What are your views on sex before marriage?

Question

How about your children (or future children) having sex before marriage?

Do you believe it's ok if you're going to get married soon?

(even if you don't have a religious affiliation)

Johnny, are you MARRIED yet?

Answer 1

My views on it? - It's a bad idea.

That comes from a combination of religious beliefs and some basic stats - like people who have sex before marriage are more likely to get divorced, etc.

Answer 2

Hey I guess it depends on how much of a follower are you. Normally I don't answer questions about religion, because it's a sensitive and personal matter. If you are a true follower of christianity, you have to act accordingly to the commandments. Do you live in justice? Are you wealthy or do you share with the poor?Do you honor your parents? Do you understand where I'm going with this? I was raised as a Christian, and I got married in a Christian church. But it's against God's will to use condoms, or something that prevents pregnancy or "kill the seed". The purpose in having sex is accordingly, to procreate: "go and multiply". So, Am I suppose to be pregnant every time me and my husband have sex? Of course not. I started to have sex with him when we were only dating, and then we got engaged, and now we are married with 3 kids. So, have I sinned? No, I don't think so, because love was there, and all the rest are rules from the dark ages. when there was no birth control, and sex out of wedlock would mean a child (bastard). I say go for it. You're getting married, so why not practice for a great honeymoon? ;) joking.. Good luck

Answer 3

I think it's a perfectly good idea to wait. there's no good reason to rush. i didn't wait. while i don't regret it, sometimes i wonder how different things would be if i had. a person should do what feels right for them after carefully considering all possibilities. If you're religous and decide not to wait, i'm sure it doesn't mean you have to give up your relationship with your higher power, but you might need to ask for forgiveness. I hope my baby decides to wait, but more importantly i want the guy she chooses to be worthy. As for getting married soon, honestly if you made it that far, i don't see the point in not wating until the big day.

Answer 4

I think as long as one is willing and ready for all the responsibilities that may arise having a sexual relationship that it is fine. Marriage is not a prerequisite for it and one doesn't even have to be close to marriage to have this type of relationship.

I have no children, but if I did I would feel the same about my children having sex before marriage.

Answer 5

I think it's silly to not have sex before marriage. Most of us who have had pre-marital sex can understand that there's such a thing as sexual compatibility. I shudder to think what life would be like if I had married my last ex. He was a decent enough boyfriend, but he wasn't very "helpful" in bed, let's say. To make matter's worse, he was so uptight about it, there was no talking about it, so that eliminated the possibility of working it out. If I'd decided to wait until marriage, that key difference probably wouldn't have come to light until it was too late.

Answer 6

I personally am not an advocate (at least for myself and my kids) because I think sex is best kept until after the relationship has become most stable, which is what marriage seems for me. It's an intensely emotional experience, and is a very strong bond-former, and you don't want to have that with just anyone.

I wouldn't really mind getting married soon, but I do want my career to be cemented before thinking about kids.

Answer 7

As far as I'm concerned, sex before marriage is fine between two consenting adults.

I don't have children, but I don't think children have any business having sex! Wait until you are an ADULT and can honestly say you have thought about answers to the following questions:

--How do you plan to protect yourself against STD's? (If you're not going to use condoms every time you have sex, then bzzt! you are NOT ready.)

--How are you going to protect yourself against an unwanted pregnancy?

--What would you do if you found out you were pregnant, or had gotten someone pregnant?

--What would you do if your relationship didn't work out? How would you handle it?

Answer 8

Well, you said,"before marriage," which suggests (I assume) that the couple in question intends to get married.

I see no problem with it.

We had pre-marital sex, and we've been together for almost 37 yrs. And no, I did not get her pregnant before we were married. We used contraception.

And that is what I would suggest to any couple in love, considering marriage.

Use contraception.

Peace.

Answer 9

It was awesome! I waited until I could find a person I trusted, respected, and cared about, not until I got married. (Of course, being bi and loving a woman, I *couldn't* marry one of my partners for a very long time, even though I loved her best and still do.)

I can't have kids (this is to do with uterine fibroids, which have nothing to do with STDs.) If I could, I'd tell them the same thing--find someone you could trust, respect, and care about. Say an informed yes or no. Don't let anyone pressure you one way or another.

Answer 10

All these Bible laws are to protect us. I believe that sex is God's gift to married people. We break and bend rules also in that department. And when we let our hormones to lead us,we can end up in miserable marriages with no real commitment.

God wants us to wait until married. But we are sinners and we fall short. : )