Alright, first of all, I was at a party last weekend and through a series of confusing events (none were in my control) I ended up with a girlfriend. I had just met her that night. I never get to see her during school and I barely know her at all. All my friends are telling me to keep dating her, but I kind of like another girl (who just happens to ahve a boyfriend....). I am so confused. Any advice?
2007-02-08 10:49:49 · 31 answers · asked by timjames2011 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot one detail... the girl I do like (you know, the one with the boyfriend), keeps asking me who I like because she knows I don't really like my girlfriend, but she doesn't know I like her. What can I tell the girl I'm going out with?
2007-02-08 10:51:44 · update #1
There's no sense in being with someone you're not interested in. You need to break it off with her and move on. But at the same time...don't be a homewrecker and get in the way of this other girl and her current bfriend.
2007-02-08 10:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Rayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you are allowing other people to run your life. I can't imagine the situation where you could end up with a girlfriend that you had no control over. Take charge and make your own decisions. If you want to get out of the relationship, then do so. However, if the only reason you want out is that you want to continue pining for a girl who is taken, then that is sad. Besides, if you get to know your present girlfriend better, you may find that you want to stay with her.
2007-02-08 18:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
-laughs at the first answer-
Well, you're in a bit of a knot there. Does the girl with the boyfriend like you enough for you to tell her how you feel? Because she might not be kind about it.
If you don't like your girlfriend, then you should get out of the relationship as soon as possible because the longer you wait, the harder it's going to be to break up.
2007-02-08 18:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Wishie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay honey... firstly landin up with a girlfriend is rather confusing but its not fair for you or your girlfriend to continue the relationship if u dont like her like you should. In the long run it will only hurt more if u give her time to like you more and then dump her so... the sooner you do it the better. Its not fair to yourself to go againt how you feel either. So maybe say something like... " We never see each other and we started goin out under very odd circumstances. I am not really into a relationship right now, i think you a great chick and there is a guy out there that will be lucky to get you!!!" BE NICE!!!! she did nothing wrong!!! As for the girl you like... (A LITTLE SECRET) When a girl asks who you like she is hinting at something for herself or her friend. So either she has a thing for you or someone she knows likes you. BUT i think she likes you. Play it cool cos she has a man and you dont wanna disrespect him cos u wudnt wanna be disrespected now wud ya. Maybe just drop subtle hints like when she asks who u like say stuff like... she is in my school but has a boyfriend so i cant say right now, pay her a little more attention and when she is single and she asks you who u like say... "YOU" Hope i helped. Chin up. all will work out!!! Rather be single than with someone u dont really wanna be with.
2007-02-08 19:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should be Honest with her. I will admit it seem a little weird that you ended up with a girlfriend like that but the longer it lasts the harder it is going to be to break up. Now about the girl you really like, I think that you should tell her your not sure about who you like or that you don't really like anyone right now just so that you don't have her asking all the time but if you break up with your "GIRLFRIEND" unless she's an understanding person who wouldn't tell don't let her know your breaking up with her because you like someone else.
2007-02-08 18:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by ♥gabbygrl♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey don't be confused...It's simple. Just find the right time and place and tell her that you know she has a bf but you have to express your feelings to her. It is better to get a straightforward answer from her , than to just keep wondering about what to do. Girls really appreciate honest men but it doesn't mean that they like hearing the truth though sometimes. Good luck.
2007-02-08 19:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by cretan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just tell the girlfriend, that you will just like to be friends. No sense tying yourself up if you do not care for her like that. Now you know the girl that you like, has a friend, so you may not stand a chance their, So just be cool for a while, and keep your options open!
2007-02-08 18:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest, if you lie you will get yourself in a larger mess. Tell the girlfriend you are dating that you enjoy her company but would rather remain friends, the girl you like that has the boyfriend, tell her your real feelings and leave the ball in her court...with much success you may walk away with two awesome friends = ) Good LUck
2007-02-08 18:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by She Unlimited 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In all my years of dating, I can tell you that the best thing to do with respect to choosing who you want to date is to date who you want to. Dating someone because others want you to, SUCKS, even if she's a "babe", or she and everybody else thinks she is. For your own good, date ONLY who you want to date. To hell with the rest. As far as the girl you like asking you who you like, ask her why she wants to know, and don't give her one iota of an answer until you are completely satisfied with her answer. She's playing you for a sucker, and you'll pay the price for it if you're not sure what the variables, or "ifs, ands, and buts" are. God Bless you.
2007-02-08 19:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this relationship is not serious, or is it??? So if you don't like her just let her know, you are going to hurt her more if you stay with her. If you and the other girl like each other do something a bout it. But make sure you both want to. You don't want it to be a mistake.
2007-02-08 18:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by Yezmin Fernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋