlfriend i would break up with her. I suggest breaking up with him to save yourelf from grief and so you can enjoy yourself in the navy
2007-02-08 11:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by thanatos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You're going to be bouncing all over the world. You aren't going to have time to worry about some whiny little pain in the *** back home. He will get over it and so will you.
2007-02-08 11:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋